How do you manage speaker conflicts and competition?

One thing I have found helpful is to also consider what relationship you have with the identified cause. Is it healthy or unhealthy and go from that point because you might not be able to be a solution but don’t further the conflict either.

Consider how your own lens may be coloring your vision. When you have a point of view, a piece of though leadership, or a book you've labored over, you likely developed your ideas because you saw a pressing need, or opportunity. Once you see something, you can't unsee it. We often believe that our thought leadership is THE lens that should be framing the entire event. But it's also true that people are smart and can assimilate multiple ideas within the same event. If you're feeling conflicted with another speaker, instead of trying to demonstrate your smarts, ask them what's most important about their message. This puts other people at ease, once they're comfortable (and not defensive) you can figure out how to align yourself.

Respecting and validating the other person's perspective and feelings in difficult conversations is crucial. By doing so, we create an environment of empathy and understanding. Validating their perspective shows that we acknowledge their thoughts and emotions, even if we may disagree. It helps build trust and opens the door to productive dialogue. It doesn't mean we must abandon our own viewpoint, but rather, it sets the stage for a more balanced and respectful exchange, where both sides can express themselves and work towards finding common ground. This approach fosters better communication, promotes empathy, and increases the chances of resolving conflicts effectively.

Also, pay attention to your body language and tone of voice. Avoid eye rolling, frowning, body and smirking. How you say something is as important as what you say. Turn toward them. Speak kindly. Behave as if you are interested in what they are saying. If you don’t understand their perspective, ask them to explain it to you.

We must begin with the end in mind. When listening to a speaker, people resonate with different people for different reasons. At the end of the day disagreements aside, we are here to inspire others and be a beacon of light for them and reignite their passion. We must welcome collaboration due to the same end goal of impacting others in a positive way. Our purpose to serve is more important than any accolade or competition. There is someone out there that needs our voice and we disservice them when we engage in allowing a disagreement keep us away from the goal, instead of working together to achieve it.

Carefully, professionally and diplomatically at all times. Take each challenging situation as an opportunity to learn and improve and also never lose your cool. Another thought is to step back and put yourself squarely in the shoes of the other person. Maybe they are actually right?

I believe that authenticity is what sets us all apart. By honing our unique voice and message, we create our own niche, making competition irrelevant. The key lies in concentrating on your personal growth and impact. It's crucial to respect and learn from others' work, but not to compare, as their achievements don't diminish your own. Each speaker brings a unique perspective to the table. You'll never speak like them, nor will they like you, and that's the beauty of it. We all touch lives in distinct and meaningful ways.

Managing emotions: 1. Recognize and name feelings, understanding intensity and triggers for effective emotional management. 2. Practice mindfulness through meditation, deep breathing, or journaling. Prioritise self-care with sleep, balanced meals, and exercise. 3. Develop healthy coping mechanisms: confide in friends, use relaxation techniques, pursue hobbies, or seek professional support. Avoid excessive alcohol or substance use. 4. Pause before reacting to intense emotions. Take a breath, count to ten, and gain clarity before responding. 5. Remember, emotional management is ongoing. Seek help and practice self-compassion.

It’s important to be aware of your triggers. Certain people and certain situations may push all your buttons. Practice learning to “cope ahead” with deep breathing and mindfulness so that you are prepared to soothe yourself in the stressful moments.

Your professionalism is crucial. Why? Because if that is scarred in any way it will impact your reputation and affect your customer base. Additionally, think about how many people will no longer hear your impactful message. Therefore self awareness is key at this time.

Learn from every experience, good, bad, and ugly. Our worst experiences can be our 'gifts in disguise' when we are willing to learn from them. Example: Upon being asked to introduce myself in a new City at a large event, I was laughed off the stage and ridiculed. Thankfully, someone took me aside to say, 'To establish credibility, you must write a book.' I listened and wrote 'Nice Girls DO Get the Sale: Relationship Building that Gets Results,' which instantly broke many records. Today it is Evergreen - among the classics. FYI - the humiliation was worth every moment! - Last, before collaborating, ensure you share similar values for doing business. - Commit to ongoing learning and find those willing to share new opportunities.

Remember that all human beings are worthy of dignity, respect and kindness. They are. You are. Each of you being different perspectives to the table. There may be truth in both (or multiple) perspectives. Be open to the idea that you may have something to learn from the other person’s wisdom.