At the Centre for Coaching, we believe that every misstep is an opportunity for growth. We are delighted to share a simple yet powerful way to reframe mistakes with curiosity and openness.
Benjamin Zander, co-author of?The Art of Possibility, offers a quick yet powerful practice: whenever you make a mistake (or encounter the unexpected), exclaim?“How fascinating!”?while raising your arms up in the air! Instead of frustration or shame, this phrase sparks curiosity — what really happened, and what can you learn?
Reframing mistakes
When things go wrong, our first reaction is often embarrassment, frustration or fear. Declaring?“How fascinating!”?breaks the blame cycle and fosters a growth mindset. By viewing mistakes as opportunities, you stay open to improvement instead of dwelling on the error.
This approach can transform any interaction or relationship. When leaders or parents respond to errors with curiosity, everyone feels safer taking risks, experimenting, and sharing new ideas. It sets a positive tone where mistakes become catalysts for learning, not reasons for criticism.
Practice 2-3 times a day
We invite you to try this simple practice as you kick off 2025. The next time something goes awry, pause and say those two words –?“How fascinating!”?- while thrusting your arms in the air. Then reflect on what made this moment “fascinating”, what you learned, and how you might adjust/apply that lesson in the future. Some “fascinating” missteps may even lead to unexpected breakthroughs. Over time, you’ll train yourself and those around you to see challenges not as roadblocks, but as invitations to grow and explore.
Mistakes and surprises are inevitable — especially when we’re pushing ourselves toward new goals or tackling fresh challenges in a new year. By greeting each stumble with “How fascinating!” instead of retreating into blame or shame, we stay open and curious. We discover more, learn faster, and bring a more joyful, adventurous spirit to everything we do.
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