How can experienced facilitators teach new facilitators to be more resilient?

Oral history and storytelling are powerful tools. Without your own experience, the best way to learn is from someone else. Now, storytelling can be very 'artistic' in that the raconteur may exaggerate him/herself as a hero. So certainly look for the lessons but don't always believe the details at face value.

There is no need to overcomplicate - the answer is to co-facilitate and take time for thorough preps and de-briefs. However, do this in all three development stages - during design, development, and delivery. Being resilient is also to keep challenging and testing the design until the subsequent work in development and delivery becomes intuitively easy!

You convey that you're not infallible when you share your personal stories. You've faced difficulties, made mistakes, and experienced setbacks – just like anyone else. This relatability can be incredibly reassuring to new facilitators grappling with their insecurities. It's a powerful way to encourage others to take risks and "fail forward."

A person builds resilience when willing to lean into conflict and challenges as a method for growth versus avoiding and wishing it never happened. For me, when a new facilitator is feeling uncertain, I encourage them to keep practicing and use every previous experience as data and as something to grow from. I've had a few past experiences in which I froze in front of the room and wasn't prepared enough. It felt terrible at the time; however, sharing these stories with a new facilitator is helpful; it lets them know that we're all human and primed to learn from these experiences, and it's fun to share them as well; we can't change the past, so we might as well laugh when we can.

Beware thinking criticism builds resilience. Effective mentors uplift potential, not just judge performance. Powerful feedback recognizes strengths, encourages growth, and inspires confidence. Guide with empathy, not superiority. Create a safe space to fail, learn, and improve. Focus on progress made, not just gaps. Build up others, don't tear down. True resilience arises from self-belief, not fear of failure. So believe in their potential and help them see it too.

When providing feedback to a new facilitator, it's often assumed that they'll be able to receive and grow from it; however, this is only sometimes the case. Often, feedback is received differently than the intent of the person delivering the feedback. This is why I find it helpful to provide constructive feedback and then ask the person a powerful question such as "What comes up for you?" or "How does this feedback feel?" In doing that, you encourage the feedback recipient to pause and reflect, and come up with their insights. When people come up with their insights, they are far more likely to take action on what they've learned versus simply receiving feedback or someone else telling them what to do.

Reflection and learning are the cornerstones of self-awareness. By guiding new facilitators to explore their performance, emotions, and reactions, you help them understand themselves better. This self-awareness is a critical component of resilience, as it equips facilitators to adapt and bounce back in the face of challenges. The more facilitators lean into conflict and challenges versus avoid them, the more resilient they become and develop a growth mindset.

There should be a moment when you move away from the other person shadowing you to taking over slowly. Especially in facilitation, this is done easily because you can co-facilitate several sessions before leaving them to run the entire session. If this process is not done too quickly, at the end of it the new facilitator should have enough courage to facilitate their own sessions.

Celebration is a means for new facilitators to recognize their value and contributions. It fosters a sense of self-appreciation, a fundamental building block of resilience. Facilitators who appreciate their worth are better equipped to overcome obstacles and encourage others to do the same. Celebrating achievements allows new facilitators to acknowledge the positive impact of their work. Recognizing the tangible outcomes of their efforts bolsters their sense of purpose and efficacy. Telling someone that they did an awesome job and that you appreciate them is easy, yet it is a skill that needs to be utilized more.

Being a resilience Mental health facilitator led us to be more humble to have the empathy ears to listen to what unsound voice from the scholars at the workshop. There are lots of touching stories for us to reflect from commercial and Non commercial parties. Also different gov to ngo levels. Ultimately we want to enjoy from the pain to the pleasure gain perspective. No judgemental with peace. Joy and love. Are you all with me here? ??