How can you use active listening to support peers in romantic relationships?

People want to be heard when they are in relationships. They want to know their partner/friend/associate is actually listening to them and considering how they feel, so conveying and understanding emotions in a healthy way is key to having a successful long term relationship.

One of our deepest psychological needs is "being heard and to be understood". And the greatest gift we could offer someone going through conflict is "Presence". Active Listening, what I call "Mindful Listening" is where we bring our presence to a conversation, creating a safe space for others to open up without fear of judgment or repercussions. Therefore, Active Listening (Mindful Listening) begins with us, bringing intention and presence to be of help in the conversation.

- Vulnerable Transparency - Technology without locks, or shared passwords - The word "no" or an honest respectful disagreement (Having a disagreement, or sharing an honest "no," is a strong trust builder because the person learns from your respectfully informed disagreement, that you would not lie to them, though you care about them; it also adds value to their opinion or requests when you do agree with them.)

To have a successful long term relationship there’s no other way left except becoming an active listener. Because if somebody wants to solve the conflicts having in his relationship then he should focus on his partners words & for this listening actively is the only option so that there’s no misunderstanding or confusion works. If so happens one can solve it easily with this.

We've all been that friend that just knows their friend is in a relationship that's bad for them. And the friend probably knows that too! What they don't need is judgment or to be told what to do. What they do need is a patient, present, compassionate ear. Reflect back what you've heard to them; sometimes hearing someone else say the things they've said aloud can change the way they hear it. Ask questions about their ideal outcome. Validate their feelings and how hard the problem must be. Ask them what's holding them back from taking that next step. Your friend will feel heard and more empowered to make decisions.

I disagree with not judging. Every one judges. Judgement today is called a wrong reponse, but every listener should judge in order to have a correct reponse. Without knowing what is right or wrrong in a relationship means you are to immature for any relationship. Sometimes the reponse should be only to listen with compassion but that requires judging the emotions and the actions of the one speaking. If we are not judging what is wrong or right we will never have a accurate reponse. Example: If some has lied to us, we need to ask them why they lied, and not ignore that they did. Holding people accountable for their actions proves you care about them and yourself too.

Active listening plays a key role when it comes to listening to peers in romantic relationships. People in romantic relationships can be experiencing positive/negative/challenging situations When your peer is talking about a positive experience express yourself - How happy I am for you two. If the peer is sharing about a challenge, empathize with words like you're going through a tough time. I'm here for you if you need to talk. If the friend is frustrated, don't advise or be biased. Empathize and say - I can understand why you're feeling that way. It must be really difficult. The intention must be to make them feel better by being authentic. The goal of active listening is to support, help them feel heard and understood.

First of all, hearing about your partner’s problems, happiness, struggles, anxieties or depressions, and anything is important. Not just listening but also trying to come out with a solution if there’s any for the problem your partner is having plays a crucial role for the relationship. If you are unhappy about something in her then it can get solved easily by talking. But you cannot judge your partner, is wrong. Because you are together to share almost everything, including life. And judgment from the important person can make your life much better. Only your partner would speak about your falls, where you need to improve, or what traits you need to change.

In my counseling sessions or with anyone I am having a conversation with I have found many do not realize what they are saying. I listen to them but they do not hear themselves. When they are finished, I repeat what they said, and they are surprised they said it. Learning to Listen to our words needs to come first, before we learn to listen to others. Repeating what others have said proves we have heard them, but also listening to our words is important too. Listening requires each person to hear themselves before they speak. Jesus is my best teacher that taught me how fo listen to myself first, and others. I always acknowlege Him as my eternal Spiritual Lord, Savior, and teacher, and counselor.

Before reacting after listening one should imagine himself/herself in the opposite persons place. Try to feel what she is feeling, what she’s experiencing or going through. It’s easy to react too fast but reacting accordingly is rare. Try to focus on the depth of the conversation. Remember If she’s saying something, it’s obviously for a reason. Focus on finding the reason. Don’t play blame games while replying, but ask for valid logics.

We all want to share opinions, so the first step is to let that inclination go, and situate yourself in an active listening space. If you find yourself wanting to jump in, gently tell yourself, "Keep listening." You can ask your friend open-ended questions. You can nod or offer short phrases of support. You can reflect back what you hear. See how it feels to listen instead of interject, give advice, or judge!

When someone comes to us and wants to have a conversation they desire a sincere reponse. I am a Christian councelor and people come to me expecting a reponse that will help them because I care. In my thirty eight intimate realtionship with my husband we also face spiritual battles. I know when he comes to me to have a conversation he expects a loving and truthful reponse, and when I go to him I expect the same from him. That is a mindset we both agree with and have practiced with our faith in Jesus leading our way. Jesus has taught us how to come to each other with ears, eyes, and mind wide open in truth and love and that is how we come together and stay together.

Well, If I talk about active listening barriers then the first barrier which comes into my mind is having an absent mind. While listening somebody talking one should be focused on their words. An absent mind can distract the entire conversation. And for this the relationship can get worsen. Second one is respect. If there’s lack of respect in the relationship then one may talk but other one might never hear properly. Both should give respect each other for a healthy relationship.

We can think we have all the answers, or we know better. We can be uncomfortable with silence or difficult conversations. We don't know how to ask questions or what questions to ask. We are impatient and just want to solve the problem. These barriers all relate to not being present in the conversation and centering of ego.

Being open minded does not mean suspending our judgments. It means being free to share them but not expecting all to agree with them. Our judgements are part of our daily convictions of who we are. We all should be free to share them with each other and if we disagree that may lead us away from a intimate life with each other but we should not hate or have any resentment toward each other because of our strong convictions and beliefs. ?????

If someone really wants to continue the relationship, then there should be enough space for listening & then replying with positive vibes, attitude, & respect. Whatever is being told/heard should be appreciated. This might happen that the words are very negative about one, but reaction should be positive. To be honest, a good conversation can solve any issues. So, don’t take anything on ego. It’s not personal, it’s about lives. Two lives, also the about the lives that are relying on both. Problems & situation can get worse but mind should focus on good traits. Just listen peacefully what other person is saying or trying to convey.

Judgement is the language of the mind really isn't it? It's how we interface and make sense of the world at our core. I think robust understanding and connection comes from the awareness, then mindful action of first understanding the nature of the mind vs. heart and then creating a marriage between the two. Mind to analyse/think to understand. Heart to feel/empathise to understand. I'm more about focusing on the felt sense and language of the compassionate heart because the(my) analytical mind tends to runs wild, with complete bias.