You're facing tense discussions with coworkers. How can mindfulness help you keep things on track?

Interessante abordagem sobre como a aten??o plena pode melhorar nossas intera??es no trabalho. Percebo que, ao focar na respira??o e ouvir sem julgar, conseguimos lidar melhor com conflitos e entender verdadeiramente as perspectivas dos colegas. Isso faz muita diferen?a.

Tense discussions require you to pause. Especially when you are at your workplace and you do not wish emotions to get the better of you. A short pause, tuning into your breath. Taking an observer role briefly and checking in to notice if the discussion is going in any direction or if it has turned into an argument of sorts. After this quick evaluation you may either want to bring the discussion - back on track and if that seems tough, - propose a short break, agreeable to both parties - re-schedule for a later time All of these will allow the emotions settle and the stress building up to release.

Staying present during tense discussions with coworkers helps you stay calm and focused, allowing you to listen actively and respond thoughtfully. It prevents misunderstandings and fosters clear communication, helping to resolve conflicts more effectively.

One thing I have learnt more recently over time is to remember, to not take this literally or personally. During tense discussions, displaying active listening and emotional intelligence is crucial. Read the room, if you find yourself feeling the environment is becoming uncomfortable, stop, breathe and ask to leave so you can collect your thoughts. Not everything needs a response immediately and being in tune with how your mind is coping must be priority. You will then respond in a more respectful tone and it remains professional. The perspective is stronger as you have not just simply reacted.

Apprendre à être en écoute active. Cela revient à être vraiment attentif à l'idée de l'autre, à ses émotions, ses pensées, tout en me permettant d'être plus à l'écoute de ces réel motivations. Cette approche permet d'être plus authentique, de se positionner comme un réel partenaire, professionnel. De plus, en étant dans cette écoute active, il est plus facile de relever les points réellement importants pour l'autre, de mieux lire les informations para verbale, non verbale, ainsi que l'intensité émotionnelle, lié aux éléments importants pour l'autre. L'écoute active permet de sortir d'un positionnement de conflits, de la sensation d'agression. Il s'agit là des bases d'une réelle négociation constructive et vous gagnerez en charisme

Listening deeply during tense discussions with coworkers allows you to fully understand their perspective, fostering empathy and clarity. This approach reduces misunderstandings, builds trust, and creates a constructive path to resolving conflicts. It will also helps to react with good emotional intelligence.

For me mindful listening involves the application of discernment and compassion. It’s about hearing the emotions and needs of the other party so that you can communicate those back to them and they can know they’ve been heard. It allows you to provide responses that are relevant to the problem at hand.

Your judgments can take you away from what the person talking to you is saying. If you notice any judgments arising, see if you can release them, and turn your attention back to the speaker with an open mind. You may need to repeat this throughout the conversation.

Mindfulness helps you listen without judgment or the urge to interrupt, showing respect and gaining a clearer understanding of coworkers' viewpoints. This deep listening fosters empathy, prevents misunderstandings, and equips you to address underlying issues, leading to respectful resolutions.

Mindfulness improves emotional regulation by helping you recognize triggers and pause before reacting. This allows you to acknowledge feelings like anger or frustration without letting them control the conversation, maintaining professionalism and ensuring productive discussions.

Think of your emotions as mouth pieces for your body. When a situation triggers a strong emotional response in you, check out where exactly you are feeling that response in your body. If you are forced to make a rational decision and have a professional conversation, ground yourself by listening to your 3 brains before responding. What does your gut, your heart and your head tell you at that moment? Trust your own physical intelligence and listen to your body. Your mind will then be able to gather this data and respond through an informed choice.

La reconnaissance des émotions est la première étape de la régulation émotionnelle. Elle se décompose de la manière suivante : - Prendre conscience des ressentis dans le corps. - Remarquer tous les micro-détails de la sensation : la taille, la forme, la température, la tension et le mouvement. - Permettre à cette sensation d’être présente sans la juger, sans chercher à la modifier ou à la contr?ler. - Identifier et mommer l'émotion : "Je ressens..." - Lui faire de la place et l'autoriser à être présente " Je m'autorise à ressentir de..." - Comprendre quel est le déclencheur ?

Mindfulness allows us to connect with the sensations that arise in our body that tell us something is wrong. It's okay to feel angry, scared, afraid, or upset, however, it's what we do in those moments that dictate the outcomes we receive, especially in a professional setting. When we are aware a conversation is triggering a part of us that perhaps feels afraid of rejection, abandonment, or misunderstanding, we can give ourselves the grace to stop, pause, regather ourselves, and tell ourselves what is factual. We can also slowly rewire the parts of our brain that tell us this isn't safe, to handle conflict with more ease, and composure.

To respond wisely, below points can be helpful: Pause and breathe: Take a moment to calm yourself before responding. Stay calm and composed: Maintain a neutral tone and body language. Acknowledge their perspective: Show understanding by summarizing their points. Choose words carefully: Use clear, respectful, and non-confrontational language. Stay solution-focused: Offer constructive suggestions or compromises. Set boundaries if needed: Politely set limits if the discussion becomes unproductive or hostile.

By cultivating mindfulness, you can pause before responding. This brief moment of reflection enables you to choose your words and actions consciously, promoting constructive dialogue rather than escalating conflict.

I would add “and kindly.” Keep in mind that under stress the non-dominant side of the brain can be compromised, leaving us as virtual half-wits. Paying attention to tone and volume — how you express yourself — can be as helpful as content in driving an important conversation in a productive direction.

