Here's how you can uncover patterns in your career failure responses with a life coach.

I strongly disagree with the term “career failure.” Instead, I propose using “a strategy that didn’t work.” This reframing removes the negative connotation associated with failure, which can make it psychologically difficult to try again. Viewing it as one of many strategies puts you back in control as someone unafraid to add to their experience while searching for the right approach. And, experience is impossible without mistakes.

Es ist so wichtig, die Verantwortung für das eigene Leben zu übernehmen. Und da geh?rt es dazu, über das eigene Verhalten nachzudenken. Ehrlich, aber liebevoll. Also nicht sich selber zerfleischen, sondern ganz in Ruhe über die eigenen Verhaltensweisen nachdenken und überlegen welches Verhalten man immer wieder an den Tag legt. Und da kann ein Life Coach super helfen. Denn dieser ist nicht involviert und kann daher durch Fragen helfen auf die Muster zu kommen.

As a coach specialized in emotional management, a key resource to identify patterns, is to recognize the emotional episodes we have. This means identifying the trigger that evokes a certain emotion, in order to define an action plan. According to Paul Eckman, the emotional episode consists of 5 phases: 1. Before the episode, what is the context 2. What is the trigger 3. Experience, how was the emotion felt 4. Behavior, what were the actions taken 5. Which were the consequences after the episode When we have a clear undertanding of our emotional episodes, then we can change patterns.

Misserfolge geh?ren zum Leben dazu. Man kann nicht nur erfolgreich sein und nie Fehler machen, das ist einfach nicht m?glich. Von daher ist es sehr wichtig, welche Reaktionen man auf Misserfolge hat. Denn Scham, Verlegenheit oder Angst dürfen natürlich mal sein, bringen einen aber nicht weiter. Von daher ist es hilfreich, diese emotionalen Ausl?ser zu finden, zu verstehen und dann zu erarbeiten, wie man noch reagieren k?nnte. Dabei kann ein unabh?ngiger Berater, wie ein Life Coach, sehr gut unterstützen.

There is always a root. We must ask the right questions to allow the client to dig deep to get to the answers they need. Each question should be open ended allowing the client to go deeper and discover the answer on their own. "can you tell me more about that" is a great question to keep them digging. The coach needs to be actively listening and watching to help them uncover patterns and themes in their behaviors, thoughts, and feelings. Periodically ask the client to identify their feelings to explore any triggers that are in relations to the problem.

Es braucht natürlich neue Strategien, um die alten Verhaltensmuster zu durchbrechen. Wichtig finde ich, dass diese Strategien passen und in machbaren Schritten angegangen werden. Auch dabei kann eine Life Coach sehr gut unterstützen. Einmal natürlich durch die passenden Tools und Techniken, um passende Strategien zu entwickeln. Und um immer wieder durch Fragen und Reflexion zu neuen Wegen und überlegungen anzuregen.

One of the key benefits of working with a life coach is the opportunity for consistent practice in identifying and addressing patterns in your career failure responses. Through regular sessions and exercises, a life coach can help you pinpoint recurring behaviours, thoughts, and emotions that may be holding you back. This consistent practice allows you to gain greater insight into your own patterns and develop strategies for overcoming them. Consistent practice is essential for lasting change. By regularly engaging with a life coach, you have the opportunity to delve deep into the root causes of your career failures and explore new ways of thinking and acting.

Identify Emotional Triggers - Recognizing what emotions surface during failure helps in managing responses better. With your coach, discuss the emotions you felt during each failure. Look for common triggers and emotional reactions. Analyze Your Thought Patterns Negative thought patterns can perpetuate failure. Keep a thought journal. Record your thoughts when you think about or experience failure. Share these entries with your coach to identify recurring negative thoughts.

We all have behaviour patterns that support a comfortable life. Without these patterns, we might need to reinvent the wheel in every suitaions that we face. These patterns, learned from our experiences and beliefs, get repeated throughout our lifetime. However, if not re-examined as we grow older, they can become outdated and fail to serve their intended purpose. Therefore, self-upgrade is essential. A life coach's role is to understand a client's patterns and highlight them, especially if the client faces challenges in their career or personal growth. Through empathetic inquiry, a life coach can reveal what may not be apparent to the client and develop strategies to overcome limiting beliefs, breaking the patterns that sabotage growth.