How can personal coaches help you build resilience in the face of conflict?

Personal coaching is a collaborative and goal-oriented process designed to support individuals in achieving personal and professional development. A personal coach, also known as a life coach, works with clients to identify and clarify goals, overcome challenges, and create action plans for positive change. The focus is on empowering individuals to maximize their potential, enhance self-awareness, and navigate life transitions. The coaching relationship is built on trust, confidentiality, and a commitment to the client's success. While coaches do not provide therapy or counseling, they focus on forward-thinking strategies and actions to help clients achieve their desired outcomes.

ICF defines coaching as "partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential. The process of coaching often unlocks previously untapped sources of imagination, productivity, and leadership." A personal coach can support you in navigating multiple challenges, help you prioritize, provoke your thought process, and help your overall growth. Personal coaching often encompasses areas of personal branding, personal finances, and relationships. Coaching, however, is not counseling, therapy or psychotherapy and where the coach finds that the client may need other support modalities can direct them appropriately.

Personal coaching provides a secure environment for you to articulate one's emotions and transition towards a more practical solutions. In conflicts, individuals frequently navigate a spectrum of emotions such as anger, denial, frustration, and disappointment. A coach plays a pivotal role in assisting individuals to cultivate a sense of impartiality, progressing from feeling personally targeted to actively seeking solutions. A coach helps individuals in recognizing that a significant portion of conflict resolution entails managing oneself even before engaging in a discussion, coaching facilitates proactive steps toward resolution.

In my experience as a Heartpreneur, I find that walking beside my clients, I support their current perspectives. as we delve into the beliefs about who they think they are, beliefs are updated. When people begin to open to the more of self concepts, the map expands! Conflicts become small segments of a continuum that lose their pungency. The skill of getting beyond black and white dualism is a key to critical thinking. When people accept they can use whole-brain thinking, they begin to take personal responsibility for creating a fulfilling life. The right to Be who we are in life and work evolves into thriving instead of surviving.

Personal coaching offers a safe space for you to express your feelings and then move towards solutions. Often in conflicts, we find individuals go through a range of emotions - anger, denial, frustration, disappointment, etc. Through this a coach can support an individual in developing a measure of neutrality and reach a point where they feel that "I am not being targeted as an individual" to "how do we solve this?" half the work in conflict resolution involves 'handling yourself even before you reach a discussion table'

A personal coach can observe how you face and handle things, how you react to feedback, how you interact, and your interpersonal skills. Based on this, he will be giving you the best advice to follow. One can take responsibility for themselves. #selfcoach

Imagine a sheet of paper - you crumple it into a ball and release. It stays in the ball shape, without the ability to return to it's original state. Now imagine crumpling a sponge in your hand. Release and it bounces back within seconds. This is resilience. A coach can help you build your resilience through: - a dedicated, safe space to reflect and see what's really going on, behind the stress factors - self-awareness of what is happening in your internal systems in those moments - new optimistic, empowering perspectives - tools and habits to proactively build your resilience muscles on a regular, consistent basis - a clear vision, purpose and connection to values to act as your North Star, to guide and propel you back to yourself.

When something goes wrong, do you tend to bounce back or fall apart? Resilience needs to be cultivated and takes practice. A personal coach can be your mirror and guide as you work through this process. A good personal coach will help you find your inner navigator and compass to find balance. Various techniques can be adopted in combination to help individuals build resilience: 1) Shift from external narratives to internal view 2) Practice gratitude 3) Develop a physical activity to build your core strength 4) Lean on others for support - where you can collaborate/ partner 5) Learn to embrace failure and learn from it

1. Understanding Feelings: Coaching helps leaders better understand emotions, making conflict discussions more empathetic and constructive. 2. Clear Communication: Coaches work on making leaders better communicators, ensuring they express thoughts clearly and listen actively during conflicts. 3. Knowing Yourself: Through coaching, leaders learn more about themselves, helping them handle conflicts with awareness and a calmer mindset. 4. Smart Problem-Solving: Coaches guide leaders in solving issues strategically, making conflict resolution smoother and promoting a positive work environment.

Identity creates destiny! Who we think we are creates the map of life. When we expand who we think we are, only everything changes. In my executive coaching experience in the late 1980s and early 1990s, every CEO I coached who were leading multinational companies, said to me during our 1-2 year commitment, “why is it at the top of my career I’m just now finding out who I am?” Realizing the success they had created was less than fulfilling, it was an unexpected result to redefine success from an expanded sense of identity. Blending leadership concepts from the broadened perspective, was a key to Changing the organizational map!

"Neuroscience teaches us that the brain thrives on novelty and challenge. Embracing change and uncertainty in business can stimulate growth, creativity, and resilience."-Dr. David Rock Successful individuals, leaders, change makers can see the world with a wider lens that goes beyond them. How can they uplift conversations, decision, improve results, engagement, quality of relationships and life makes them persistent in their goals and they find any resistance as opportunities to learn.