What are the most common reasons clients fail to achieve their goals in personal coaching?

De mon expérience, c'est souvent la dimension écologique de l'objectif, pour la personne et son pour son système, qui peut bloquer. Par exemple une personne qui aurait pour objectif de faire du sport 5 fois par semaine, même avec la meilleure volonté et un accompagnement solide, pourrait ne pas y arriver parce qu'elle n'a pas vérifié avant que c'était tenable dans le temps dans son organisation de vie. C'est un exemple tout simple pour montrer qu'il y a bien la personne et son système et que les 2 sont à étudier dans la réalisation d'un objectif, même personnel.

Before you define SMART goals I find it important to work on the desired target picture. Imagine 5 years from know what would you like that people are thinking and saying about you? Details matter! Take time for exploration. Describe how do you act and feel when you are this person that is described. Details matter! Take time for exploration. What is the next step you can do today to get closer to this target picture?

Nous parlons souvent de la peur de l'échec, mais je pense que la peur du succès est également un élément clé qui influence la réalisation des objectifs de nos clients. Définir des objectifs avec eux est important, mais les aider à les décomposer pour les rendre quantifiables et atteignables permet un meilleur suivi. Surtout, cela offre une approche moins contraignante et plus réalisable pour eux.

People don’t fail - they quit. The top reason people quit is self limiting belief systems. I’m not good enough, I’ve never, I don’t know how, I’m not good enough, I don’t have enough __, I’m not qualified. Most people are conditioned through generations, families, school systems to have fixed mindset. Fixed mindsets are like tunnel vision, inability to see, think or feel bigger pictures or outside the box. People feel comfort in their fixed mindset, knowing only current and past experiences. If an action has kept them safe from a perceived threat or challenge, they unconsciously chose old behaviours. Instead of adapting a growth mindset for change, people often revert to old behaviours to feel safe.

Nobody said the journey of life would be easy, but chasing your dreams is priceless. Sometimes, when you lack motivation to pursue your goals, your current situation might feel comfortable enough for you to merely survive in it. Alternatively, the prospect of a new journey can seem overwhelming and challenging. Focus on one step at the time, you will have it all but not all at once and if you give up or not even try you will 100% fail. Give yourself a chance to succeed.

Procrastination and inconsistency. Most of the time old habits overpower new lessons and there’s no one to hold your arm when coaching ends

It's all about knowing exactly how your vision will look like and knowing why you want to achieve it. Then, you start creating habits. You do that by translating your goals into tiny action steps. And then start planning and executing. Taking off will be the hardest part. Find yourself an accountability partner - that will increase your chances of pulling through by 40%!

Pour faire un commentaire constructif, il faut du temps. Il faut énormément communiquer pour comprendre le fonctionnement de la personne. Est-ce que je dois enjoliver, être direct, faire des "recommandations", il existe tellement de fa?on de communiquer que trouver la bonne, la plus adaptée à la situation est parfois compliquée. Difficile de donner un autre conseil que d' écouter votre client pour bien identifier la manière dont il a besoin qu'on lui parle.

As coaches, we don’t give feedback to clients, until they specifically ask for it (and most of them don’t ask). I recommend to read through ICF competencies, it will help to understand what coaching is about and why it’s important. Again, if we discover goals that truly important, there will be no issues achieving them.

A major part of personal growth is acceptance of feedback even if it's not what we agree with. Once the client has put their faith in their coach, they must also endeavor to assimilate it and implement it. It might not be in line with the set expectations and that's how learning works.

Collaborate with your coach to establish a schedule for regular goal reviews and progress assessments. These sessions serve as a reflection on your current position, acknowledging how far you've come, and determining the focus for the future. I personally schedule reviews with my clients every 2 to 3 months, ensuring we stay consistently updated on their progress. This approach helps ensure that the goals remain relevant to their evolving focus and aspirations.

Para mí es fundamental que exista una relación de confianza mutua, en primer lugar. Confianza que debe saber transmitir tu coach para que se cree ese espacio seguro donde el cliente se sienta libre de ser totalmente sincero, en cuanto a su vida, emociones, objetivos etcétera. Esa es la base principal. De ahí en más, las habilidades, orientaciones y técnicas usadas por tu coach van a marcar la diferencia. En este punto, otro aspecto muy importante es la revisión y actualización constante y eficaz. Entrando aquí en juego: la experiencia del terapeuta ante la incertidumbre y cambios en la vida en general, y en la vida del cliente en particular.

Celebrate Progress. Acknowledge any progress or successes, no matter how small. It's essential to maintain a positive focus and reinforce that setbacks, if any, are a natural part of the learning and growth process. Masterpiece = Master all the pieces. In the same way, celebrate all the small wins to eventually achieving that big win (ultimate goal).

