What are some strategies for building resilience after poor feedback?

Handling emotions is indeed a crucial first step in building resilience after receiving negative feedback. Acknowledging and expressing feelings in a healthy manner sets the foundation for constructive self-reflection and growth. It allows for a more balanced and composed approach when addressing and learning from the feedback.

I have learned that when receiving poor feedback, first consider the source or giver of the feedback. Next understand the nature of the feedback; performance related, recognition-related, or personal behavior. With these two pieces of information, one should be able to effectively manage their way through the situation with emotions pretty well intact. If you have little regard for the giver, Dino sweat it, if the giver is someone you respect, take the appropriate action, especially when there’s a grain of truth. Request examples and ask him to coach you.

One way to better accept the process is through reframing. Reframing is a technique of changing the meaning of things, to get a different response or behavior. true learning and growth is often result of failure. An example example of reframing for me is to recognized when I am struggling with a new concept or skill to recognize i am on the verge of understanding. Reframing, mixed with a bit of growth mindset can encourage one to push forward and reflect on the generous feedback.

Building resilience after negative feedback starts with accepting and processing emotions. Acknowledge your feelings and reflect on them, whether through journaling or discussing with a mentor. Enhancing emotional intelligence helps in understanding these emotions for a constructive response. Consider mindfulness practices to manage emotions effectively. Seeking support from colleagues or professionals is also crucial for gaining perspective and guidance.

Acknowledge the feedback, move on, and focus more on learning opportunities. Identify areas of improvement, set goals, and figure out an action plan to achieve these goals. Seek help if it’s required esp for upskilling and learning new things. Maintain a positive mindset, practice metacognition and mindfulness (Ref: HBR) For eg: if you want to know more about a product’s features, check with the product manager; ask salespeople about current trends; check with your peers for feedback on your presentation skills. These are some practical measures you could implement in your daily work habits as well.

Initiate a constructive conversation with the feedback provider. Ask for specific examples and suggestions for improvement. Use this information to gain a clearer understanding of expectations and areas for growth.

Instead of dwelling on the negative, focus on the specific areas for improvement and set achievable goals to address them immediately.

View feedback as an opportunity to learn and grow. Identify specific areas for improvement and create an action plan. Embrace mistakes as valuable lessons that contribute to your personal and professional development.

It helps to change your perspective from "have to" to "get to". For example, instead of "I have to receive feedback or criticism" a new perspective would be " I get to find out how I can improve" or "I get to learn from this person (feedback giver)" . This alone has helped me personally to welcome feedback be it positive or negative and respond to it in an emotionally intelligent way. After all, without someone telling us where we can do better, how can we ever improve?

I don’t think you can over estimate the importance of a growth mindset to one’s success. For me, focusing on outcomes and answering the question “what does success look like” can be very helpful in aligning and aiming towards a more positive outcome. Thinking about success through the lens of results (what is the measure able target or outcome?) as well as behaviour (how will I act, what leadership traits are critical to success?), impact ( how is this outcome important to the team, to the overall strategy?) and talent (how will this outcome help me grow and how might I help others to grow?) are important dimensions to create a deeper understanding of performance in concrete and meaningful ways.

Para ponerlo en práctica responde a las siguientes frases después de una mala retroalimentación: 1) Cuál es la habilidad o destreza que antes me ayudó a sobrellevar un momento difícil y que ahora necesito ____________________________________________ 2) ?Qué aprendo de esto que tal vez no logro ver actualmente como una ense?anza?_____________________________________ 3) Puedo sobrellevar esto porque ____________________________________ 4) Creo en mi porque ____________________________________ 5) Me da miedo/coraje/frustración __________________ 6) Me da esperanza/motivación _____________________ 7) Algo que necesito admitir es que _________________ 8) En este momento necesito ____________ para poder equilibrarme y continuar con mi día

Embrace challenges as opportunities to learn and improve. Shift from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset by seeing setbacks as a chance for development. Focus on continuous learning and resilience in the face of difficulties.

Building a support network is important, yet we need to secure our network is not only build up of sympathy or empathy, as it may become a burden for both parties over time. What is needed in a support network is "compassion". Compassion is empathy accompanied by action or guidance that will help us cope, learn and improve.

Surround yourself with positive influences and a supportive network. Share your experiences with trusted friends or mentors who can offer guidance and encouragement. Having a strong support system can provide valuable perspective and emotional support during challenging times.

Prioritize self-care activities to nurture your well-being. Engage in activities that bring joy and relaxation. Practice gratitude by acknowledging positive aspects of your life, fostering a more optimistic perspective. Taking care of your mental and physical health contributes to overall resilience.

Resilience involves developing emotional, social and mental skills to cope with life's challenges. In the present context, it can be compared to a vector of mental development. The solution I would recommend for overcoming the effects of poor feedback, which I call a personality conflict situation, is the valuable Toltec Agreements Therapy. 1. Don't make anything personal and you won't have the opportunity to see your crippling emotions manifest. 2. Never make assumptions if you want to benefit from exchange situations with your interlocutor. 3. Always do your best, no more, no less, with a growth mindset. 4. Use impeccable speech to demonstrate gratitude that will help you become the best version of yourself.

Distil away all the emotions, vagueness and the person delivering the feedback and look for the hard facts. Ask yourself whether it's valid. Then choose whether to use it to improve, or disregard it. If you need to process emotions, ask for clarity etc., do that too, but afterwards.

Use feedback to grow and learn. Don't let negative thoughts hold you back, but concentrate on how you can do better. Make your big goals easier to achieve by dividing them into smaller tasks, ask for help from your coworkers, and treat challenges as chances to improve your abilities. See feedback as a helpful way to enhance yourself, resulting in more confidence and career growth.

1. **Reflect objectively:** Evaluate feedback objectively, identifying specific areas for improvement without letting emotions cloud your judgment. 2. **Seek clarification:** If the feedback is unclear, ask for clarification to understand the giver's perspective better. 3. **Focus on learning:** Treat feedback as a growth opportunity, extracting valuable lessons to enhance your skills. 4. **Break it down:** Divide feedback into manageable components, addressing one aspect at a time to avoid feeling overwhelmed. 5. **Set realistic goals:** Establish achievable goals based on feedback, breaking them into smaller steps for progress tracking.

Additionally, focus on your strengths and past successes to boost confidence. Set realistic goals for improvement and celebrate small victories. Develop a plan to address specific feedback points systematically. Finally, maintain a positive mindset by reframing challenges as opportunities for personal and professional growth.

Educating people for personal resilience in the workplace is laying the foundations for collective resilience in the service of sustainable development.