How can you build emotional intelligence and resilience by leveraging strengths and values?

Both emotional intelligence and resilience are based on people's values and put into practice using strengths. Being clear about our life purpose is a great advantage in which I personally believe. Coaching helps to discover values and convert talents into strengths, also having clear goals makes us resilient in the face of any obstacle.

Both emotional intelligence and resilience can help individuals in various aspects of their lives. In personal relationships, emotional intelligence allows for better communication, empathy, and conflict resolution, leading to healthier and more satisfying connections. Resilience helps individuals overcome relationship difficulties and bounce back from setbacks, making relationships more resilient and long-lasting.

According to Gallup, Strengths are "the ability to consistently provide near-perfect performance". Understanding your strengths provides you with the ability to invest in what you are naturally good at (via Coaching, Learning, Mentoring). You will then accelerate your potential to become a high performer. It will seem effortless. According to Myers in social psychology, "an attitude refers to a set of emotions, beliefs, and behaviours toward a particular object, person or thing". By connecting one of your core beliefs with an organisation's mission, purpose and values, you have a sense of contributing to something bigger than yourself. According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs, you fulfil Human 'self-needs' by accomplishment and purpose.

Is emotional intelligence an acquired skill? Can we improve our own emotional intelligence (EI)? Well yes… and to improve your EI you begin by paying attention to your emotions! When you catch yourself feeling a particularly strong emotion, be it a positive or negative one, make a conscious effort to be aware of how you are feeling. Take a moment to reflect on how this emotion feels, where in your body you feel it, and consider why you feel this way or what triggered such a strong emotional response. This simple act of reflection will help you to be more aware of your own emotions and you will begin to better understand your colleagues’ emotions too. So yes, emotional intelligence is an acquired skill – a skill that improves with practice!

Both EI and resilience starts at the mental level. I believe in building mental strength which then helps to build resilience and EI. As a coach it's our endeavour to help in developing mental strength as these are the key factors of not only being successful but also gain peace and happiness in life

As an employer when you embed values into each stage of your employee life cycle, from recruitment through to performance management and succession planning, you will start to identify and align your staff with the core values that your business wants to emulate.

Leaders who do the work to make their values explicit, both within themselves and to others, tend to be more grounded and predictable. Emotional intelligence often requires both "thinking" and "feeling." If we are not personally grounded, it can be quite difficult to step back objectively, and then put ourselves in other people's shoes emotionally.

Strengths and Values link directly to the component of EQ known as intrinsic motivation. What matters most is the core of our values. They drive our thoughts, behaviours, actions and results so having a solid understanding of your own values really ensures you what is driving you. We also find it easier, and ourselves happiest, when we tap into our skills and strengths. Things you are good at are more enjoyable. Your strengths are the foundation for whatever you build next.

It will be necessary to be aware of one's own strengths and values to understand that these are not randomly emerging but can be structured in a model of assertive and self-regulated behavior for one's own benefit and that this model can be used whenever the situation requires it.

Each individual's unique strengths and values influence how they perceive and respond to challenges. For instance, someone with "Empathy" as a dominant CliftonStrength might excel at understanding and connecting with others' emotions. In the face of struggle, this person might draw on their empathy to build strong support networks, seeking and offering comfort. On the other hand, if someone's strength is "Adaptability," they thrive in changing environments. Their resilience might be an ability to adjust their approach quickly, finding new solutions when faced with unexpected obstacles.

An executive coach can help you discover what your strengths and values are (p.s. they evolve as we evolve) and then assess where you are out of alignment with those in your work and personal life. These misalignments cause a great deal of friction and small tweaks can net very different outcomes. Your coach can help you understand how parts of your role, relationships, or events have challenged those core pieces of who you are. From there, it becomes really clear what needs to happen (e.g., skill build, alter your communication or style, etc) to lead to much better outcomes for both you and your business.

Partnering with a coach is one of the most powerful things you can do for yourself. It allows you space to be vulnerable and deeply assess your EQ and develop even further.

I see the main value of a coach in helping you see things from a different perspective and shed light on your blind spots. No matter how honest we are with ourselves and how eager to discover the truth we all have blind spots. A coach can help you notice them and apply your strengths to grow and get better in what fuels your performance.

It's my job as coach to bring a new perspective to your life. I can see my clients from a lens that is unavailable to them, simply because I am a third party perspective. When looking to improve a persons ability in their profession or in their business we often times focus too much on what we are lacking. When we could focus more on what we are really great at. By focusing on our greatest skills and talents we can look to redistribute those skills into new arenas to expand our capacity and our ability to achieve.

When it comes to strengths and values I encourage my clients to lean in hard. Watch for what enlivens you and notice when situations, responsibilities, and organizations align or do not align with your values. Head towards what is "you" and trust that there is a future down that road that is rewarding, elevated, joyful, and with increased experiences of flow. There is a spot for each of us to bring our best and attention to strengths and values will help you find yours.

