Your boss is impossible to please. How can you keep your sanity?

In my career I have had some of the absolute best bosses, and I have had some of the absolute worst bosses. Understand that their opinion does not change the quality, passion, drive, integrity of the energy and commitment you bring to the table. Stay the course. If they are overtly negative, counter that by bringing positivity. Remember that you were the successful candidate for your position. You got the position because of a culmination of the work, knowledge, passion, education and experience. Don't let someone's impossible nature dull your shine.

Facing this recently.. yes! Acknowledging the keyword.. but I do also believe the work hard done by them to be success as today is the reason for the lack of trust! I guess, give it a time and keep giving the best is what the best I can do now! Lets time determine.

Bosses must align styles with individual needs. The Situational Leadership model suggests that when leaders do not match their support to an employee's competence and commitment, problems arise. Failing to adjust leadership styles can lead to tension. Recognizing misalignment is crucial, and the leader is responsible for providing appropriate guidance, support, and psychological safety. This insight can clarify issues in the boss-employee relationship, assuming the boss's behavior remains ethical and professional. Identifying this gap allows for strategic approaches to seeking clarity, advocating for better leadership practices, and finding mutual goals, transforming challenges into opportunities for improved dynamics and personal growth.

Focus on your strength and keep up the good work. Positive things can never be unnoticed. Wear your Patience, and don't try to PLEASE anyone just complete assigned tasks beforehand, you are not in a job to please anyone, you get paid for your KRA'S

Stop pleasing him. Ask for detail and ask for what is the desire outcome. Deliver that is feel good about it. If this is interfering with your mental well-being, speak about it openly.

ChatGPT Setting boundaries is crucial when dealing with challenging bosses. It's vital to confidently communicate what workload and responsibilities are realistic for you, clarifying what you can handle versus what exceeds your limits. Open communication about your needs and expectations prevents misunderstandings and preserves your professional integrity. Protecting your time and energy by limiting unnecessary interactions and focusing on priorities that align with your career goals and company success is key. Learning to say "no" to requests that exceed your capacity is essential to avoid burnout and protect your mental health. Overall, it's about finding a balance that allows you to work effectively without overextending yourself.

Based on my experience, I made the mistake of saying YES to every task, thinking I was helping my team and contributing to the company. However, this backfired when I was questioned about my focus and expertise. I learned the importance of clearly defining roles and responsibilities before joining a company and the value of saying NO to extra work. This ensures that your specialized skills are highlighted during promotions or evaluations, rather than being overshadowed by a multitude of tasks.

Make sure your boss is hard to please only because you are truly not achieving a result / a KPI and not because he or she has a personal problem with you. If this is the problem, then no matter how high you jump - it will never be enough

Seeking support is crucial in navigating tough work situations. In my view, building a network of trusted individuals offering diverse support is key. Colleagues can share coping strategies, while friends and family provide emotional backing. External professionals like coaches offer objective advice and conflict resolution skills. Connecting with a community facing similar challenges offers practical solutions and a sense of belonging. It's about creating a broad support base to foster personal and professional growth and resilience against work challenges.

If you are seeking guidance or just help, declare not only needs but combine them with constructive and creative ideas, and try to communicate the benefits of reaching a common goal.

Be more solution-oriented: Propose ideas, not just problems. This fosters action and better understanding. Try to move from reactive to proactive: Instead of simply identifying problems, focus on developing potential solutions or at least proposing approaches before seeking guidance. This demonstrates initiative and critical thinking.

Focusing on the positive aspects of your work and achievements is essential. Remind yourself of your passion, purpose, and values as a community organizer, and the impact you can make. Celebrate your successes and milestones, no matter their size, and reward yourself for your hard work and dedication. Cultivating a positive mindset and attitude by practicing gratitude, optimism, and resilience can significantly improve how you feel about your work and challenges.

The fifth step is to learn and grow from this experience, using it as an opportunity to develop your skills and competencies. Identify your strengths and weaknesses, seek feedback and learning opportunities to enhance your performance and potential. Reflect on your challenges and mistakes as learning moments rather than setbacks. Explore new possibilities and opportunities to advance your career and goals.

There’s always an opportunity to learn and grow, no matter the situation you find yourself in. I’ve personally learned more from bosses that didn’t encourage me or who made my life tough because it taught me a lot about human nature and maintaining personal sovereignty in all situations. My personal experience in different situations taught me lots about how I wanted to communicate and how I wanted to lead others. It also provided me with a stronger resiliency because I got really knowledgeable about who I Am and what I’m capable of and that makes it easier to be less affected by the behaviour of others.

Regularly reflecting on your day or week and jotting down lessons learned is a powerful habit. It ensures you capture valuable insights before they fade, while also highlighting recurring issues that need addressing. This simple practice promotes continuous learning and helps you proactively solve problems for greater success.

You can't control your boss's personality but you can control your work ethic and attitude. Focus on delivering high-quality work that meets clear deadlines. The objective is to watch, learn and excel

Maintaining your sanity involves setting boundaries, communicating effectively, and focusing on what you can control. It might also help to find support from colleagues or a mentor to navigate the situation. Remember to prioritize your well-being and seek out activities that help you relax and recharge outside of work.

The question of keeping your sanity when you have an impossible to please boss, arises from the standard that pleasing one's boss should be one's utmost important priority to hold on to. My take on this is different. This standard is false. Remove this standard and this question loses its ground to exist. Why should you be working to bring pleasure to your boss in the first place? Work for money, sense of achievement, personal development, learning, enjoying, maintaining good living standards and other countless reasons relating to yourself. Don't these reasons suffice?