What's the best way to distinguish between assertiveness and aggressiveness in the workplace?

Mastering assertive communication is key to navigating the professional landscape and propelling your career forward. It's a delicate balance between firmness and collaboration. Yet being assertive in the workplace involves walking a fine line between being aggressive and assertion. This requires a delicate dance of balancing your needs with those of your coworkers, without disagreeing. Instead of using accusatory "you" statements, focus on presenting the facts objectively when addressing a problem. Express your feelings using "I feel" statements to convey your perspective without pointing fingers. Striking this balance ensures a positive and productive workplace dynamic.

Assertion comes from a place of putting up one's own perspective and being open to giving space for another to put up their own. Aggression doesn't leave room for another's perspective. With assertiveness, there is an opportunity to engage and consider mutual higher order objectives. With aggression though, only one side prevails, leaving the other person bitter.

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Assertion intends to bring freedom to express one's own view but give space to the other person to express their view. The aim is to discover if a "win-win" situation can be created. Aggression looks to create a "win-lose" situation, so there is no giving space to another person, but a pushing of one's own viewpoint. Assertion opens up room for collaboration but aggressiveness breeds resentment.

? Assertive behavior: Assertiveness involves expressing your thoughts, feelings, and needs in a clear, direct, and respectful way. It involves standing up for yourself while also considering the feelings and rights of others. Assertive communication aims to achieve compromises and win-win outcomes where both parties feel heard and respected. ? Aggressive behavior: Aggression, on the other hand, involves expressing your thoughts, feelings, and needs in a way that disregards or violates the rights of others. It often involves hostile or combative behavior, seeking to dominate or control others. Aggressive communication aims to achieve a “win-for-me” or “win-for-my-team” outcome where one party's needs are met at the expense of the other's.

Aggressive behavior borders on domination and forceful markers in body language. Look for proverbial table-thumping, disregard in tone, lack of listening, raising of volume while talking. Assertive behaviour involves being firm but with emotional regulation. Speaking and conduct are guided only by the impact of the opinion and stating of position. There is confidence and directness while speaking and flexibility and openness while listening.

Aggressiveness can have short-term benefits in a specific situation, perhaps where there has been injustice or lack of urgent action. However, this cannot be adopted as a long-term approach due to the negative feeling it creates in the other side. Eventually, assertiveness needs to be adopted so that win-win path is carved out. Assertiveness is hard. It requires patience and a temperament for listening to opposing views and being able to see those ideas for their merit. However, this is a reliable way to foster long-term collaboration while retaining empathy for different opinions.

Aggressiveness can elicit an extreme response from the other side, even if you view has some validity, purely because there is lack of regard for other's views. Assertiveness can be mistaken for meekness and may create a perception of not being forceful in one's stand due to the room given to listen to other's viewpoint.

Due to cultural differences, we might mistake aggressiveness for assertiveness because cultural norms and communication styles vary widely across different societies. What may be considered assertive in one culture might be perceived as aggressive in another. It's essential to understand and respect cultural nuances to accurately interpret communication behaviors and avoid misinterpretations.

In my experience it is important to consider the gender and race stereotypes associated with the concepts of assertiveness and aggressiveness. It is not uncommon today for women and people of color to be accused of being "aggressive" when the same behavior would be considered assertive in men and white people. It is important to be cautious of labelling behavior as assertive or aggressive without taking into account such stereotypes.

Unfortunately, I've seen leaders ignore aggressive behavior for too long, leading to a negative impact on trust and collaboration. Let's be honest, we're all human, and it can be uncomfortable to address aggressive behavior, especially when it's exhibited by a high-performing team member with an impressive track record. The question for a leader is: What is the real cost and impact of allowing such behavior to continue? Conversely, what are the actual costs and impacts of a team lacking assertiveness? Moreover, what might be the underlying cause of this lack of assertiveness?