What are some ways to ask for consent effectively when communicating with peers?

1 Why ask for consent?

Asking for consent is not only a sign of respect, but also a way to build rapport and trust with your peers. By asking for consent, you are acknowledging that your peers have the right to decide what they want to share, how they want to share it, and when they want to share it. You are also showing that you are willing to listen and learn from their perspectives, experiences, and needs. Asking for consent can also prevent misunderstandings, conflicts, or harm that may arise from assuming, imposing, or crossing boundaries.

3 What to do after asking for consent?

Asking for consent is not a one-time event, but an ongoing process that requires continuous attention and communication. After asking for consent, confirm and clarify what was agreed upon, respect the boundaries and preferences expressed, and review and renew the consent regularly. For example, repeat or summarize what was agreed on, check if there are any questions or conditions, follow the expressed boundaries and preferences, check in with peers to see how they are feeling, and ask for consent again if you want to change or continue the topic, action, or feedback.

4 What are some challenges to asking for consent?

Asking for consent may not always be easy or comfortable, as you may face some challenges or barriers along the way. Fear of rejection or judgment is a common issue, but it is important to remember that consent is not a reflection of your worth or competence. Additionally, lack of awareness or skills may be an issue, but you can seek out information and practice with peers, mentors, or coaches to improve. Cultural or social norms can also be difficult to overcome, as there may be stereotypes, biases, or stigmas that influence views on consent. To challenge these norms, it is important to educate yourself and others on the value and diversity of consent and advocate for a culture of consent in peer support settings.

5 How to support your peers in asking for consent?

As a peer supporter, you can also play a role in supporting your peers in asking for consent, both as a receiver and a giver. Model and encourage asking for consent by showing your peers how you ask for it in your own communication and inviting them to do the same. Additionally, provide and request feedback on asking for consent, and recognize and celebrate efforts and achievements in this area. Asking for consent is a vital skill for peer supporters, as it can enhance communication, relationships, and outcomes with peers. By following these tips and strategies, you can ask for consent effectively and respectfully, creating a safe and supportive environment.

6 Here’s what else to consider

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