How do you name your emotions?

Adults who have had a bad childhood or have experienced any traumatizing experience, especially find it hard to recognize their emotions and this deal with them effectively. The key here is to write down all your triggers and all the situations that arouse different range of emotions within. By naming your emotions, you won't just help yourself avoid situations when possible that make your angry, upset or frightened but also know what to do when you have to face some situations head on!

Naming emotions is the hardest part of EI. Here are the reasons why! - The six basic emotions have underlying deeper emotions and they are like a rainbow. Vary in scales and range. Vary in frequency and intensity. - You name your emotion as angry- but the skill is to dig deeper and conduct some root cause analysis where you realize I wasn't angry actually, I was jealous! - We all are born with all kinds of emotions, and as we evolve we get acquainted with each kind and most of us may not even experience certain emotions. - The task here is to observe ‘how one feels’ which could be a foundation to what that emotion is. As not everybody feels angry in the same way.

This may seem simple but something many of us don't pay attention to. If we start paying attention to these small details, we'll be benefitted in the following 3 ways: 1) We would get more in touch with ourselves by knowing how we feel in different environments and around different people 2) Getting in touch with ourselves would help us get more clarity regarding every decision we make 3) The more clarity we have in our life, the more accountable we would feel for our actions and thus it would be highly unlikely to be cultivate negative emotions

Through practice and experience here is what worked: - Observe what is happening before and after a triggering situation. Notice how the thoughts move from one place to another, one incidence to another and see where the irrational mind connects it finally. - Pause and look whether a certain emotion is felt constantly. - Ask yourself questions- self talk is a powerful tool. It is the process of decluttering. - You will find the exact emotion. This all may appear as a tedious two hour project, but truly it's a few seconds exercise!

Identifying nuanced emotions is not easy. However, here a method that can help us identify nuanced emotions : Journaling! Yes, writing down without limitations is the sure shot way to be more emotionally aware. When you become emotionally aware, it gets easier to identify nuanced emotions. So, if you haven't tried journaling yet, take a diary and a pen, and start pouring down your heart.

One way to sort is to find opportunities to spend some time alone, observe, journal, engage in activities that elicit thoughts, allow you to freely think. An angry mind cannot be told to meditate and someone who hates writing cannot be asked to journal. It is to find a personal way out to what works which leads to your own personal tool! Everybody is capable, it is just the matter of what works for every mind.

I have found this really helpful in my healing journey. When it comes to naming emotions, we may easily get carried away and start judging ourselves. However, here's what we should do instead: 1) Be patience with ourselves and just observe our thoughts and how they make us feel 2) Try and understand how we can transform the negative emotions into neutral or positive ones by reframing our thoughts. 3) By naming our emotions, we can easily remind ourselves which emotions to entertain, which to observe and which to let go by reframing.

- Focus on thoughts, then naming them. - Observe as they flow. - Make a note or remember the tiggers - Self-talk and make conscious efforts to bravely deal with it - Seek help to decode - Build a closure, replace a negative thought with a positive one - Promise yourself to find a way out!

Well, we should be mindful of how we speak to ourselves. By consistently paying attention to what thoughts we are creating in our mind, we can create a reality that's beneficial to our mental and physical well being!

- Avoid negative self-talk where you address your life and situations as bizarre and unfair. Our thoughts dominate our actions and our decision making. It is important to be good to yourself. - Focus on how you are feeling rather than adding vague adjectives. It is important to clearly communicate what is being experienced as everybody has different ways to how a specific emotion is felt. - And lastly, know one's own thresholds and maintain boundaries.

One thing I have found helpful is that we only have to control our emotions. Coz some things in our life is happen for a reason.