Dealing with Little Annoyances of Life

Most of our life's pleasures comes from the collage of our many small-small joys.

Similarly, most of our stresses comes from accumulated little-little small irritants.

Many of these irritants [if they can be viewed objectively] – are insignificant.

But Accumulations of many small-little irritants [if not dealt-with properly] over a period of time leads to major disruptions and depressive emotional-being.

If we can learn* the art of – ignoring the small annoyances and the art of focusing on small-small everyday elations – we will have a blissful, peaceful, happy and contended existence.

On the other hand - We need to learn to live with few irritations – which are the immutable part of the game called life.

When stress* and anxiety* begin to control* your day-to-day life, it is the time to seek professional* help.

Habits of yours those irritate others - if left to fester can break down relationships, erode happiness, stagnate growth.

Minor irritations usually reach an exploding point if not sorted out.

You may not be able to change other people's behaviors - but you can certainly change your perspective and your reactions and reframe them to mean positive.

When ignorable incidents – starts bothering us and when we get caught in the negative overthinking mental/emotional state – it is a sure sign of our being depressed, requiring immediate attention and remedy.

I have given few common everyday occurrences – that singularly on their own normally should not disturb you [if they happen once in a blue moon].

But if from the following list many of them – make you feel upset, angry, go-off your handle, lose calm* and makes you tense – regularly - Then please take action right-away.

37 Everyday Irritants [includes both Major and Minor Ones] – add your very own personal irritants

1.   Blow-up with a family member/colleague

2.   Being denied a promotion at work

3.   Getting dressing-down for no fault of yours

4.   Snoring of our partner

5.   Messiness - Disorganized habits of partner – of leaving things scattered [if you are perfectionist – this is very-very big irritant]

6.   Road-rage [this in other countries may come under minor annoyances – BUT – in India it is major big irritant]

7.   Complete Empathy-less-ness of our partner and close family-members

8.   Infidelity in committed relationship

9.   When those habits that you loved in your partner during honey-moon period – starts making you mad

10. When others try to put you down, boss-over you or try to bull-doze you – and you are unable to respond* assertively*

11. Constant nagging by others

12. Blaming you for all their woes

13. Taking credit for your efforts without any acknowledgement

14. Doing wrong themselves and the making you responsible for it

15. Showing-off

16. Constant Boasting about themselves

17. Always trying to prove that they are right

18. Always expecting you to do as per their wishes

19. When you are made the designated[unofficially] – to do menial chores

20. When you talk with people and they don't remove headphones

21. When people throw away stuff that's yours without asking first

22. When people leave the used teabag in the sink instead of putting it in the rubbish bin."

23. When someone licks their finger before touching a piece of paper, they're going to hand you

24. When in the airline they simply try to cross you from window to isle seat without bothering to ask you

25. When the plane lands and everyone gets up and start taking their baggage from the bins – even though the plane is still moving

26. When you are talking and someone cuts you off in conversation

27. When people try to correct your spelling, grammar or any such thing instead of focusing on the matter

28. Cut you off in traffic at the last possible second before a turn, entryway, exit

29. Turning without using indicators

30. Driving on wrong lane + with full headlights on

31. Insistent Honking

32. Traffic jams

33. Kids not listening

34. Public rudeness

35. Buffering Video

36. Tangled Earphones

37. Long and Slow Queues

Being Upset About Little Things Usually Means There Are Big Things – we need to deal with on war-footing.

When and Why do we get irritated

1.   When we are stressed*

2.   When we are depressed*

3.   When we are upset* by something else

4.   When we are frustrated by something else

5.   When we have unrealistic expectations from others or ourselves

6.   When we Magnify* the problem*

7.   When we let the irrational take over and make ourselves furious

8.   When we give control to others – by being submissive* instead of being assertive

9.   When someone has taken advantage of us – and – in spite of knowing – we let them

10. When instead of taking responsibility – we blame others/situation

11. When we are trying to justify/prove that we are right – and it is not succeeding

12. When we are seeing things from only one perspective – that too unverified

13. When we are unable to face facts and reality – and insist on being ostrich

14. When we Quit or give in – against our wishes

15. When we jump to conclusions – without verifying the facts

16. Our irritation may mean that we have not understood ourselves fully

17. Many times, we are projecting what we can't accept about ourselves as the irritants triggered by others

18. Other people don’t cause our upset – we do it to ourselves

19. When we take Things Personally for no reason

20. When we stop taking care of ourselves*

21. We Take Life Too Seriously and make mountains out of molehills by overthinking and over-analysis

22. We are constantly worrying about the minor things

23. Uncertainty and change* bother us too much

24. We are afraid of being embarrassed and looking silly ourselves

25. We are afraid of being wrong and making mistakes

26. We constantly focus on threats rather than opportunities

50+ Ways on How to work on Handling Irritants in Our Life - for full read "Don't Let the Little Irritants of Life Get You Down" in the DIY Blog Section from the heart of Subhashis - of Success Unlimited Mantra