What do you do if your self-confidence wavers after a failure in Peer Support?

Some things that I do and encourage others to do is self reflection whether it be by journaling or taking down voice notes in the moment and asking a few questions. Some examples of things I've journaled and reflected upon in the past: - what triggered this? - what primary emotion am I feeling? - what can I do to be change my mindset? - who can I reach out to? - what am I grateful for today? - will I feel this way forever? - what way does it serve me to keep sitting in this negative space? And then I create an action plan and ways to keep myself accountable around everything that I've gone through. This has been quite impactful on myself and anyone I've coached, if they are willing to do it.

Journaling can be a powerful tool for processing emotions after a setback in peer support. Here are some journaling prompts to get you started: "Today, I felt discouraged because..." "During the interaction, I noticed that..." "Next time, I could try..." "One positive takeaway from this experience is..." Remember, journaling is a private space for self-reflection. Don't worry about grammar or spelling - just let your thoughts flow freely. By using journaling in this way, you can turn a setback into a valuable learning experience and build the confidence you need to be a successful peer supporter.

I've learned in this field to NEVER take it personal. I strive to live my life more self-aware. When somebody's personal struggles causes them to stumble, especially when I'm out in the field and happen to be unlucky enough to walk into it (happened too MANY times throughout my career so far), but I try to encourage them to not take it so hard. My own response is a complete 180° difference from how I respond now, versus when I first began.

In my experience Self-Confidence can’t be taught, when working as a NYS certified Peer Worker each stone is an accomplishment no matter the outcome. It can be used as resourceful tool in your box. Each interaction can be used a lesson . It’s important to validate their emotions. You to acknowledge your own feelings and emotions at another time. Each person is different, there is no cookie cutter. Always lead with open ear, compassion and understanding. I suggest breaking down your session with senior peer to help learn and grow!

Peer support is all about using experience to support and help others. In this, it is important to reflect on perceived failures and use them as a learning experience. Lived experience is about understanding that we all experience life differently, but subtly so; enough to feel alone at key points in our lives. Peer support is making a connection and using lived experience to support people in this feeling. "I have been through something similar" as opposed to "I know how you feel". There are many events in life that are universally felt on some level. Failure of confidence is one of these feelings. Acknowledge how YOU feel. Accept the outcome, feel your feelings, and when you are ready, move forward towards learning from it.

Absolutely. Stepping back and analyzing the situation objectively helps identify what you can control (your approach, questions) and what's external (nerves, environment). This empowers you to focus on improvement areas and builds confidence for future interactions.

Reflection is a tool that everyone is capable of but not everyone can do safely or constructively. There is a keen difference between rumination and reflection. To build a healthy reflective practice, you must do it frequently and in a structured way. Journalling with prompts is a good way to learn this; speaking out loud about your day and listening back or hosting/joining a safe space whereby you can all discuss your feelings and your concerns freely and constructively. The point of a healthy reflective practice is to be able to critically and objectively check in with yourself without belittling and deconstructing yourself and chipping away at your self confidence. Reflection, when done correctly, is empowering and soothing.

During these times, I find it essential to reconnect with my coach and external supervisor to gain perspective and support. Their guidance helps me navigate through the challenges I face and boosts my self-confidence. By discussing the event openly with them, I not only receive valuable feedback but also feel reassured that I have a strong support system behind me. This enables me to process my feelings, learn from the experience, and move forward with renewed confidence and determination.

Don't shy away from feedback after a peer support setback. Trusted colleagues or mentors can offer fresh eyes and practical advice. View their input as a chance to learn, grow, and become a more effective supporter. It's not about your worth, it's about building confidence through continuous improvement.

I'm fortunate enough to work in an incredible environment surrounded by people who care. If I mess up, I KNOW for 100% certainty I can go to anybody I work with for correction or feedback and it will be honest but sincere. This is true for my Director, her supervisor, and even the CEO of my organization because they truly want to see us ALL succeed at our jobs and in LIFE!

Nelson Mandela's words inspire me as I strive to learn, adapt, and progress: "I never lose, I only win or learn." Foster a culture of reflective practice that is integrated into peer coaching and peer supervision sessions. Investigate whether any perceived "failures" stem from a lack of skills, knowledge, or resources, and take proactive measures to address these gaps. If upskilling is necessary, consider enrolling in workshops or formal education. For mentorship needs, pinpoint a mentor who you believe can provide the best support. Embrace these experiences as opportunities for growth. By cultivating a mindset centered on growth, resilience, and self-confidence, you can elevate your performance and excel in various aspects of your life.

Feedback fuels confidence. Learn from it, adapt your approach, and watch your self-doubt transform into strength. You've got this!

Don't neglect self-care! Recharge with activities you love - a walk, a chat with friends - to build resilience and stay positive as a peer supporter. You're at your best when you take care of yourself.

First things first, repeat after me: I matter. I deserve kindness. Self-Care is a necessity not a luxury. You cannot pour into someone else's cup if your own is empty. It is absolutely and categorically vital, to undeservedly ensure your needs are met before meet the needs of others. Selfishness is not inherently a bad thing when used correctly. Selfishness lends towards selflessness, and means that when you are able to give your time and energy towards something or someone, it is a positive experience and not one that drains you and leaves you feeling resentment. Imagine you have 4 batteries labelled: Physical, Emotional, Mental and Social. Now reflect on them and what drains them & what recharges them. It'll just click!

After a unfavorable encounter, practice positive self-talk and affirmations to counter any negative thoughts that may emerge. Surround yourself with supportive and encouraging people who believe in your abilities and push you to be your best self. Remember to celebrate the successes you have obtained previously, no matter how small, and learn from the current setbacks to develop greater resilience.

1. Acknowledge Emotions: Recognize feelings of self-doubt but don't dwell on them. 2. Reflect and Learn: Analyze what went wrong and how to improve. 3. Plan for Growth: Develop strategies based on lessons learned. 4. Practice Self-Compassion: Treat yourself kindly during setbacks. 5. Celebrate Progress: Small victories build confidence; for instance, successfully applying new skills in a challenging peer support situation.

Move on, grow stronger. Lessons learned from setbacks fuel confidence. Step forward, a better peer supporter with each interaction.

After going through everything I have in life I never realized at the time why I suffered the way I did. It wasn't until I ended up in my career as a Veteran Peer Support Specialist at The Transition House did I find my purpose and calling in life. I understood why I suffered, and I truly don't mind anymore because all of my suffering is now being utilized to help others struggling like I once was for nearly a decade. On 03-January-2024, I celebrated 6 years of recovery.

When it comes to offering peer support to someone, remember your boundaries and the boundaries of the peer. Remember that the ending is just as important as the beginning, make sure you clearly define and agree on an end point. Remember to use motivational interviewing and always actively listen to what is being said. And remember to be kind. A kindness is something we sometimes take for granted. Kindness always wants to be shared, so by being kind, the person is more likely to pay forward this kindness to others. And remember to be kind and practice self-care. Kindnesses and care can very easily turn to resentment if we feel neglected. You matter too.