What do you do if your confidence is hindering your effectiveness as a leader?

I was just thinking this morning, "Oh, how fun to be as confident as I was 20 years ago!" LoL As much as age brings wisdom, it brings humility too. You make mistakes - often costly ones - and understand that you're still a person worthy of love and trust. And so is everyone else, who also make mistakes. The big breakthrough comes when you unhook your worth from your performance. That creates a lot of emotional space to acknowledge mistakes (vs being defensive) and take responsibility (vs passing the blame) and still feel deeply confident. And that is a great space for you and your team!

Confidence, just like self-esteem, is either built or stolen. Either we built on doing hard things consistently. Either we steal from others around us.

The number one action to take to build confidence is to create undeniable proof that you are who you say you are. Then, there's no way you will be able to convince yourself that you're not competent enough.

Sometimes we have to uncover our limits to discover hidden strengths! Think of it as a short pause, on our journey. A short activity to help adopt a growth mindset: 1. List 3 recent challenges or obstacles you've faced, (personal or professional). 2. For each challenge, reflect on how you initially perceived it, what specific skills or qualities you utilized to address it, and what you learned from the experience. 3. Identify any unexpected strengths or capabilities that emerged during the process of overcoming these challenges. This "challenge reflection" activity can help you recognize the things that you do really well, rather than dwell on your limitations and feel stuck or afraid to move forward.

Asking for help is a sign of strength and emotional intelligence and awareness - NOT weakness. Feedback will only create deeper connections and make you a better leader.

Asking for feedback is a sign of strength, and it is the surest way to grow. Our biases prevent us from being objective and the closer we get from objectivity the most likely we will evolve (in the right direction).

Hearing feedback is useless unless we integrate it. It requires filtering between what we've been fed back and prioritising what we want to implement.

Humility not thinking less of oneself but thinking more of others. Asking question is the best way to face that what we assume is often wrong.

when we talk we are saying something we already know, when we listen we are taking the opportunity to hear something we didn't. That's the easiest way to learn.

You are not the hero. Well, you can't be the hero all the time. When you're the hero all the time, no one else can learn and grow. You have to take on more and more. Eventually that leads to burnout. Recognize your limits. Help others grow. That's the way to becoming a true, confident hero.

Need help with confidence as a leader? Here's how to overcome self-doubt and enhance your effectiveness! Focus on Your Strengths: Identify your unique leadership strengths and achievements. Remember past successes to boost your confidence and tackle challenges positively. Seek Feedback and Support: Reach out to mentors, peers, or a coach for feedback and support. Their insights can help you gain perspective, address areas of improvement, and build confidence in your leadership abilities. Focusing on your strengths and seeking feedback can help you overcome self-doubt and become a more effective leader. Embrace challenges as opportunities for growth and lead with confidence!"

Confidence can start with competence. Increasing self awareness would allow us to Acknowledge our emotions, validate them and discover strengths and opportunities. Following awareness would be managing our emotions and getting higher motivation to use opportunities for development. Confidence can increase when we increase competence as well as increasing our ability to self manage.