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You’re in a heated debate with a colleague. How can you develop your win-win skills?

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Conflict is inevitable in any workplace, but how you handle it can make a big difference in your relationships, productivity, and well-being. If you’re in a heated debate with a colleague, you might feel tempted to either give in, fight back, or walk away. But none of these options will help you reach a satisfying and sustainable solution. Instead, you need to develop your win-win skills, which are based on the idea that both parties can benefit from a positive and constructive dialogue. Here are some tips on how to do that.

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Ishan Tharaka Uyangoda

Data Analyst at Wiley Sri Lanka | Former Banker at HSBC | CRM | BPO Management | TPRM | Crisis Management | Salesforce…

1 Identify the problem

The first step to developing your win-win skills is to identify the problem that is causing the conflict. This means clarifying what each of you wants, needs, and expects from the situation. You also need to acknowledge the emotions and values that are involved, and how they affect your perspective and behavior. By doing this, you can avoid misunderstandings, assumptions, and personal attacks, and focus on the real issues at hand.

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Ishan Tharaka Uyangoda

Data Analyst at Wiley Sri Lanka | Former Banker at HSBC | CRM | BPO Management | TPRM | Crisis Management | Salesforce | OTHM
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Listen up, really listen. Don't just wait for your turn to talk. Actively listen by putting your phone away, making eye contact, and nodding to show you're paying attention. Try to see things from their perspective. Ask clarifying questions to make sure you understand their point. They might just surprise you! By truly listening, you can find common ground and maybe even discover a solution that works for both of you. Plus, it shows respect, which can help cool things down and make the whole conversation way more productive. So ditch the one-upmanship and focus on understanding – it'll take your teamwork to a whole new level.

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Joseph Fowler

Customer Success Executive, Indirect Tax @ Thomson Reuters | As a trusted advisor, I guide corporate tax departments in meeting their tax technology needs.
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First...Is it necessary to even debate? What do I gain from continuing this debate. If it is relevant to the success of my job that is one thing, but often that is not the case. A win for me is not having to waste time on an argument . So as long as my role and success are not negatively affected, these days it's best to just tell the otherside "you make an excellent point," and give them the "win."

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2 Listen actively

The second step to developing your win-win skills is to listen actively to your colleague. This means paying attention to what they are saying, how they are saying it, and what they are not saying. You also need to show empathy, respect, and curiosity, and avoid interrupting, judging, or criticizing. By doing this, you can demonstrate that you care about their point of view, understand their feelings and needs, and are willing to learn from them.

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?Marion Segad?

Facilitadora de desarrollo y formación empresarial | People Developer
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La escucha activa es una herramienta poderosa que nos permite acceder a información invaluable sobre lo que realmente está sucediendo en una conversación. Va más allá de la superficie de los debates y nos permite captar las sutilezas y emociones subyacentes. Implica dar espacio para que el otro exprese sus pensamientos y sentimientos sin interrupciones, mientras prestamos total atención a su mensaje. Además, implica leer el lenguaje corporal, captar las emociones en juego y mostrar empatía genuina hacia las preocupaciones de nuestro interlocutor. Al practicar la escucha activa, demostramos un profundo respeto por la perspectiva y las necesidades del otro, fomentando así una comunicación más efectiva y relaciones más sólidas.

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3 Generate options

The third step to developing your win-win skills is to generate options for resolving the problem. This means brainstorming as many ideas as possible, without evaluating or rejecting them at first. You also need to be creative, flexible, and open-minded, and avoid imposing your own preferences or solutions. By doing this, you can expand the range of possibilities, find common ground, and create value for both of you.

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4 Evaluate and select

The fourth step to developing your win-win skills is to evaluate and select the best option for resolving the problem. This means comparing the pros and cons of each idea, based on criteria such as feasibility, fairness, and effectiveness. You also need to be rational, objective, and cooperative, and avoid compromising, dominating, or manipulating. By doing this, you can reach a mutual agreement that meets both of your interests and needs, and enhances your relationship.

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Harold F. Shamblin III, MSHRM

Director, Human Resources at Core Services Group
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In my experience developing win-win skills involves actively listening, showing empathy, and engaging in collaborative problem-solving during heated debates. Effective communication, seeking common ground, and honing negotiation skills are also essential. Additionally, implementing agreed options with clarity, accountability, and support, while following up regularly, ensures that solutions are executed efficiently, problems are addressed promptly, and positive outcomes are achieved in the workplace.

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5 Implement and follow up

The fifth step to developing your win-win skills is to implement and follow up on the agreed option. This means defining the actions, responsibilities, and deadlines for each of you, and communicating them clearly and explicitly. You also need to be committed, accountable, and supportive, and avoid procrastinating, reneging, or blaming. By doing this, you can ensure that the solution is executed effectively and efficiently, and that any problems or feedback are addressed promptly and respectfully.

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6 Reflect and learn

The sixth and final step to developing your win-win skills is to reflect and learn from the conflict resolution process. This means reviewing what went well and what could be improved, and acknowledging the contributions and achievements of each of you. You also need to be humble, grateful, and constructive, and avoid boasting, resenting, or repeating. By doing this, you can celebrate your success, strengthen your trust and rapport, and develop your skills for future conflicts.

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7 Here’s what else to consider

This is a space to share examples, stories, or insights that don’t fit into any of the previous sections. What else would you like to add?

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6 Reflect and learn

7 Here’s what else to consider

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