What do you do if your clients lack assertiveness and confidence?

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Very often my clients lack of confidence has been built of during many years, often since childhood. Here, it’s a very delicate subject to discuss, thereof the psychological safety is very important to establish first of all! And also to let them know that it’s not their fault, as they tend to blame themselves which brings them down even more.

When clients lack assertiveness and confidence, I prioritize creating a supportive environment where they feel safe to explore and grow. I employ active listening to understand their concerns and fears, then collaboratively develop strategies to bolster their self-esteem. Through coaching, examples, and constructive feedback, I empower them to articulate their needs and assert boundaries effectively. Encouraging small victories and celebrating progress fosters a positive mindset. Additionally, I recommend resources like workshops or literature to further enhance their confidence. Ultimately, my goal is to cultivate self-assurance and empower clients to navigate challenges with resilience and conviction.

Confidence is a personal journey and it can come and go in waves depending on where you are in your journey of expansion or even that day. You confidence can plummet by something someone says or has said to you in the past that you then regurgitate to dismantle your own self-belief I help clients recognise and see the powerful work they do and the difference it makes to the clients they work with. It's about self-recognition, nourishing your thoughts and beliefs about the truth of who you really are. Small, daily steps that make a big difference. Read your client success stories, list all the amazing things you've achieved in your life, tell yourself everyday how good you are. It's an inside job that transforms your business and life.

True confidence, the authentic kind is the one we all want, so we can become assertive and take action when appropriate. Our level of confidence rests to the 'evidence' we have inside of us of our own competency and skill in any given moment and environment, so our confidence fluctuates accordingly. This is all subjective, and this confidence and competency 'evidence' is built upon how you store and perceive past events, what you believe to be true and how you heard criticisms, for example, contribute to the evidence you have. Simply resolving these, rapidly transforms your behavior and your confidence. These can be simple to resolve! Root causes just means the casue to the effect and does not require a long time!

After knowing the why's and when's the most important step is to be observing of underlying thoughts-emotions patterns which will allow them to understand what are they lacking and how they can tackle the different situations remembering that it will only be a matter of practice.

To get more confident, I have also found that exploring and talk about areas where they already are strong and confident is really valuable. This makes them remember that they actually can have confidence during some circumstances, and then it also easier to see what’s missing in the areas they lack confidence!

The most important factor here is whether the client has identified that they want to work on assertiveness and confidence. Coaching isn't about what *I* think the client should do, it's about what they want to be/do/have, and having a conversation to establish how to bridge that gap. IF (big if) they do want to work on these areas, then make it about how they feel right now versus how they want to be feeling at the next session. What's the smallest step they can take between now and then to make progress?

While role-playing in coaching provides a safe space for clients to experiment without consequences, building real confidence comes from practising assertiveness in real-world situations. This is where helping clients to adopt growth mindset with coaching becomes crucial. By encouraging clients to embrace challenges and view setbacks as learning opportunities, coaching can empower them to keep trying and ultimately gain confidence through practical experience.

One thing I’ve found helpful is helping my client foster self-confident with positive reinforcement. By regularly commending their accomplishments and encouraging them to celebrate milestones and acknowledge their growth, nurturing their confidence.