What do you do if your network of peers fails to provide guidance and support in times of failure?

I will not hold it against them. There may be reasons why they could not at that point in time, so I′d give them the benefit of doubt that they maybe as lost as I am and would rather hold their peace in the stead of giving a wrong advice and further complicating the issue. However, I would seek answers from other sources or people who′d overcome similar situations. There are various motivational sources. If the situation is very serious, I create poetry out of it in my journal, feel better and then move on.

What I would first do is to be nice to myself. I’ve to accept my failures and handle all emotions & feelings properly without accusing myself as failures can’t define who I am. I failed because I tried to succeed. Most importantly, failing is not an end and is not an indication that we have to give up our journey. Therefore, knowing that in every failure, there are good mistakes that teach and prepare me move forward in my next trials. So, I’ve to sit down and deal with what went wrong and what turned out to be good during my failure.

While leveraging on all aspects that I did so good, I have to workout in all main gaps which I strongly associate them as root causes for my failure—that could be lack of skills, knowledge, mindset, people, process, resources or expectations…Since I may not be able to rectify all my gaps all at once, I have to tick out the big mistakes( 20/80 Pareto principle is useful here). Plus, commitment to continually learn and know what’s required to succeed in my niche is proven way to avoid failure and keep us in track of trying to do things right! 2/2

When you expose how you did an action, even when your are sure that was the good decision or action to be taken, always ask your interlocutor: “what are your feelings about this ?” Maybe you will have no new ideas, but you open yourself to receive advises ou another point of view that you couldn’t get before because you were inside the situation. Analyzing from outside sometimes give the key to the improvement.

In my first year, out of almost 5, I joined Women at Work so I could meet people outside of my department and learn more about the company. This group was also a sound board. We talked about our challenges as a group and sometimes one on one. I had a few people in my department that I could count on for support. You start to see who is experiencing the same issues or concerns as you and you become each other’s confidant. The unfortunate side of things is that when the lead person or Manager isn’t on board with the benefits, activities or tools that the company has provided, it is hard to take that time away from your work to better yourself or get the support you need.

These is never any shame to ask advises to people that are pro in their specialities. On the way of own capacities improvement vision, you must identify your weaknesses but also who you identify as a game changer in that specific domain and absorb his capabilities