Control your tongue. Seriously. Start saying “yes, if” instead of no. Yes if = telling people the reality of what needs to happen in order to make large events happen. Let me explain. Nobody is missing a wedding or funeral of a close relative - everyone understands that commitment will take you out of work. Some people don’t understand why you prioritize a date night over work. Or Work over a date night with your life partners. So instead of saying no, explain what it would take to make their ask into a yes by saying “Yes, if….” Many times when people get a glimpse at what you are working with it will help them understand. This will also reduce the struggle you currently have of saying “yes” to every ask.

Working in construction is often demanding. Sometimes, when placing concrete on the structure, you have to stay until the next day. The same goes for medical residents, who sometimes have to stay very long hours. Why do we do it? Responsibility or is it passion? Is it an obligation or a commitment? The truth is that we do it. Leaders are usually like this, and they fight despite their own lives, without realizing that personal life is part of leadership, it is a commitment and an obligation of their own. Sometimes we forget. When work is declared as a way of life, things tend to happen. We have to take charge of personal well-being.

It is a popular saying, "You cannot pour from an empty cup." Everyone needs time to rest and be re-energized, especially leaders who have to be responsible for others. While work is important, personal time is also important. You need to eat right, exercise, get enough sleep, engage in social activities outside work and plan for your future. From time to time, you need physical, mental and even social breaks. Try delegating and supervising more as opposed to trying to do everything yourself. Also try to block personal time slots in your schedule. You shouldn't feel guilty about this.

Balancing work and personal time as a leader requires intentionality. Start by defining your priorities—both professional and personal. Set clear boundaries by scheduling non-negotiable personal time in your calendar, just like work meetings. Communicate these boundaries respectfully with your team, leading by example to create a culture that values balance. Delegate tasks and empower your team to take ownership, ensuring you're not overburdened. Use technology wisely—set limits on after-hours communication. Finally, hold yourself accountable by reflecting regularly and adjusting as needed. Balance is a continuous effort, but clear boundaries will help you sustain both your leadership and well-being.