Here's how you can handle overly critical or harsh feedback effectively.

It is always good to remain calm when hit by harsh feedback because you don't know the state of the heart that speaks out at that moment. Responding quickly with a defensive attitude in most cases rewards with much regrets. It is not a good thing to embarrass yourself. So, try and hold your peace in that hot moment.

It's essential to approach feedback with an open mind, focusing on the content rather than letting emotions get in the way. By doing this, you can better understand areas for improvement in both your operational tasks and teamwork. It’s also crucial to seek feedback from experienced individuals in your field who evaluate your work based on merit, rather than appearances, gender, or personal traits. Being able to distinguish between constructive criticism and feedback rooted in bias is vital for personal and professional growth.

Keeping calm is important at the initial stage as that will help to think of a strategy to address the critical feedback. The next step should be to listen fully and ask for clarity to reply on a point by point basis. If some criticisms cannot be addressed, one should face the reality and accept the flaws honestly. The criticism, however bad should be taken positively as however bad the criticism, there is always a scope to improve from such criticisms.

This 3 step process helps:- 1) Do not take it personally. 2) Actively listen, probe expectations and communicate your side of the story. 3) Learn what lacked, adapt and initiate periodic communication on the same.

Although we love to state otherwise, humans are emotional creatures. Our natural instinct is to take it personal, get defensive, and react. When it comes to feedback, no matter how critical, always assume positive intent. Focus on the content, be curious about it, seek to get to the bottom of it without involving feelings. If you need time or space to compose yourself before focusing on the content, state it. Finally, have compassion for your fellow human, as you well know, we are emotional creatures, and the harshness of the feedback was most likely due to an unregulated emotion.

One thing that I’ve understood over a period time is that listening is an important skill followed by self introspection as it will help you grow with more maturity and understanding.

Active listening helps. No criticism is too harsh if it is constructive. When it is not so, then it is likely not even about you. You are simply used (typically in a moment of weakness) to help advance another person's objectives, possibly only loosely related to the issue at hand. Feedback is good. Using feedback as a way to bring people down not so much.

That is true. Making a quick judgement can lead to a wrong conclusion, therefore, it hurts people and can destroy our relationships. If we are in the workplace, it demotivates your colleagues’ performances. Listening fully, trying to understand and accept our differences including education, experiences, and cultures are essential.

Personally, I welcome constructive feedback because I am passionate about my career, my brand, and having a positive impact on others. I strive for continuous improvement in anything that I do and constructive feedback is an integral part of process improvement. Because this type of feedback is so important to me, I actively listen by eliminating distractions (“do not disturb” on phone, Microsoft Teams, etc.), taking notes, maintaining eye contact, and keeping my mouth shut until there is the pause for my responses or clarifying questions. I also think that having an open mind when receiving constructive feedback can help tear down any defense mechanisms and promote active listening.

One of the best skills for a recipient of feedback to master is managing upwards. If assigned a task, ensure that you and the person assigning the work are aligned in the purpose of the task, the output of the task, & the timing of completion. If you take the reins and ensure clarity on the task at hand, you are more likely to achieve success on your output. It is also important to stay inquisitive through the iterative process of creating output, to continually ask questions to stay aligned. Asking questions is also an effective way at challenging presumptions. Those who have done it before may have certain presumptions that, upon some questioning, may allow you to go in a different direction, one that may not have otherwise been approved.

Frente a um feedback negativo, sentimentos surgem, mas vale respirar fundo e fazer perguntas diretas para buscar entender o que está sendo dito e a que se refere. Na verdade n?o concordo que questionar se refere a mostrar engajamento em buscar melhorar, mas sim buscar entender a situa??o e ent?o se perceber para que haja espa?o para a reflex?o e tomadas de decis?o, pois sem sempre há problemas,m se houver má comunica??o

Always ask questions to clear up ambiguities and ensure everyone is on the same page. Seeking clarity prevents misunderstandings, promotes effective communication, and ensures that all team members share a common understanding of goals and expectations.

Be sure to always give your honest stance on the matter on why things were the way they were when you're getting heavily criticized. That way, the other party will know that the issue was not completely created/borne by you but that there were others involved and that you tried your best with the resources that you had and in the situation that you were in.

I have used real situations that I have been involved in as a way to make people feel more comfortable talking about their situation. Often times finding a comical perspective to my story , the person ( or people) being addressed become more at ease in talking about possible solutions

Embrace feedback as an opportunity for growth. Reflect on it honestly and consider how it aligns with your self-perception. Self-reflection is a powerful tool for constructive progress.

Recognize leaders / supervisors have different styles and approaches. Take what criticism that’s been given as an opportunity to learn and improve. If you can learn and avoid repeating the errors then it was a positive experience. Taking time to process what’s been given is also crucial so you can take notes, correct any errors and not make an emotional response that’s not based on facts.

