How can you help peers identify their cognitive biases without being confrontational?

The first thing to consider when helping others see past a cognitive bias, is to recognize that we have them too. Exploring your own biases first will open up some awareness about what you are prone to noticing in others. Throwing your bias on top of someone else’s bias is like the blind leading the blind. Some powerful questions to help your interlocutor (and you) stay curious for longer and get past both of your biases: 1. What are you not thinking about that you need to start exploring? 2. What else? 3. What else? 4. If you wanted a completely different perspective, who would you speak with? 5. You mentioned x, but what do You think the real issue is? Good luck!

Encouraging peers to recognize their cognitive biases requires a tactful approach. Start positively, acknowledging their contributions, and share personal stories of overcoming biases. Use open-ended questions to prompt reflection, framing the conversation as a collective learning opportunity. Introduce external perspectives or data gently. Foster an inclusive environment where diverse opinions are valued, creating a culture of continuous improvement.

Start by underscoring our universal vulnerability to bias. Establish understanding that we all unknowingly hold distorted perceptions at times. Admit your own struggles with biased thinking. This frames the work not as finger pointing but collective growth.

More than half even didn't understood what the topic is. So let's start with few examples: Trust someone more if they're an authority figure than if they're not. Assume someone's gender based on their profession. Make poor decisions based on the information that we're given, and so on. So how do we deal with those PPL, as empathy, humor, being too conscious abt there feelings while explaining ,bla bla bla...It's not gonna work. Just three things will do: 1.Embrace the opposite- Believe the opposite of one's initial reaction and pay attention to what happens. 2.Teach them about Intellectual humility, it's about remaining open to the idea that you might be wrong. 3.Teach them seek out information that runs counter to your existing belief.

I also find it really useful to ask someone their understanding, what they heard. Remember the communication rule from Mebrahain, only 7% is spoken word, 93% is non verbal. Even on an empathy map, only 25% of the space is given to what they say for a reason. Beware of the stories we tell ourselves too. My own journey in UX has helped me realise, there is no right or wrong, just different perspectives. We think we are right, they think they are and you know what, that's OK. Choosing kindness first overrightness is usually a far better option because if controntation and defensiveness kick in, our primal instincts tend to kick in and but sides become irrational. When this happens, it is far more productive to circle back within 24hrs.

Great advice. If someone is overreacting, we did that. So many times I've had men in particular say, I'm shouting if I say things strongly. In the past, I used to get so upset. I felt like I couldn't express myself. Looking back, I see how their behaviour also led me to that point which I could have managed earlier and brought this method in a lot sooner when I felt that moment when someone shuts down and stops listening. There were plenty of times when I tried to get something across knowing the other person wasn't actively listening but I continued. Now, when I feel shut down, I have the confidence to say calmly, would you mind if I reframed that I think it might have been taken up wrong. I take the responsibility and accountibility now.

For me this should be first not 3rd. I wrote about this under number 7 because I it should be top of the list in my opinion. Maybe ok to have it 3rd in a given situation but if our reaction is habitual, it needs to be looked at the whys behind that. We all have triggers but as Dr Gabor Mate puts it, the trigger is on a tiny part of the mechanism. It is ourselves that load up behind it.

No one wants to feel stupid or under a spot light. Encouraging someone to open up does take skill and building trust. I'm a huge fan of Brené Brown and her BRAVING approach for both them and me really helped me. She helped me not dread conflict. It is bizarre how we think we should know how to do these things naturally. We do need to learn how to do it well.

I would like to start here because for me, before jumping into others, I think taking a moment to look within first. Trust, confidence and kindness go a long way. Controntation only occurs when we feel threatened. It is a normal primal instinct so taking a moment to self assess our part first before jumping on others goes a long way. Defensiveness quite off is a pattern of behaviour and if this is something that we will we need to defend ourselves a lot, it is worth stopping and asking ourselves why? What is the story we are telling ourselves. Start the empathy and curiosity within ourselves first then with others. Now back to the first point above.

I think it is important to set expectations in the space, such as: - We may not all agree on things - Recognize your privilege and identities - If you are called in, be receptive to feedback.