How can a confidence coach help you build your confidence?

After helping over 300 Leaders and their teams succeed for 30 years, from Fortune 50 – 5000 companies to Stanford University, it’s evident that many smart, educated, and experienced leaders feel stuck in their careers and are NOT realizing their leadership potential. Here's why. They struggle with: ? Self-confidence ? Communication skills ? Executive presence ? Selling themselves / self-promotion ? How to navigate business political savvy ? Lack of mentors, sponsors, and allies ? How to boost performance and recognition These are NOT executive leadership “soft skills” you will generally learn in an Executive MBA program. Seek out an executive coach with a psychology background who is an expert in communication skills.

A confidence coach helps you discern the difference between what your mind is telling you about who you are, and the reality of what your potential truly is in relation to your goals. Our minds try to protect us by providing past evidence of how we "failed" in getting what we want, so you don't have to feel the pain again of trying. Not very helpful!! A confidence coach helps you train your mind to look forward, define your steps (small or large) towards where you want to go so you can begin to see more success than the pain from the stories of your past.

If you feel like you do not know what your next step should be, or you know the step, but do not feel equipped to take it, it could be a result of lack of confidence. But, you are here for a reason. A confidence coach can help draw out that reason or reasons that are unique to you. Consider a confidence coach your dedicated cheerleader. This is not someone who will pretend you are something you are not. Instead, working with you, she will get to know you as a person, and help you with new language to describe yourself, your dreams, and your goals.

One thing I find helpful in confidence coaching is being real and honest about what clients can't see. We often see ourselves through a very critical lens of what we don't have, whereas, a coach sees our potential, what we bring to the table and what our skills and gifts are. Helping your clients see that they do have their own unique combination of skills and how to leverage those, definitely builds up their confidence!

It's someone who believes in you more than you currently do :) A confidence coach sees only your potential and doesn't have any limiting beliefs about you! It's a set of completely "clean" eyes! :)

Many times, a person's confidence is knocked down because of shame, failure, or disappointment. It is important to identify which one has shaken your confidence. Once identified, a coach can help you with measurable steps to regain confidence in that area. Whatever caused shame, failure, or disappointment is in your past. If the past issue has not been addressed, counseling may help. But, if you have addressed the issue, there's no need to live in the past. Coaching is a great resource to help you focus on where you are today and where you want to go in the future.

One of the key ways that coaching in general can be supportive is if you work with a coach that already has what you desire. In this context it would be confidence, so choosing a coach who embodies self-confidence is key. Then what will happen automatically in your sessions is that you will start to entrain to that energy and find yourself feeling more confident.

Together, we look at specific situations where you feel a lack of confidence. We explore what you're currently thinking and what you could think instead to feel more confident! It's light and fun!

Working with a great coach allows you to tap into your innate confidence and expand it by stepping outside your comfort zone. With a coach by your side, you'll gain clarity on your goals, deepen your self-awareness, and foster an empowering relationship with yourself. You'll have the support of someone who truly understands you, guiding and challenging you to reach your full potential. Applying the tools and techniques learned from your coach will continuously bolster your confidence, ensuring you are prepared to handle whatever challenges come your way.

Confidence is most certainly something you can learn. And if you believe that you can learn a skill, then you can absolutely develop your confidence. Working with a great coach can get you there faster and and learn strategies that support you, for the long term. 100% recommend.

A confidence coach designs a plan tailored to YOUR specific struggles – whether it's fear of failure, imposter syndrome, or that nagging inner critic. That's because confidence coaches are trained in proven techniques to transform self-doubt into self-belief. They help you rewire your mindset for lasting results. They also help you reveal the root causes of your self-doubt that you might be blind to. The biggest benefit is that the process is efficient and fast. You do not have to waste time with strategies that don't work for you. There maybe free resources out there that help. But if you're serious about making significant, lasting changes in least amount of time, finding a confidence coach is an invaluable investment.

My goal when working with clients to help them build their confidence is to really get them get out of their own way. We are our own worst critics and are often not confident in our own skills and abilities. We think that our experiences are not high quality enough compared to everyone else, so it keeps us in a non-confidence loop. A confidence coach will help you explore what your actual skills, abilities and gifts are because we have a different perspective looking in from the outside. They will also help you find ways to build confidence that are relevant to you and not in comparison to what another person might do to build confidence. They will take you out of your comfort zone which is critical to confidence building.

Confidence is THE SOLUTION for feeling genuinely at peace and calm. When are in a permanent "confident state", the impact of this is enormous! Your relationships get deeper, your work feels more meaningful and your life in general feels more purposeful!

Recommendations are super important! Also, and if you haven't engaged a coach before then it's not unusual to ask for a quick chemistry call. The relationship works both ways.

The realm of 'confidence' coaching is quite broad so it's important to diagnose your problem accurately. Try to pinpoint specific areas where you are lacking confidence and that you would like to build confidence in so that you can select a coach that can help you build confidence in that particular area. For example, are you lacking confidence interacting with others? Perhaps you may actually need a social skills coach. Are you lacking confidence with speaking up in meetings or presenting? You might actually need a public speaking coach. If you are lacking confidence in how you present yourself, you may benefit from working with an image consultant.

Whilst there are some who are certified confidence coaches, working with most competent coaches will result in an increase in a client's confidence. In addition to the things already listed, I would also ask them about the supervision they receive. This aspect of professional practice is essential for your and their safety.

Want to make a change? Then you need to work at it. That's it. As Mel Robbins famously says on repeat, 'no-one is coming!'. You want it? Then let's do the work. Simple as that. I believe you can make a change if it's important enough. No path is the same, so finding a coach who can flex their style to meet your goal is critical.

Every coach structures their services differently. For some, it's a fluid approach with regular calls to work on areas where you may be getting stuck. Other coaches offer a structured package/roadmap to get you to the outcome you are seeking. It's important to be clear about what results you are expecting to get from the coaching, to understand your learning style and to have a clear understanding of what you can expect from the coach you hire. From there, assess if you think it's the right fit for you and if you think you will see the results you are after.

I use assessments for self-esteem, confidence and self-efficacy at the beginning of my work with a client, as well as at the end of our collaboration. There are always parameters that improve significantly following our work together.

This can be really practical! Try this question: "If you did have the confidence you want, what would you do differently? And what would that do for you?" This will reveal naturally produced milestones that Coach and Coachee can track and also will shed a light on where adjustments need to be made.

One of the ways you can measure your confidence growth is the most obvious way, which is setting a goal and then tracking when you achieve that goal. Once you achieve a goal that you’ve set for yourself that will allow you to build your confidence to set even more challenging goals. Also a good way to gauge whether your confidence is increasing is to listen to the feedback you get from your peers - if they tell you that you have made improvements in a certain area you should listen as that is also a confidence boost. Finally when you start to become more comfortable with setting new goals in new areas this is a key indication of boosted confidence. Keep going - it’s working!

This is perhaps the most difficult question to answer, but I will try to find the answer. As a mentor and martial arts instructor, I think that the growth of our self-confidence is most evident in the quality of our decisions, followed by the ability to manage our emotions and how we react to stressful situations. The storm always decides how strong a tree is. Literally.

It's important to remember that confidence is not the absence of fear, but as Dr Rob Yeung says it's "the ability to take appropriate and effective action, however challenging it may feel at the time". A great coach will help you to access the skills you need to take that action, trembling knees and all!