How can you support a peer's decision-making using active listening?

Quanto mais você se aproxima de forma genuina e ativa dos seus pares, mais facilidade você irá criar uma conversa mais confiável. Estar atento, ser empático, agir com respeito, ou seja, sem julgamentos facilita muito no processo de confian?a, mas o importante é que o seu par precisa sentir-se seguro no momento em que lhe for dado a oportunidade de ajuda na sua tomada de decis?o.

The key thing to remember in that supportive role is to listen more than you talk. The individual you are dealing with is the subject matter expert and as a result, you need to let them share their hopes, fears or concerns with the decision that is about to be made. They would be sharing information with you as a sounding board as opposed to you making decisions for them. It can to be too easy (if you are the more senior or more experienced person) to take over and railroad the decision making process and make it yours......Listen more, talk less.

I prep myself before meeting my peer, that includes shutting down my ego, shifting my ability to bring all of me to the conversation. What that means to me, to eliminate my personal background noise of my personal life situations, and not bring it to the table when I am meeting up for my session conversations with my peer. If this does not work some days I check in with my personal coach to provide me to be present that I cleared my energy to not interfere with the frequency, so I’m making sure I’m not bringing in no static that may create a lack of connection to have my listening be available. Prep work is done necessary so that I can show up as that peer to see for themselves what’s possible to be open to restore their love ?? for life

The Good Lord gave us TWO ears and ONE mouth. Use them in that ratio. Listen twice as much as you speak. By listening intently, over time, you will learn the art of asking the right questions.

Il est également important de considérer que plus vous passez du temps avec votre pair, plus la familiarité s'accro?t et plus vous perdez de chance de pouvoir atteindre le but. Vous devez ainsi vous rendre plus professionnel que possible en ayant moins de temps d'échange que d'habitude et plus de réassurance que prévu. Vous devrez essayer de tout faire pour que la personne tierce en vous demeure tierce.

It is also helpful to have no preconceived notion of what others may say about the topic of conversation. There should be no expectations. Apart from what is being said, the more important thing to consider is what is not being said. Do not busy your mind in formulating a good response or how to better what has been said. I opine that active listening is approaching the conversation in total humility and showing your interest primarily on the speaker, second to the topic of conversation. Understanding how much the person needs to relay what is on his mind will give you an idea of what strategy to take in dealing with the point of conversation.

Vejo a escuta ativa como um superpoder para criar conex?es e fortalecer a confian?a entre colegas. Isso vai além de ouvir; envolve perceber as emo??es subjacentes nas palavras, construindo um ambiente mais acolhedor. A??es como manter contato visual e oferecer respostas positivas n?o só demonstram empatia, como também criam um espa?o seguro para os pares se expressarem. Nesse contexto, a escuta ativa n?o apenas auxilia em decis?es práticas, mas também nutre um clima de confian?a essencial para a colabora??o.

C'est tout simplement chercher à savoir si la position que l'on mène est celle qu'on aurait d? menée !! L'agir intérieur est très significatif ici pour vous deux . Il faut donc choisir son camps....

I agree with this. Whatever, my role is, be it student, teacher, tutor, and or leader I always put understanding first. When I am listening to someone else, I want to make sure I heard them correctly. This means leaning in but not always eye contact because I need to hear them. So, I position myself as to have my ear close to their mouth. Then I will shift my body to give eye contact. I will go back and forth doing this to ensure I am hearing the other person correctly and to let that person know that I respect them and what they are saying. The next step is accurately interpreting what the other person has said. Words can have a thousand different meanings. A big part of listening is incorporating the science of linguistics in listening.

Active listening is an intentional and learned skill that is focused on the language and emotions of the individual you are speaking with. It required a stance of open-endedness and non-judgment. You show individuals you are listening by stating "What I am hearing is..." or "When you said...your face/body shifted, what was that shift?" Being attentive like this is a therapeutic skill that anyone can learn and requires you to be present with yourself and the person in front of you.

Active listening helps peers increase their knowledge and further understanding of the subject by asking relevant questions that would be possible in non-judgmental space.

Vous pouvez aussi faire allusion aux petites synthèses des faits qui pourraient aider à rassurer votre pair que vous l'avez écouté attentivement.

Again, this is where linguistics can be helpful. I try not to repeat what I've heard the other person said out of fear of sounding like a parrot. I also feel that when you do this it comes off as an echo, wasted time and space. This is true when the other person also has experience in reflection and clarification. They may feel like you are running the same play on them as they have done with others. When this happens, they may no longer take you seriously. They may feel they are better off talking to themselves and lose respect for you. Linguistics give you the logical creative art of saying something in a way no one has ever heard before.

Ask good questions. “Say more about that.” “Can I tell You what I heard you say?” “If x barrier were removed, how would that change the challenge?”

Work on using open ended questions that lead with curiosity…tell me more, how do you think this will…what do think the biggest benefit is…questions that allow people to dive deeper and not get stuck in the trap of agreeing to your interpretation of their answers.

When I am supervising the Junior Ushers, I want to hear their concerns and help them find a resolution to those concerns, but I also want them to find solutions to their problems from within themselves. This can be difficult in a Church environment, because as Christians we have accepted a way of life that have defined parameters. We must work within those boundaries so, there is a measure of support and empowerment which I cannot give but I try to help the Junior Ushers find alternatives. There have been times when I felt the Junior Ushers have made a decision on something and they want me to back them up but when their decision goes against Christian values. I try to help them find a solution that is closer to the scriptures.

Empowerment of voice and choice is a part of trauma-informed practices. When we empower someone we are not only honoring their ability to know what is best for them but also supporting them where they say they have need. All of us need to hear that we are doing well, and that we are capable and strong. Being in each other's corner goes a long way especially when hard decisions are to be made.

In my opinion, active listening involves giving full attention, paraphrasing, and providing feedback. Support your peers' decision-making by attentively listening to their concerns, summarizing their thoughts, and offering constructive input without imposing your opinions. This helps them feel understood and encourages thoughtful decision-making.

Supporting people is what I always liked to do, it's my purpose in life, and so I have experience in it. There are many ways to do it: directly or indirectly through others or Companies/ Entities. Directly: you can give the assurance that you listen carefully if you give feedback about it - a positive, detailed feedback taking in account the necessary kindness, empathy and options that will take the other person to be able to see "the light at the end of the tunnel". Indirect way: implement situations and do actions regarding the people's needs that you have carefully listen. This will give contentment and feel of trust to people.

Awareness of your energy and intention is key. Your peer may need reassurance that whatever emotion, energy or intent they bring is accepted. Your calmness is essential. Secondly, when there are 'gaps' or breaks in speaking, simply breathe, and let this silence extend for as long as needed. Your role is not to bring about anything. Thirdly, a sense of resolution may come, but on some occasions the process may not result in 'clarity' but rather a sense of calm, itself enabling the other person to progress in their thinking or decision-making.

It’s important to understand where the individual is at currently and what their goal is. Then, you can ask questions to explore their interest or hesitation in the options. The equal importance is in understanding any gaps or disadvantages the specific individual faces and the levity of those challenges on their life. Navigating how to prioritize and view options objectively as a bigger picture. If there is a roadblock, how feasible is it to remove that roadblock in a way that doesn’t further strain them.

Active listening is a very important part of language. Without active listening, we would be talking to ourselves and getting nowhere. Because language is a two-way street. Without the listener what would become of the sounds we make? Would we have ever formed words and grammar? The practice of active listening should be taken as the delicate art of diplomacy. Because the first step in creating a workable diplomatic bridge between two people is the art of listening.