Your clients have conflicting goals in coaching sessions. How can you ensure they feel heard and valued?

To have conflicting goals is actually an open mind. The client is working on what works and contemplating different possibilities. Listening in actively without any judgement would help them find that safe space they need to explore their options. A client who thinks is a client who is working on himself and his situation

Active listening helps build trust and understanding between the coach and the client. Hence it's vital to incorporate active listening while communicating with the client.

I will work with my client to gain some clarity around their conflicting goals, by sharing how I have understood them- by paraphrasing and repeating what they have said, to ensure that they are well heard and understood. We will then unpack the conflicting goals using some powerful coaching questions to bring clarity through and work with them to decide which goals would be best to focus on, for optimum results.

n coaching sessions with conflicting goals, ensure clients feel heard and valued by: Active Listening: Show empathy and paraphrase their concerns. Neutral Facilitation: Stay neutral and acknowledge all viewpoints. Safe Space: Create a respectful environment for open expression. Common Ground: Find shared goals to build unity. Prioritize and Compromise: Help prioritize goals and explore compromises. Structured Framework: Use models like SWOT or SMART goals to organize discussions. Continuous Feedback: Regularly check in and adapt based on feedback. Conflict Resolution Techniques: Use mediation and empathy-building exercises. This approach helps manage conflicts and ensures all clients feel valued.

Really listening with presence is key, and what I've found is if you can distill a long stream of consciousness into a concise sound byte, you can bring a lot of clarity. Start with, "What I heard you say is..." And then ask,"Is that accurate?" They often will then further clarify their own thinking in the follow up. And if done well they will feel heard and be grateful for the concise feedback of their thought process.

Validation is the act of acknowledging and accepting a person's thoughts and feelings as legitimate and understandable. When clients feel validated, they are more likely to open up and engage in the coaching process fully. Validating emotions is important because it helps build trust and rapport with your clients. Additionally, validating emotions can help clients feel more confident in their own abilities and decisions, leading to a more productive coaching relationship. Practice active listening by giving your full attention to your clients and reflecting back what they are saying. Show empathy towards your clients by expressing understanding and compassion for their experiences.

It's really important to acknowledge the emotions because emotions need to be addressed and any negative emotion can get in the way of getting the desired results.

Looking back to my early days of functioning as a supervisor, I can honestly say I did not know how to validate another's emotions where conflicting goals became apparent. Exposing myself to focused trainings over the years helped me to develop the skill of employing empathy where needed. We all want to be heard. I find that when, in my role as an executive leader, when I begin with the phrase, "help me understand...," that it seems to set the person I'm engaged in discussion with at-ease. Coupled with this approach, is the maintaining of a tone that equals the level of human kindness I wish to convey in my words and body language. It has proven to be effective thus far.

Parfois il peut être compliqué et difficile pour la personne de mettre des mots sur une émotion. De ce fait il para?t plus important de demander ce que la personne ressens à l intérieur en utilisant le vakog

A todos mis clientes les digo que las emociones son N, N, N naturales, normales y necesarias. Las emociones son lo más primitivo que tiene el ser humano.

The goals might seem conflicting on the surface. I would invite my client explore deeper in the goals & the importance of each, and also any linkages of the goals. This will eventually bring out the deeper meanings, values and motivations of the client as a whole person. In fact I am excited when my clients bring different goals into coaching.

When clients have conflicting goals in coaching sessions, ensure they feel heard and valued by exploring their goals deeply. Start by actively listening to each client's aspirations, concerns, and motivations without judgment. Facilitate a collaborative discussion where each client can express their perspective and priorities. Encourage mutual understanding by highlighting commonalities and potential synergies between their goals. Use reflective questioning to help clients clarify and align their objectives, fostering a sense of partnership and respect. This approach not only makes each client feel valued but also promotes a cohesive path forward.

It's important to know the source of motivation for the goals that the clients are looking towards. Their will be goals that have heavier weights and are higher priorities than others. At first glance, the client may not know which goals are higher priority, but through discussion and exploration, we can help the client realize that they actually do have goals that are higher priority than others.

The thing that’s important here is what the client FEELS. Their feelings are valid, ALWAYS. Helping them to tune into their body and hear what it’s saying is a total game changer, and when you gently lead the client into the wisdom of their body everything changes. And of course when I do this in a group setting everyone feels heard and valued because they feel safe to hear what their body is telling them ?

The power of questioning and open questions is so important in this stage. Clients may not believe in their own creativity, but through creative questioning, we can help shine a light on the creativity that each individual has inside themselves. It's important not to label solutions as unrealistic in this stage. The client will be able to tell which solutions are achievable and which are not, given time and in depth questioning/listening.

Voici ce que je constate dans ma pratique quotidienne auprès de mes clientes et clients. En utilisant la Numérologie Stratégique?, j'aide mes clientes et clients à clarifier et hiérarchiser leurs objectifs grace à mon étude de leur profil numérologique. Cette approche personnalisée révèle leurs talents innés et obstacles internes, permettant de prioriser les objectifs alignés avec leur véritable personnalité. Ainsi, mes clientes et clients se sentent entendus et valorisés et peuvent atteindre leurs objectifs prioritaires de manière efficace et authentique.

Behind every goal is a feeling the goal setter is hoping to experience. A state of wellbeing you might say. Helping them to look past the outer goal to establish what that preferred feeling is, helps provide a clear path to prioritising what order to pursue goals in. Sometimes it even eradicates and replaces the original goals altogether for more aligned and appropriate alternatives. We must always look at what's driving a desire, to better understand the client's core values and beliefs.

Dans mes accompagnements les personnes apprécient le soutien continue car il y a souvent des doutes ou des moments difficiles et savoir qu elles peuvent en discuter les aide énormément

Let your client know that it's ok if their goals are conflicting and ensure them that you'll try to figure it out together. Most goals can actually be accomplished if you try hard enough. Also, it depends on what the conflict is.

*What are the client’s values? This may immediately prioritise goals. *Whose goals are they? (Eg inherited expectations) *Are the goals coming from head or heart/body? Can check body’s response to each option. *What’s their Why? What are they looking to gain by achieving each goal? From there you can look at underlying beliefs, thoughts/self-talk, feelings, emotions and address these.

Everything in the client's mind exists for good reasons and with deep connections, even if they seem contradictory when I look at them from the outside. Remembering that these are the client's goals, not mine, I will mirror and share my observations with the client so that they can recognise them and feel the freedom to drive the discovery and own the outcome. Whatever comes outs would be a unique value for the clients.

Herein comes the power of questions! We usually are really bad at estimating. A question that I usually ask my clients is "When you say ‘Yes’ to something, what are you saying ‘No’ to?" This helps identify conflicts and set real priorities. It helps snap out of the "doing-it-all-at-once" tendency!

Como Stephen R. Covey ensinou, "Ouvir com empatia é uma das maiores necessidades humanas." Para garantir que clientes com objetivos conflitantes se sintam ouvidos e valorizados em sess?es de coaching, é essencial dedicar tempo individual a cada um, ouvindo ativamente suas preocupa??es e objetivos. Reconhe?a e valide suas perspectivas sem julgamento, mostrando que você compreende a importancia de suas metas. Facilite discuss?es que permitam a explora??o de objetivos comuns ou complementares, e quando os objetivos forem genuinamente divergentes, ajude-os a priorizar ou a encontrar compromissos que respeitem os desejos de cada um. Assim, cada cliente sentirá que suas necessidades s?o importantes e est?o sendo atendidas.