Here's how you can address signs of low assertiveness with coaching.

To address low intensity, we start by identifying specific triggers. This involves recognizing situations where you feel unable to express your needs or opinions. First, we will explore these situations together to understand what makes you feel less assertive. This could be certain people, environments, or types of conversations. Next, I will teach you practical techniques to boost your assertiveness, such as clear communication, setting boundaries, and using confident body language. Regular practice and role-playing exercises will help reinforce these skills. Through consistent effort and guidance, you can become more confident and assertive in various situations.

To build assertiveness, you need to know what situations make your mentee shrink. Help them pinpoint those moments when they didn't speak up, even though they wanted to. Encourage them to keep a journal of these instances. This self-awareness is the first step to overcoming their hesitation.

Addressing low assertiveness with coaching involves empowering individuals to communicate confidently and set healthy boundaries. By employing role-playing exercises, clients can practice assertive responses in a safe environment. For instance, a client struggling to say "no" might rehearse declining extra work politely but firmly. Coaches also use techniques like positive affirmations and goal-setting to boost self-esteem and clarify personal values. For example, a client learning to assertively request a raise gains confidence through structured feedback and supportive guidance, ultimately transforming their workplace interactions. This journey fosters growth, ensuring clients speak up and take charge of their lives effectively.

- Recognize situations or people that make you feel uncomfortable or hesitant to speak up. - Keep a journal to track patterns and common triggers. - Reflect on past experiences where assertiveness was lacking and identify common themes.

It is important to help the individual identify the triggers for low assertiveness. Coach to uncover what is behind this behavior - low self-confidence, respecting others & their opinions more (over self), dynamics of power, privilege, race, rank, gender at play etc. This self-awareness along with an understanding of one's unmet needs due to low assertiveness can help one bring about gradual shifts towards being more assertive.

Saying “No” can be a whole sentence. In my experience, I encourage clients to say : “Let me get back with you “ Never feel like you have to commit to something, in the moment, you can give yourself permission to decide if the “ask” is in line with your capacity, schedule, self care.

- Clearly define your personal boundaries and communicate them assertively. - Practice saying "no" when necessary and prioritize your own needs. - Establish consequences for when boundaries are crossed and stick to them.

I find and know from personal experience, not setting boundaries can lead to burnout and feeling worthless. When you set boundaries you protect your personal energy and sense of Self. When you set boundaries you define who you are as a person. I always describe it as drawing the outline of a picture before colouring it in. If you colour outside of the lines, we perceive that as something as not good. You need to define your outlines of who you are so you can feel when things spill outside the lines which is uncomfortable. With awareness of our boundaries we can build our sense of Self and who WE are, are what WE are not.

Role-playing is like a safe rehearsal for real life. It helps them try out new assertive behaviors without any real-world consequences. Watch their body language, tone of voice, and word choice. Give them feedback, and let them try it again.

- Engage in role-playing exercises with a coach or trusted individual to practice assertive communication. - Act out scenarios where you need to assert yourself and receive feedback on your approach. - Experiment with different communication styles and techniques to find what works best for you.

Role play can be like trying it on before you buy, or commit to something. It helps with future pacing and imaging what it would be like.... A good example would be asking someone to image they were already the ideal version of themselves, how would they act and respond to XYZ? You can then explore what comes up.

Les jeux de r?les sont un excellent moyen d'aider les coachés à confronter leurs peurs sans réelles conséquences. Grace au jeu de r?le, ils peuvent améliorer leur capacité à exprimer leurs besoins, ou à oser dire non. Cela leur permet de trouver les mots qui leur conviennent le mieux et de comprendre comment les différentes approches sont per?ues par les autres. Mais surtout, c'est un véritable booster de confiance en soi. Plus ils s'exercent, plus ils se sentiront à l'aise dans la vraie vie. Chaque succès dans ces simulations renforce leur assurance et, par la même occasion, leur affirmation de soi. C'est une pratique que j'ai souvent utilisée, tant pour moi que pour mes apprenants/coaché. Je confirme que c'est ultra efficace !

Recognition Matters: I once praised a colleague for voicing her opinion in a meeting; her confidence soared, leading her to lead future discussions. Celebrate Small Wins: A mentee shared how speaking up in a team chat led to a project improvement; I celebrated this, reinforcing her assertiveness. Self-Reflection: I encouraged a friend to journal after asserting herself at work, helping her realize the positive changes in her relationships and career. Boosting Self-Esteem: After a mentee successfully negotiated a raise, I highlighted her growth, which inspired her to tackle even bigger challenges. Continual Practice: A former mentee regularly practiced assertiveness in social settings, which motivated her to keep engaging confidently.

- Celebrate small victories and progress towards being more assertive. - Reward yourself for stepping out of your comfort zone and speaking up. - Surround yourself with supportive individuals who encourage and reinforce your assertive behavior.

A coach plays the vital role of a cheer squad, providing constant encouragement and celebrating every milestone, no matter how small. By fostering a supportive environment, a coach helps individuals visualize their journey towards assertiveness, highlighting what it would mean for their personal and professional lives. Through positive reinforcement, coaches build self-belief and motivate clients to pursue their goals with confidence. They help individuals see the benefits of assertiveness, such as improved relationships and decision-making. This supportive approach empowers clients to embrace change and move towards a positive, assertive version of themselves

Une entrepreneure venait de se lancer, mais procrastinait. Elle m'a demandé pourquoi elle serait légitime de proposer ses services et en quoi elle pouvait se proclamer experte. Alors, je lui ai proposé d'explorer ensemble son parcours personnel et professionnel ainsi que tout ce qu'elle a accompli. Je l'ai félicité. Je lui ai dit que c'était incroyable tout ce qu'elle a pu faire et qu'elle mérite amplement la place où elle se trouve et qu'elle doit en être fière. Son grand sourire et son regain de confiance ont confirmé l'efficacité du renforcement positif. Ne sous-estimez pas la puissance des mots positifs et d'encouragement, ?a peut tout changer.

Don't just practice when it's uncomfortable. Look for everyday opportunities to be assertive, even in small ways. Settling a bill, asking for what you want at a restaurant, or politely declining extra work are all chances to practice. Remember, it's okay to stumble sometimes.

Practice and doing things over and over again helps lay down new neural pathways. This is how you can re-programme the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind runs 95% of our waking life. When you practice something you reinforce it and it gets easier as the body gets more familiar with the new pursuit.

Cela doit devenir un rituel. Expliquez à vos coachés que l'ancrage de ces habitudes renforce leur comportement positif. Au fur et à mesure, ?a deviendra naturel. Chaque défi, obstacle ou doute sera abordé avec résilience et confiance. Plus ils pratiquent, et plus ils ouvrent la voie à une meilleure compréhension d'eux-même et de leurs aspirations. Cela va les aider à évoluer, à s'améliorer et à atteindre leurs objectifs personnels et professionnels.

Assertiveness can manifest differently based on individual strengths. CliftonStrengths provides valuable insights into how different people can show assertiveness. For example, those with high Empathy might show assertiveness by articulating their own feelings clearly while being deeply attuned to the emotions of others. They assert themselves by fostering understanding and building emotional connections. Individuals with Strategic can demonstrate assertiveness by confidently proposing innovative solutions and guiding the team toward long-term goals. Their assertiveness is shown in their ability to think ahead and make decisive plans. You can help individuals leverage their unique strengths to become more assertive in an authentic way.

One thing I've found helpful is to create Action Plans with goals for practicing. This removes some of the anxiety a person may experience by setting clear actions that they can achieve and also provides a relevant starting point for reflection.