Your colleague is dealing with imposter syndrome. How can you offer them the support they need?
Ever navigated a colleague through self-doubt? Share your strategies for supporting peers facing imposter syndrome.
Your colleague is dealing with imposter syndrome. How can you offer them the support they need?
Ever navigated a colleague through self-doubt? Share your strategies for supporting peers facing imposter syndrome.
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Recently, I was invited to join a media roundtable with high-ranking Warrant Officers and our Commanding General. As we prepped for the event, I quickly realized I was the only one who hadn’t participated in something like this before. Cue the imposter syndrome—self-doubt crept in, questioning whether I really belonged in the room. The night before, instead of letting that anxiety spiral, I decided to lean on the very strategies I coach others on reframing negative thoughts, focusing on my strengths, and grounding myself in preparation. I reminded myself, "I’m not just a coach—I’m living proof these strategies work." The next day, the roundtable went off without a hitch. Imposter syndrome doesn’t define our abilities—our actions do.
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Our imposter syndrome is like an inner critic that tells us we're not good enough. It can happen to almost anyone from time to time. It's important to highlight that NO ONE is ever at a 'point in life' by accident. I'd try to: - Identity causes and roots of the syndrome to find suitable fixes, while acknowledging their fears and concerns - Point out their accomplishments and strengths - Let them know that they're not alone - Guide them to harness their inner leader(s) to overcome their critic Ironically, the more achievement-oriented you are, the higher chance you will encounter imposter syndrome. Shift your perspectives on success and perfection. "You only have peace when you make it with yourself." - Mitch Albom
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When a colleague is facing imposter syndrome, the first step is to help them recognize the experience for what it is—an internalized belief of inadequacy. By acknowledging this, they can begin to separate self-doubt from reality. I then guide them in reconnecting with their core values and purpose, as this realignment often reinforces their sense of self-worth. If they struggle with this connection, revisiting past achievements and offering my own genuine acknowledgment of their contributions can remind them of their true capabilities.
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There are three misconceptions about “imposter syndrome”: -It sounds like a disease that you should not be having. I think it is actually your friend who saves you from being too confident in your abilities, it gives you an opportunity to try harder. - Only people who lack confidence have it. Research suggests that women and high achievers have it. High achievers (male or female energy) always show up as super confident and chill. Well, they suffer in silence. - It’s only you that have it; everyone else is super knowledgeable and capable. I’d say people who insist they never had it, probs have it most and are in denial. You are not alone. No matter what you can or cannot do, you are worthy as you are.
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If a colleague is struggling with imposter syndrome, try reminding them of the things they're good at. Offer a different perspective than what's in their head, a voice of "I can" and "I am" rather than "I'm not good enough." Consider guiding them in a growth mimdset and sharing your own struggles to empathize. A bit of personalized encouragement can go a long way!