You’re struggling to receive feedback in the workplace. What are some effective strategies?

Word 'Feedback' triggers the emotions in the brain that something against us is going to come. But seldom we know that we can build a Leader like aura by mastering the Art of Receiving feedback. At Personal Mastery I have curated a framework that projects you as a Confident and Transformative Leader, whether the feedback is targeted against you or is actually something that you need to improve on ensure that: 1. Listen Empathically (rise above Active Listening) 2. Show that you are Understanding their POV 3. Acknowledge them 4. Clarify & Conclude with Action Plan (Don't Justify please) 5. Thank them for sharing their observations For more detailed understanding on creating the impact while receiving feedback, you may DM me.

Practicing mindfulness and feeling into any thoughts or sensations of what's coming up for you in the present moment with curiosity and non-judgment can help you remain open, receptive, and responsive to challenging feedback. Specifically identifying and acknowledging your emotions such as, "I feel misunderstood," or "I feel overwhelmed," rather than, "I feel bad." Can help you practice the skill of emotional granularity (describing your emotions with specific words) rather than labeling their emotions as, "ok, good, or bad." Those who do tend to experience fewer incidents of anxiety and depression, and are less likely to engage in self-sabotaging coping strategies.

"It's so frustrating to constantly be dealing with your need to be accurate." Ok, there it is. You can feel the familiar surge of feelings rising - anger, humiliation, indignance? Your hidden belief patterns start to influence your next step - I am being attacked in public, must defend myself. Reacting impulsively to feedback is a sureshot recipe for regret. Here are 5 steps to follow: 1. Let the feeling come up without resisting it - remind yourself that it is just an inner message 2. Label it without judging it as good or bad - it is creating an opportunity to explore yourself 3. Take a few long deep breaths 4. Pause your internal state - you respect it and will come back to it later 5. Take the next step in communication mindfully

While breathing deeply in midst of nervousness, anger or shame sounds nice, it can be really difficult. An alternative is to simply feel the body, noticing areas of tension or fluttering or whatever is easiest to feel. This can help pull your attention away from your ideas about is happening so you can connect more directly with what is going on.

Apprendre à observer et reconnaitre ce qui se passe en soi est essentiel. Observer qu'on vit de la colère, de la peine, du désespoir... SANS vouloir aller contre, c'est la moitié du chemin vers le mieux-être. Mais ?a s'apprend ! Nos réactions sont des cadeaux pour la connaissance de soi. Si je réagis par la colère face à cette expérience, ?a me donne une indication précise de l'endroit où je dois mettre mon attention et poser du soin.

When someone gives negative feedback, they are just expressing their perception of reality. To respond effectively, it is useful to get a better sense of their perspective. The simplest way is to ask the question - Why do you say that? The tone here is of essence - we are seeking to clarify, not challenge them. Now comes the difficult part. To listen honestly without interrupting even though there might be a strong impulse to jump in and explain. Reflect empathy at critical points - "so it was the fact that I insisted on another review while you were already under pressure on timelines, that made it difficult for you?" Seek clarification sensitively - "would you be able to give an example of where you felt I was too authoritative?"

Listen with the aim of understanding, not responding - this is a great skill to nurture. It sets up space for a deeper and more thought out response and engagement

In the art of mindfulness, remember that you are listening while you engage in the act of listening. While this may appear redundant, it elevates the practice to a profound level of evolution in your mindfulness journey. Listening is a skill that can be practiced and honed, but being consciously aware that you are engaged in listening transcends into a divine state of awareness. This heightened awareness has the potential to qualitatively transform your perception of self and the way you engage with the world.

Your emotions can get the better of you at times especially when critical feedback has been shared. Your feelings may prevent you from looking at the situation objectively and accept it. By being mindful of your emotions and thoughts at such times you would be able to identify and accept the feelings that you are experiencing and separate it from the actual facts. This would allow you to evaluate the feedback objectively and take necessary action.

Remember that people provide feedback from their perspective and based on their values. It's important for you to fully consider the feedback from your perspective and values and then decide if you will act on it. I remember receiving feedback from a very senior person that recommended behaving in a way that was congruent with their values. That behaviour was not aligned with my values and would have been inauthentic for me to take on.

