Mindfulness teaches us to pause, breathe, and observe critical feedback without jumping to defense. Instead of reacting, we reflect. Imagine feedback as waves – they can be choppy, but we don’t need to be swept away. By anchoring ourselves in the present, we separate our identity from any critique, seeing it as a tool for growth rather than a blow to our worth. This practice helps us approach feedback with curiosity instead of fear, making it easier to find valuable insights and let go of what doesn’t serve us. Remember, in mindfulness, feedback is a mirror, not a measure.

When I feel overwhelmed by critical feedback I use mindfulness to ground me in the present moment. I take a deep breath and take time to reflect on the feedback given separating the facts from my emotions. This is not an easy process, acknowledging that is the first step. Then I think about the present moment and ask myself how can I be better today with the feedback given.

Criticism if not taken personally can help improve. It is other’s perspective of what you do rather than self adulation. This of course needs to be coupled with confidence in self which should not be shaken with the allegations thrown at you. With the mindfulness that you can achieve what is expected of you, empathise with the person who is helping you know what is expected but is rude. Mindfulness not to react to offensiveness with defence.

First of all, listen without interrupting any critical feedback. Allow the other person to unload all negativity on it. Acknowledge that you have heard and understood what's being said and clarify if necessary to ensure you've gotten it all. Apologize and then ask for forgiveness with the caveat that it won't be repeated again. Mindfulness of this approach will enable you to recognize and move past it and allow you to keep a positive outlook and your dignity in place. Consider Bruce Lee's quote: "Be like water making its way through cracks. Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way around or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves. Empty your mind, be formless."