"Honest reflection on feedback is the key to genuine growth and improvement." being honest about criticism is like the ultimate power move. It shows everyone that you're not just some wimp who can't handle the heat. You're like, "Bring it on, haters! I can take it!"

In my experience I have always treated Feedback as an opportunity for growth, honestly reflecting on the feedback often times eliminates personal emotions which may lead one to some sort of bias. Overly hash feedback often times based on my experience is as a result of expectations created and the final product delivered, hence an honest reflection will assist in managing future expectations and ensure effective communication.

Refletir sobre o assunto abordado pode levar tempo, e dependendo da melhoria a ser alcan?ada pode ser um longo trajeto de aprendizado. Mas lembre-se que sempre devemos buscar crescimento naquilo que faz sentido para nossa carreira, que condiz com nossos princípios. Assim sem dúvida os resultados que vir?o ir?o te fazer orgulhoso de sua trajetória.

Improvement steps can be difficult sometimes to identify. Your mentor delivering the feedback can be a useful resource to help plan next steps. Do not be afraid to ask for help in creating an effective plan with clear SMART goals for improvement to avoid pursing less effective actions that may not meet the goals asked of you.

Once you've processed and understood the feedback, it's time to create an action plan. Determine specific steps to address the issues raised, such as developing new skills, adjusting work habits, or seeking additional resources. A clear plan of action not only facilitates improvement but also shows others that you are proactive about your personal and professional growth.

Processing feedback is just the first step. Creating an action plan is key! Identify specific steps to address issues, like learning new skills or adjusting work habits. Having a clear plan shows you're proactive about personal and professional growth.

I like how the suggestions are tangible. An action plan must have the solution of your problem as the goal, but it also must be measurable. Otherwise, we get discouraged because there’s nothing to show us we are indeed making progress and changing whatever was criticized.

Si el comentario se refiere a un problema específico, trabaja en una solución concreta. Esto no solo muestra que tomas en serio las críticas, sino que también estás comprometido en mejorar.

It's important to keep feedback in perspective, especially when it’s harsh or critical. Remember that feedback is often a reflection of the other person’s perspective, not an absolute truth. Avoid letting one piece of criticism define your self-worth or overshadow your achievements. Maintaining perspective helps you stay balanced and resilient, enabling you to use feedback constructively without letting it negatively impact your confidence.

Perspective is everything. It is the object of great art, arguably. Criticism is necessary if not sufficient for new perspectives. Some perspectives are earned, and that’s okay. Some are not well founded. Know the difference.

La perspectiva es todo, siempre hay que tomar las cosas de donde vienen y de quien lo dice. Todos los seres humanos somos imperfectos y eso es lo más valioso de nosotros.

Keep an open mind. A feedback is someone else’s observation of something or someone and can be used as an opportunity for growth and improvement. Feedback whether positive or negative should be taken in perspective, that can keep you stay on track and progress from their.

Keep an open mind. A feedback is someone else’s observation of something or someone and can be used as an opportunity for growth and improvement. Feedback whether positive or negative should be taken in perspective, that can keep you stay on track and progress from their.

Certain people (from "southern" countries) can get heated up and can voice their views about you in a very harsh manner, that can be considered as extremely insulting. Just because they may have woken up on the wrong foot that day. Or they may express their political opinions, such as "You're a foreigner, we don't like foreigners here". Their speech will make them feel better. But as workers we are not supposed to receive such treatment from coworkers. If at all possible when you notice the direction the "exchange" (one sided only, usually) is going, try to go away leaving the person to calm down and express his/her views later in a more moderate manner. If this isn't possible then avoid having to deal with that person again in the future.

We are all humans! There will be disagreement of opinions here and there and that's what makes us humans. Firstly i will avoid taking it personal Then i will try and explain in a simpler way in case the person did not get my point or will try and get the person's opinion about the matter also, evaluate and pick out good points from it if there's any and then follow up on the person to also evaluate mine and give more explanation of how i arrived at that point.

The first step would be to be reflective and differentiate what belongs to you and what personal projections belong to the person providing the feedback. Very often, people project onto others their own insecurities and biases. So take a step back, remove yourself from the heat of the situation and seek clarity. What does the boss or whoever is trying to say? Does this criticism trigger something in me? Is there truth to it? Being less defensive and open-minded can prove helpful in finding opportunities to grow and improve. If the person is overly critical, repeat their criticism back to them and ask what they mean by that.

Dar feedback ou receber feedback negativo, n?o é fácil ou bom. Cabe um exercício de ambos os lados de compreender o ocorrido para que possa, de fato, ser encontrada uma alternativa que seja possível de ser executada. Nos feedbacks nem sempre se considera o que é positivo até ent?o, ou mesmo como construir a mudan?a necessário sem valorizar em excesso o erro.

I did not have important negative feedbacks from members of the public, of my team or partners. Quite the opposite. I did express negative feedback towards my management and got sacked. So, I would redirect this towards my former management.