I start by simplifying the process. We revisit their core values and priorities to ensure their goals align with what truly matters to them. Sometimes, the issue is overwhelming, so I break their goals into smaller, actionable steps, focusing on gradual progress rather than perfection. I also explore any limiting beliefs or barriers they may face and shift toward a more supportive, flexible approach. This might involve reframing setbacks as learning opportunities or introducing alternative methods, like visualization or habit tracking, to motivate them. By adapting to their needs and meeting them where they are, I help rebuild their confidence and keep the process moving forward at a manageable pace and aligned with their vision.

I like to ask the client what is one action they may want to take already today. This way they can ride the momentum of the overall goal. We also go over all the potential obstacles that may get in the way, as well as setting a timeline to do it. Finally, I believe that the key to an effective goal is for the client to have their incentive crystal clear. Often why the client thinks they want something is not it. It takes deep coaching to unravel the true incentive.

I love bringing in embodied or somatic exercises for this one. Say a client really wants to lose weight, but can't seem to start eating healthier. I would start with a grounding exercise, and then invite them to step into a space to one side that represents "diet", and feel into it. Then we would take a breath back in "neutral", and move into a space (could be a different posture on a chair, a different chair, a step to the other side, etc.) that represents "embrace now", and feel into that. Sometimes we follow goals we think we should have, but they're not really right for us in our bodies at this time. There's a time for goals, and there's a time for rest. Maybe now is more rest-time.

I help them clarify their values to align goals with what truly matters. I break goals into smaller, actionable steps to make them manageable. I use visualization techniques to help them see their success. I encourage them to track progress and celebrate small wins. I teach them to reframe setbacks as learning opportunities. I introduce flexible goal-setting to adjust to their changing needs. I hold them accountable while providing consistent support and motivation.

When my clients feel stuck with their goals, I like to hit pause and refocus. Instead of chasing big, overwhelming targets, we break it all down into small, doable wins. The kind that feel good to check off. I also take time to really listen—what’s driving them, and what’s secretly holding them back? From there, we map out a plan that feels less “pressure” and more “progress.” Something that builds confidence and keeps the motivation alive. And if the plan needs tweaking along the way? No problem. I’m right there, cheering them on every step.