While leveraging your strengths, be mindful to not make them your pitfalls. For instance, if you as the leader, are very creative be careful not to keep thinking about new creative approaches and thus postponing decisions, or to give ideas to the team member(s) instead of letting them come up with ideas. Such situations can create stress and unpleasantness, such as wondering why team members "never come up with ideas". Therefore, self-knowledge and self-awareness is important to use ones strengths in the right dosage and to understand the impact one has on others.

Sometimes, a simple question able to awake the consciousnesses of self capabilities. In one coaching session, I ask client: - what is one things you do which gives you the highest performance score? - how you do that? Client start to do self evaluation and find that he has a specific way to get the highest score and feel joyful. He realized that one simple things become his strength. He start to values the strong simplicity.

An example of a hidden skill a person could have is a person who has a high level of emotional sensitivity. They can walk into a room and feel the pulse of the room. They can leverage this in meetings to feel how the conversation is unfolding and if they are empowered to do so they can redirect the flow of the meeting based on what they are feeling. They may be able to mitigate a confrontation or misunderstanding by utilizing their higher level of sensitivity and avoid an unnecessary conflict with business partners or potential and existing clients.

A relatively simple exercise is: - Recognize the emotion being felt as accurately as possible - Identify when that emotion has been felt in a similar situation - Recognize that the situation evoked belongs to the past and that in the present, the situation is different, and also that there are emotional and discernment resources superior to those that were counted in the past. - In this way, by being aware of the internal scheme and how it interacts with the environment, it is concluded that the strengths and values are an asset that can be used whenever needed.

Understanding your own strengths helps you be aware of what you need to be at your best and what triggers you should mitigate in order to keep your cool and be more resilient. For example, using CliftonStrengths talent themes, an executive with dominant Relator talents usually prefers 1-on-1 conversations. To run a team meeting, they can leverage their strength by calling each stakeholder individually before the team meeting, just to understand their perspective and strengthen their commitment to the success of the team. This will energize the executive and fuel their confidence to run a productive meeting, even in the presence of conflict.

I love making the connection between Emotional Intelligence and the DiSC Workplace Tool! Not only does the person completing the assessment gain valuable insight into their own style, motivators and stressors, it can also be an amazing tool for team building. Demonstrating self-regulation and empathy means that you put your preferences aside so that you make it easier for other to collaborate with you.

When reflecting on your strengths, it can often be helpful to just hone in on one that particularly resonates with you. Consider what this strength brings to your organisation, and the experiences of others when you use this strength. It's a great way to recognise just how meaningful your strengths can be. You might even be surprised by what your reflection uncovers.

Simply, you can just ask your friends and colleagues what your strengths are. I love these assessments and use them regularly with leaders I coach. Also - sometimes the simplest thing to do is to ask a friend: "when have you seen me light up in my work and in my life?" Sometimes you don't even need to get as far as an assessment to get information.

Getting an outside opinion of your strengths and weaknesses is the best way to develop the skills that need to be improved. We can all improve if we have a growth mindset!

- Taking inventory of what is easily recognized as strength and/or value. - Asking people from the environment to swell the list. Asking for examples of what has been said, to understand the strength and not only to accept the flattery. - Having a mentor who remembers these strengths and values in times of confusion or overhang. - Deliberately exercising strength and courage, so that they grow and deepen.

The first step is working out exactly what core values you want your business to have. Start by looking at your a-players, your star people and work back from there. What makes them so great ? Ai for between 3 and 7 core values of that every employee must have ..

Sometimes strengths become weaknesses & viceversa. It is through the perspective of individual value sets where the inflection point can be reached for a coachee to evaluate a shift in perspective to embrace a higher level of emotional intelligence &/or resilience. How the coachee perceives themselves to attain value is the key to understanding which are the correct questions & adequately asking them in the correct timing to help them leverage their strengths with their vulnerabilities.

In my experience, the main reasons people seek coaching are: . develop leadership skills to deal with a new position or difficulties in the current one or to advance your career. . prepare for the next career level. . rethink the moment of personal and professional life and promote changes to cultivate well-being and balance. . having a space and a partner to talk about business and reflect on what can be done about the issues that arise.

Remember that emotional intelligence starts with understanding your emotions and the role they play in all of our lives. Starting here is a strength that gives you a great base and enables you to build empathy. As one of the most sought after Leadership skills, empathy comes from working through your own emotions so that you can better understand yourself and relate to what happens in the lives of others around you. From a resilience perspective the better you understand your own emotions, the greater the clarity you’ll have about your thoughts and the decisions you make.

The path of self-knowledge is a path in solitud , however, we need a guide to show us the way. Many times, we give up or get confused. A coach helps to clarify thoughts. It is an invaluable help in moments of life transit, which occur more frequently than we would like.