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Here's how you can assertively communicate without being aggressive.

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Assertive communication is a powerful tool for building relationships and expressing yourself without stepping into aggression. It's a fine line but a critical one to navigate for effective interpersonal interactions. Whether you're in a professional setting or managing personal relationships, the ability to communicate assertively can lead to more honest, respectful, and productive conversations. The key is to express your thoughts, feelings, and needs directly and appropriately, ensuring that you're heard without encroaching on the rights of others. Let's explore how you can harness this skill to enhance your communication style.

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Jenn Merriman

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1 Understand Assertiveness

Assertiveness is about being confident and direct in expressing your desires and opinions while respecting others. It's a middle ground between passive and aggressive communication . When you're passive, you may not fully express your thoughts or feelings, potentially leading to a build-up of resentment. Conversely, aggressive communication can alienate others and create unnecessary conflict. Assertive communication allows you to stand up for yourself and express your needs clearly and calmly without causing offense or harm.

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2 Use "I" Statements

Using "I" statements is a technique that can help you communicate assertively . This approach involves framing your thoughts and feelings from your perspective, rather than making accusatory statements. For example, saying "I feel frustrated when meetings start late" instead of "You're always late to meetings" can convey your feelings without blaming others. This method encourages open dialogue and reduces defensiveness in the person you're communicating with.

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Jenn Merriman

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I used to not use “I” statements because I felt like I sounded arrogant, but in learning and setting boundaries at work I started using “I” statements and I have seen a more positive outcomes in certain situations.

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3 Practice Active Listening

Active listening is a crucial component of assertive communication. It involves fully concentrating on what the other person is saying, understanding their message, and responding thoughtfully. By actively listening, you show respect for the speaker's point of view, which can foster a more positive exchange. Reflecting on what you've heard and asking clarifying questions also demonstrates that you value the conversation and are engaged in finding a mutual understanding.

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The best advice I ever got on communication was to focus less on what I wanted to say next, and more on what the other person was actually trying to tell me. Here is how you can do it: 1. Be Present: ?Put away distractions and give the speaker your full attention. 2. Observe Nonverbal Cues: ?Pay attention to body language and tone of voice. 3. Reflect and Clarify: ?Summarize what you've heard to ensure understanding. 4. Validate Feelings: ?Acknowledge the speaker's emotions even if you dont agree with their viewpoint. With active listening you will get a deeper understanding of the other person's perspective but also lay the groundwork for a more collaborative and respectful exchange.

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Jenn Merriman

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I once had a manager state “you have to listen to be heard” at the time I thought this was a foolish statement but once I understood and started actually doing that I was heard more openly and I was able to better communicate assertively. My opinions and experience were then taken into consideration more so. Others around me started doing the same and communication opened up across different departments.

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4 Set Boundaries

Setting clear boundaries is essential for assertive communication. It involves understanding and communicating your limits regarding what you find acceptable and unacceptable behavior from others. By setting boundaries, you protect your rights and feelings without infringing on others'. It's important to be direct and specific about your boundaries and to enforce them consistently. This clarity helps prevent misunderstandings and ensures that your relationships are based on mutual respect.

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Jenn Merriman

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I used to be absolutely terrible at setting boundaries, and I was extremely frustrated in and out of work. One day I was asked to do a task that wasn’t my responsibility and I finally stood up and said no, this is not my responsibility or a part of my job responsibility, please see the person who is. Granted in my personal life I had started setting very clean boundaries also. Since that first day at work setting that boundary I have stuck to them and even though there are still frustrations, they are manageable frustrations.

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5 Stay Calm and Collected

Maintaining a calm and collected demeanor is vital when communicating assertively. It helps in delivering your message without emotional charge that can be perceived as aggression. Keeping your tone even, making eye contact, and using non-threatening body language are all parts of staying composed. If you feel yourself getting emotional, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts before continuing the conversation. This approach will help keep the discourse constructive.

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6 Choose Timing Wisely

The timing of your communication can greatly influence how your message is received. Assertive communication is most effective when both parties are in the right frame of mind to have a productive discussion. If emotions are running high or it's a particularly stressful time, it might be wise to wait until things have calmed down before addressing important issues. Choosing the right moment can make the difference between a successful conversation and one that escalates unnecessarily.

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7 Here’s what else to consider

This is a space to share examples, stories, or insights that don’t fit into any of the previous sections. What else would you like to add?

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1 Understand Assertiveness

2 Use "I" Statements

3 Practice Active Listening

4 Set Boundaries

5 Stay Calm and Collected

6 Choose Timing Wisely

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1 Understand Assertiveness

2 Use "I" Statements

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5 Stay Calm and Collected

6 Choose Timing Wisely

7 Here’s what else to consider

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