Feedback is necessary from coach and client. If an exercise or dietary suggestion is harmful for example a client might feel they need to 'push through the pain' where coaches know that this is unnecessary and dangerous. Sharing all experiences helps to tailor the plan to best suit each client.

Identify and address the challenges that may impede progress, devising strategies to overcome them. It's crucial to recognize that individuals have lives beyond their goals, and plans should accommodate these aspects. Incorporating social support and self-care is essential to foster personal growth within an environment that encourages individuals to become the best versions of themselves. This holistic approach ensures that the journey towards the goal is both sustainable and fulfilling.

J'essaie souvent d'identifier le degré d'autonomie sur ce point. à quel point cette personne est autosuffisante pour rester motivée. Il y a souvent des personnes qui ont envie (je dis envie car elles disent souvent besoin, mais c'est faux) d'être accompagné pour tout, tout le temps. Comme si nous les coachs pouvions devenir le petit ange sur leurs épaules pour les conseiller en permanence. Parfois ils essaient de faire prendre ce r?le à de l'entourage mais c'est tout bonnement impossible. J'essaie de leur faire prendre conscience de cela et de les aider à trouver une stabilité émotionnelle qui leur permet de voir clairement la situation et d'agir avec raison

Esa parte es fundamental, ya que su bien trabajo con mujeres en solitario, cuando se presenta alguna con pareja e hijos, les pido que la carta compromiso sea familiar o en pareja, para que ambos apoyen el proceso, sobre todo por qué es financiero el resultado que se busca.

The lack of flexibility and a resistance to accepting challenges can also contribute to clients failing to achieve their goals in personal coaching. Flexibility is crucial because rigid attitudes or behaviors can hinder adaptation to new strategies or circumstances that arise during the coaching process. Similarly, a reluctance to accept challenges can prevent clients from stepping out of their comfort zones and embracing opportunities for growth. By fostering flexibility and a willingness to embrace challenges, clients can better navigate obstacles, learn from setbacks, and ultimately progress towards their goals more effectively.

You go to a coaching because your familiar ways dont bring you where you wanna go - maybe you feel stuck. A good coach will ask you questions, that you have not asked yourself before, to shift your thoughts into another direction, open possibilities and freedom in action that you maybe didnt even see before. So: If you are not flexible or strictly resist thinking and trying things in a new way - of course nothing will change. Nothing changes if nothing changes.

En effet, il m'est arrivé d'avoir a faire à des personnes qui avaient un discours en contradiction avec ce qu'ils étaient capables de vouloir faire. "Je veux changer" très bien donc il va falloir changer des choses "non c'est trop dur de faire ?a, je n'y arrive pas" avant même d'avoir essayé. Il y a des blocages psychologiques qui les empêchent d'essayer de changer. C'est peut-être la partie la plus difficile à prendre en compte dans l'encadrement.

Insisto lo que a mi me ha funcionado junto con mis clientes es una bitácora, la cual al final de cada sesión se alimenta con tareas muy específicas y fechas de cumplimiento, que contemplan la meta, así como las micro metas y se va monitoreando los avances por cada sesión.

I have found that, sometimes, clients' internal resistance to change is a root cause of their struggle to achieve goals in personal development coaching. Even when individuals desire growth, deeply ingrained beliefs and conditioning can lead to subconscious self-sabotage. Clients with fixed mindsets or strong opinions might resist fully surrendering to the coaching process, limiting their ability to embrace new perspectives. Clients who join coaching solely for external incentives rather than personal growth. Without a burning desire for transformation and the ability to let go of preconceived notions, meaningful progress can be difficult to achieve.

Being afraid of success. People tend to self-sabotage whenever they get too close to accomplishing a goal that requires them to change.

Breaking down goals into smaller, more manageable milestones can mitigate many of the reasons for failure in personal coaching. By setting achievable targets, clients can enhance their sense of accountability, maintain motivation, and build confidence through consistent progress. Additionally, smaller goals allow for greater flexibility and adaptability, as clients can adjust their approach based on feedback and evolving circumstances. While it may take longer to reach larger objectives, focusing on small attainable goals increases the likelihood of sustained success and fosters a positive coaching experience.

El coaching personal busca entre otras cosas que el cliente se descubra, se conozca y se potencie a partir de quien es, es un proceso a ratos largo, a veces no es posible alcanzar objetivos para el cliente o coachee, porque no está realmente preparado, tiene un deseo o una idea, pero no es el momento ?a quién no le ha pasado? Y no significa que el cliente no sea una persona comprometida ni que el coach no haya hecho bien el trabajo, a veces solamente no es el momento, se debe dar tiempo para madurar en el proceso, se aclaran las dudas, e incluso podría ser que cambie el objetivo a corto plazo, pero ese cambio finalmente llevará al cliente a lograr más de lo que esperaba. He aprendido que se alcanza la meta cuando es el momento.