What steps can you take to develop a coaching philosophy?

I find significant value from introspection, often inspired by insights of Stephen Covey. See yourself at your own memorial service, where four speakers—representing family, friends, colleagues, and church members—are sharing their perspectives. Now, let's introduce a fifth speaker, a coaching client. What impressions do you wish they would convey about you? Reflect on the nature of your coaching, the lasting impact you had, and the contributions you'd like them to recall. By defining these aspirations, you're setting goals with the end in mind. Our effectiveness is truly realized when we embark on our journey with a clear vision of the destination. By engaging in reflective exercise, you set a strategic course for your present actions.

I think defining your values and mission statement is the first step in developing a coaching philosophy. I like to use Brene Brown's values exercise. She gives you a list of hundreds of values, then you slowly narrow it down to 2. I literally make all my decisions based on whether or not they align with these values. And I developed my coaching philosophy doing the same - anywhere from the clients I meet with to the tools I have created. A mission statement can be used as an expansion on your values - but they should be totally in alignment.

The easiest step is to ask those around you about their experiences with you. What do your colleagues, acquaintances, friends, and family say about you? This includes both positive feedback and areas for improvement. Do you recognize yourself in their descriptions? What is your unique superpower, and what are your pet peeves? Use others' opinions to craft your own authentic narrative. This way, you avoid limiting yourself to just the obvious topics.

There are many different coaching styles and methods, and it's important to choose one that aligns with your values and personality. Some coaches may prefer a more results-oriented approach, while others may be more focused on personal growth and development. Once you've chosen your approach, you can begin to develop a set of core principles that guide your coaching style. These principles should be rooted in your values and reflect your unique perspective on what makes a successful coach. By consistently applying these principles to your coaching, you can build a reputation as a reliable and effective coach who can help your clients achieve their goals.

Coaching is a way of being; we all have internal guides that look after our needs. It involves simplifying things into easily understandable parts. Sometimes, our words have deeper meanings, and coaching helps unravel those layers. When faced with a situation, apply the rule of asking "Why" five times to get to the core of your goal or task. Philosophies may be forgotten, but a way of life is ingrained in every breath, staying with you always. Take a moment to meditate or sit in silence; eventually, it will offer the answers you seek. In case you are unable to coach yourself take the help of an external coach.