How can you help clients develop healthy habits and overcome self-sabotage?

To develop healthy habits and overcome self-sabotage, focus on setting small, achievable goals that build momentum. As a corporate well-being company, our coaches provide continuous motivation and support, address underlying psychological barriers, and foster a positive, non-judgmental environment emphasizing progress over perfection.

That first step to overcoming self-sabotage is to admit that it is happening. And not just the generic, "I know". The person must have an honest conversation with themself, either written or verbally, detailing what is being done, why it is being done, how it negatively impacts their efforts AND how avoiding the sabotage will improve their progress. The last part is the "hope" they can bring into strategizing how to avoid the self-sabotage going forward.

How to overcome self-sabotage? Stop thinking from the primitive brain region about yourself. The Eplerian Life Philosophy is knowing where you're thinking from moment by moment. For self-sabotage, you need to stop thinking about yourself from the head primitive brain because this causes stress, and you can't do anything else. Self-sabotaging thoughts include thoughts like you're not smart enough or strong enough, or that you're going to fail, be criticized, or ridiculed. Stop these self-centered thoughts and think from your heart with kindness to yourself. Feel gratitude and appreciation. Love yourself from your heart. Dr. Gary Epler Eplerian Life Philosophy

The pre-cursor to any behavioural change is awareness. So the first task for the coach and coachee to do if ther coachee wants to change their behaviour to healthier habits is to bring up to the surface what exactly is going on for them. Naming the emotion can be difficult to do, because it may be something the coachee has not being willing to face before; and powerful because it can move them forward. An emotions wheel can be a very helpful tool for this as the coachee might struggle at first to recognise and articulate an emotion which may have been suppressed for a long time. Those kinds of deeply hidden emotions can have the most powerful grip ion the coachee without them being aware of it.

Was die Ern?hrung anbelangt, so fahre ich mit folgendem Vorgehen ?usserst gut: 1) was braucht die Person, um den physischen Hunger zu stillen und dann die Ern?hrung ausgewogener gestalten 2) bei Frauen gilt es den Zyklus einzubeziehen 3) Umfeldgestaltung hat eine grosse Bedeutung - hier kommen die Gesetze guter Gewohnheiten zum Zug 4) Stressquellen identifizieren, die Stressessen triggern 5) Emotionales Essen verstehen und aufl?sen

Any transformative change starts with changing or challenging our beliefs. Our beliefs drive our behaviors. Any attempts at changing habits, routines, or outcomes will be short lived if we don’t uncover the beliefs that are holding everything else in place. People navigate through life from an internal map or representation made up of memories, meanings, beliefs etc. We build up this map (system of beliefs) by what we experience growing up. Many beliefs that serve a purpose in our formative years will sabotage our lives as adults. It is therefore vitally important to update our mental maps and beliefs as we progress, mature and move on through life. If you navigate from an outdated, distorted map you will never achieve the life you want.

A technique taught in Co-Active coaching is personifying the coachee's 'saboteur' voices. I ask coachees something like: first think of exactly what you want in this situation (be it health, business, or any other goals)....and now tune in to the voices which are telling you it can't be done / you can't do it / you're not good enough to do it - or whatever it is for them. Tune in, catch the phrases that come up, listen for the tone, imagine the saboteur voice coming from an entity of some sort (a creature? a structure?) and then have them imaginatively separate it from themselves so they understand it is not them - it's just a thought (and thoughts can be changed). I ask them what the original purpose of the saboteur was - eg to protect?

I personally don't use the SMART formula in my coaching style (which is Co-Active coaching) but I do encourage my clients to discover for themselves what their values are, and this leads to conversations about actions that align with their values and often goal setting. The goal need not be too specific eg they might want to feel more confident, but it is useful to ask, How will you know when you've got that? And this does often produce some specificity. I don't worry too much about 'achievability' either: because I hold at the forefront of my mind tht the client is creative, resourceful and whole, I trust them to come up with goals - if they so wish - which get them into a state of resonance.

Accountability and support whether from the coach or better still from the coach AND a group is really crucial for behaviour change. I give my clients the option to have me hold them accountable (they message me when they've done whatever it is they decided they would do. This way they'll be motivated both by the desire not to lose face / disappoint / be answerable next time and also they know they'll have someone cheering them on when they succeed. If the coachee is doing a 'package' of sessions with me I set up a form for them to fill in before second and subsequent sessions detailing their progress since the last call. If thye haven't made progress towards their goal, what have they learned from that? etc

Plant the idea to your known people by posting happy pictures of exercising, outdoors, memes. Do this everyday. Sometimes of your own or thoughtful sayings about it from other sources, short videos of sportsperson.

In my course, I have a module dedicated to identifying a person’s needs. I’ve infused a new view of the kinds of needs we all have, apart from the basics which you can read about anywhere or count on your hand - we have personal needs: ones that are somewhat unique to us. For example, doing something creative or getting out in nature however often. Something that if you don’t do for a while, it doesn’t matter how well everything else is going, you begin to feel a bit empty inside. When we acknowledge, identify and buy out time to fill our personal needs in balance with the rest, setting personal boundaries and communicating kindly to others what our needs are, we begin to see a shift in how we treat ourselves and in turn, how others do too.