A Post on Grief ??
Grief doesn’t disappear with time—it changes shape.
Imagine your grief as a ball inside a box. The box has a pain button on one of its sides. When you first experience loss, the ball is large and constantly hits the button, triggering overwhelming feelings of sadness, anger, or hurt. It feels as if the pain is constant, with little relief.
As time passes, the ball gradually shrinks. It still moves around in the box, but it hits the pain button less often. Some days, the ball will bump into it hard, and you’ll feel as if you’ve been thrown back into the intensity of loss. On other days, the ball will roll around without hitting it at all.
The ball may never disappear, but as it becomes smaller, the moments of sharp pain become less frequent. Grief is unpredictable and personal, but understanding that it can shrink while still occasionally pressing on that pain can help us show ourselves more compassion.
If you’re going through grief or supporting someone who is, remember that the pain might be there, but over time, it becomes more manageable. ?? You're not alone, there is help.
Included is an image from Mel Dillon-Dohn demonstrating the Grief in Box Analogy made popular by Lauren Herschel
