What are some self-confidence myths that can harm your professional relationships?

2 Myth 2: Self-confidence is arrogant

Another myth is that self-confidence is synonymous with arrogance, narcissism, or egotism. This is not true either. Self-confidence is a healthy and realistic assessment of your abilities and worth, while arrogance is a distorted and exaggerated sense of superiority and entitlement. Self-confidence does not mean that you think you are better than others, or that you disregard their opinions and feelings. On the contrary, self-confidence allows you to respect yourself and others, and to collaborate and communicate effectively. You can avoid arrogance by being humble, open-minded, and empathetic, and by recognizing and appreciating the contributions of others.

4 Myth 4: Self-confidence is always positive

A fourth myth is that self-confidence is always beneficial and desirable, and that more self-confidence is always better. This is not necessarily true. Self-confidence can have positive or negative effects depending on how you use it and how you balance it with other skills and values. Too much self-confidence can lead to overconfidence, complacency, or risk-taking, which can harm your professional relationships and outcomes. Too little self-confidence can lead to underconfidence, insecurity, or self-doubt, which can also harm your professional relationships and outcomes. You can optimize your self-confidence by being realistic, objective, and critical, and by aligning your self-confidence with your goals and values.

5 Myth 5: Self-confidence is independent

A fifth myth is that self-confidence is something you can achieve on your own, without the influence or input of others. This is not accurate. Self-confidence is a social and relational skill that is shaped by your interactions and relationships with others. You can build your self-confidence by cultivating positive and supportive relationships with your colleagues, managers, clients, and mentors. You can also enhance your self-confidence by giving and receiving feedback, recognition, and praise, and by participating in teamwork, networking, and mentoring.

6 Myth 6: Self-confidence is static

A sixth myth is that self-confidence is a final and permanent state that you can reach and maintain forever. This is not realistic. Self-confidence is a continuous and ongoing process that requires constant attention and effort. You can grow your self-confidence by challenging yourself, learning new skills, exploring new opportunities, and embracing change. You can also sustain your self-confidence by reviewing your progress, celebrating your achievements, and acknowledging your challenges.

7 Here’s what else to consider

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