In my experience, creating a safe and trusting environment is key when working with a student in distress. I often start by sharing my own story or a similar situation to help them feel less alone and more comfortable. This approach helps to establish trust and shows that they are in a safe space. I also focus on actively listening, paying attention to their body language, and avoiding any pressure for them to share more than they are ready for at the time. By remaining patient and understanding, I allow them to open up at their own pace. Ultimately, a combination of sharing personal experiences, active listening, and open communication, along with patience, fosters a supportive connection that can help break through their barriers.

Build trust with students by recognizing their qualities, abilities, talents, or unique personality traits and expressing your feelings about them and their potential. After establishing trust, express your sincere concern for the challenges they face and offer your assistance. in overcoming those challenges.

In my experience, some students do not open up due to several reasons, some of which include fear of judgemental jibes, lack of active listeners in their life, favoritism at learning places, gender bias, societal pressure of hustle, and superiority complex of teachers (no offense, but often high in Indian teachers), along with inbuilt insecurities leading to distress. They feel school/college is rigged, and it tries to offer opportunities based on mere scores, money, religion, community, or caste, making them step back as much as possible. I used some strategies that helped them to open up. Affirmations, gender-neutrality approach, clear and simple language, open communication, critical thinking, active listening, and humanistic practice.

To support a student in distress who won't open up: Build Trust Gradually: Start by creating a safe and non-judgmental environment. Engage in small, casual conversations that show genuine interest in their well-being, without pressuring them to share. Use Active Listening and Observation: Pay attention to non-verbal cues and validate their feelings when they do express something, no matter how minor. Sometimes, showing that you're truly listening and available can encourage them to open up over time. By being patient and consistently showing that you care, you can gradually help the student feel comfortable enough to share their concerns.

Building trust with first-time college students takes time, but small, caring gestures make all the difference. I might start with a simple message like, “Starting college can be overwhelming—I'm here if you need support.” Sharing resources or tips shows I care without adding pressure, creating a safe space for them to open up when they’re ready.