You're struggling to improve your emotional intelligence skills. What's the best way to get feedback?

Your emotional intelligence skill improvement can leverage on self-awareness state. Identify the state of your self-awareness by honest self-evaluation, reflection and feedbacks from others. You can make use of a journal which is the one I normally suggest to my learners to use. It helps you to know where your strengths and weaknesses lies. And that can birth improvement. If you would be committed to it, it is helpful.

Self-awareness is the cornerstone of emotional intelligence. It simply comprises one’s own emotions, strengths, weaknesses, values, and motivations. It also involves being mindful of how emotions influence thoughts and behaviors. So learning how to possess self-awareness can enable better control of feelings, reactions, and behaviors.

Solicitando retroalimentación o tener un buen sentido de autocrítica es necesario para tener claro que es lo que debemos modificar o mejorar.

Feedback is a challenge for the person receiving it and the person giving it. It’s important to attack problems not people. If we continue to build a culture of trust and support delivering/receiving feedback becomes an accepted and welcomed part of our job. In my experience, I would openly discuss the personal evolutions I currently work towards. I found that asking for feedback and advice helped me reach my goals faster. Feedback was the rocket fuel for learning. Another tip is that when I make mistakes I ask for a redo. I would say “hey, I really messed that part up. Could we back up and try again? What would you do differently?” Then we’d practice. Lead from the front, learn to receive feedback before giving it.

First and foremost: You have to ask! Actively seek feedback. This will put you way ahead of your competitors. Don't wait for the annual or half-yearly meeting. Get active by yourself and talk to the people who are your role models and from whom you want to learn. You will experience that you will receive a lot of feedback very quickly and your colleagues and superiors will be happy to give you feedback. This will also show the outside world that you really want to improve yourself and that you are serious about doing so. You set an example and this will also impress others.

Prepare yourself emotionally for these conversations. This means that you should be prepared to receive criticism for things that you will see completely different from your point of view. This may come as a surprise on some points and you may react impatiently or dismissively. Now it is imprtant to realise that this may be exactly the key to your personal development! Continue to listen carefully and do not react negatively to this type of feedback. After all, you want to grow and therefore beware of too many emotions at this point.

It is important to show genuine interest through eye contact and attentive body language. Empathize with their emotions, and refrain from interrupting or formulating responses prematurely. Ask open-ended questions to encourage elaboration and clarify understanding. Then reflect and process what has been said. You must be aware of your and the speaker's state of mind while going on this approach.

Practice Practice Practice The best tip I can offer others is to find ways to continuously practice. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes or to ask for a do-over.