El responder sabiamente utilizando el mindfulness requiere un trabajo cognitivo importante. Es frenar nuestro sistema emocional que nos alerta, percibiendo eso que nos dicen como amenaza y activando nuestro cortex prefrontal para analizar y producir las palabras más adecuadas y racionales posibles, sin tanto " velo emocional" que normalmente, suele ser impulsivo y poco reflexivo. Responder con intención cambia completamente la forma en la cual la conversación se lleva a cabo, pues permite que si la otra parte está reaccionando de forma emocional, y tú respondes de manera intencional, se da el espacio para que la intencionalidad prevalezca, baja la impulsividad y permite que el dialogo fluya de mejor manera.

One of the effective methods I use to respond wisely vs react impulsively is to pause, think, then choose. Mindful breathing can transform impulsive reactions into thoughtful, intentional dialogue. This approach fosters respect, de-escalates tension, and encourages collaboration. By responding with care, you not only express your perspective effectively but also invite constructive feedback and solutions, leading to more meaningful and productive interactions.

La empatia es el motor de todas nuestras relaciones, nos permite interpretar en forma más exacta las posibles emociones que pueden surgir en un escenario de interacción con otro/a

Se habla mucho de cómo la empatía juega un papel fundamental en la comunicación asertiva, y así es. Comprender de la forma más holística posible el punto de vista del otro, lo que le duele, el porqué dice lo que dice y las emociones que esto le genera...todo esto no pasaría si no estamos al 100% en observación del presente, de lo que ocurre en ese momento y salir de nosotros para concentrarnos en la persona que tenemos al frente. Esto permite que ampliemos nuestra percepción, comprendamos la realidad del otro y seamos conscientes del humano que nos está hablando. Desde la compasión y la asertividad. Cultivar la empatía tiene también relación estrecha con la contención del ego, que en estas conversaciones, es algo tan vivo y presente.

Cultivar empatia é como cal?ar os sapatos de outra pessoa, entendendo suas experiências e desafios. Se um colega está frustrado com um projeto, como quando alguns mentees est?o em busca por emprego, reconhecer o esfor?o e os desafios enfrentados por eles, mesmo que você n?o concorde completamente, mostra compaix?o e facilita a colabora??o.

Mindfulness fosters empathy, helping you understand coworkers' emotions and motivations. This empathetic approach can ease conflicts and create a harmonious work environment, promoting compassionate discussions and finding common ground.

Mindfulness cultivates empathy, allowing us to connect with others' experiences. By practicing active listening, acknowledging emotions, and asking open-ended questions, we bridge the gap between perspectives. “Ubuntu" asks humanity from one towards others. Mindfulness helps us see beyond our own lens, fostering a culture of compassion and understanding. Let empathy be the foundation of our interactions, building trust and collaboration.

When you even know that the discussion has gone way above your expectations in terms of disagreement, you must express your thoughts maintaining a good balance. Say you what you think is a must to be expressed in the best possible , professional way and know where its good to try to listen to business perspective as well.

Creo que cuando hablamos de equilibrio se trata de mantener y preparar tu energía para tener una conversación que busca un cambio.. evitar estar cansado física y mentalmente, tener claridad mental de que es lo que quiero expresar y buscar la mejor forma para poder llegar al otro, siempre desde una mirada colaborativa y constructiva.

I believe balance in challenging conversations is crucial as it enhances your ability to remain empathetic and open-minded. By being fully present, you can better understand diverse perspectives, fostering a more inclusive dialogue. This approach encourages collaborative problem-solving and strengthens relationships, leading to more effective and harmonious outcomes. Additionally, it builds resilience, helping you manage stress and stay grounded even when faced with adversity.

Mindfulness helps you stay balanced during challenging conversations, allowing you to navigate difficulties without becoming overwhelmed. This balance is crucial for making clear-headed decisions and keeping the focus on solutions, ensuring a positive outcome for everyone involved.

If you have a situation to attend that requires balance, be sure to have an old fashioned type pair of scales and bring them with you. Demonstrate balance through the obvious and what happens when things become heavier one side than the other

Unified Team Approach. Being mindful means to know that any tense situation can be perceived in numerous ways. 'We are together on this', is what should be the tone of our discussions. It is imperative that team members share their perspectives. Once that's done, we highlight the constraints in our situation and look for common terms.

The movies Inside&Out one and II just released are a good visual for what works for me. I can see my emotions entering the room but I don’t yield the command to them unless warranted.

Cultiver la présence à ce qui se joue est un bon début qui permet de d'identifier, de comprendre et de réguler l'activation émotionnelle. Cependant dans de nombreuses situations cela reste inopérant. Le changement de perspective est une stratégie de régulation émotionnelle qui consiste à réinterpréter activement un événement de manière à en moduler la réponse émotionnelle. Puis de choisir une réponse adaptée au contexte. Faire des choix implique d'identifier avec clarté ce qui est important pour soi tout en acceptant l’inconfort de l'incertitude et de l'ambigu?té qui l'accompagne inévitablement.

Mindfulness is a word we use when we are actively aware of our body’s internal environment, physically, emotionally and mentally. We can take the same skills learned during mindfulness and apply them to our external environment to build Awareness. How our colleagues are feeling, the energy in the room, the environment around us and how our actions are impacting them.

Listen to understand, not to answer! When you reflect and validate the feelings of other person he/she will have the sense that is heared and understood. On the other hand, when you are present in the conversation and hear what the other say and understand how he/she feels, it will be easier to find that you are on common ground.