Reading Adam Grants new book “Hidden Potential”, he suggests asking for advice rather than feedback. I am yet to try this out. However I do have trouble getting feedback from some people, so will be giving it a go.

Building is like imagining. Most people don't give themselves the chance to imagine. I'd rather give the person a starting point.

In the realm of constructive feedback within a company or project, ensuring that all input originates from a positive space and good intentions is essential. The collective goal or purpose of the company should take precedence over personal interests. Any feedback aimed at improving individual performance and contributing to the overall efficiency of the team should be embraced. Responding negatively has no place in this context, unless the feedback itself is qualitatively poor. In such cases, it becomes necessary to gently remind the feedback givers about the larger goal and purpose, fostering a collaborative and growth-oriented atmosphere.

While feedback might not always be welcome nor useful, this information (acknowledged with thanks) gives us an opportunity to pause, and remind ourselves that despite our best intentions, our behaviour can be observed and interpreted in very different ways by others.

By seeking feedback proactively you are actually acknowledging the fact that there is still room for improvement which would prepare you for progress. Feedback reinforces our confidence by highlighting our strengths and prepares us to work on our areas of improvement. Of course reflecting on the feedback that has been shared is crucial - what we do well, what we should continue doing, our weak points, plan to work on it, action plan to improve; there are certain factors that we can choose to reflect on.

By seeking feedback proactively you are actually acknowledging the fact that there is still room for improvement which would prepare you for progress. Feedback reinforces our confidence by highlighting our strengths and prepares us to work on our areas of improvement. Of course reflecting on the feedback that has been shared is crucial - what we do well, what should we continue doing, our weak points, plan to work on it, how do we plan to improve; there are certain factors that we can choose to reflect on.

Regular reflection is powerful, but it should not become a compulsion leading to a constant craving for approval and acceptance. When you genuinely love your work and are committed to it, your inner being opens space for continuous improvement. However, it's crucial to maintain your self-worth and self-esteem. Seek tools and techniques that cultivate a sense of self-adequacy, ensuring that you don't lose your authentic self in the pursuit of pleasing others under the guise of daily reflection. Balancing self-improvement with self-compassion is key to a sustainable and fulfilling journey.

Mindfully seek feedback to grow by doing the following: 1- You can Shift your perspective, & Reframe feedback as fuel for growth, not criticism. 2. Be proactive & Schedule 1:1s and ask "What can I do to excel?" 3. Seek diverse input, Ask colleagues, advisors, even clients. 4. Focus on growth mindset, View feedback as learning data. 5. Practice non-defensiveness, Listen actively, seek understanding. 6. Self-reflect by Processing feedback without judgement. 7. Evaluate how feedback drives growth. Mindful listening and self-compassion enhance feedback receptiveness. And always Remember, seeking feedback is a strength.

What I love about any type of 360 evaluation or feedback is a paradox … feedback is not about us… but it is. Every human is walking around in their own experience. When we ask for feedback we’re asking them to share their experience they are having of themselves when they point that experience at us. Then it’s our turn to be in and OWN our experience. We know when our fear, anger, and shame are in charge. When we operate from them, our task is to notice and choose a different path. In feedback we look for patterns. We see the trend our fear anger and shame produces. We intentionally work with courage to experiment with a shift in energy and choose a different path toward healing and serving Life, our mutually beneficial outcomes.

As usual, you are such a kind person. No stress, no pain, no regrets. What a beautiful person you are!!! What you wrote needs a very high level of education and understanding.

A key element of wisdom is reflection. In today's fast paced world, leaders need to reflect regularly on how they are thinking, feeling and acting. Does this align with the changed context that you find yourself in? What needs to change and why? Not doing so risks your leadership expertise becoming outdated.

Relying solely on external feedback for validation can create a perpetual cycle of dependency, leading to a constant and often desperate need for external approval. In contrast, when individuals cultivate a strong sense of self-adequacy, rooted in self-awareness and intrinsic value, they become less susceptible to the fluctuations of external opinions. This inner strength allows for a more authentic and stable self-concept, empowering individuals to navigate challenges with resilience. Prioritizing self-adequacy over external validation fosters a healthier mindset, promoting self-assurance and the capacity to appreciate one's worth independent of external opinions.