What do you do if your colleague's body language is hindering their public speaking?

One of the first things most people say after speaking is "how did that go" now is the time to be honest or make the time to say later today lets discuss it. You can only do this from your perspective and it isn't very often people ever get to watch themselves so point out the parts, the body language you felt let it down or didn't help with the message. Do it in a sensitive manner but be honest.

Be kind in your assessment. People often don't know they are doing a thing until you tell them. They may not know that they have body language that isn't conducive to the environment. Get their feedback ask them how they felt about the talk. Ask them if they would be open to feedback. We always want to give people advice that they haven't asked for. Make sure your colleague is open. Don't bombard them with too may "issues" at once, make sure that they are receptive then go from the there. The truth should never be offensive, but the deliver is usually what gets people in trouble.

Let's be honest, receiving criticism isn't pleasant; accepting feedback can be tough. However, it's crucial to seek it from the right source. My recommendation? Record yourself during your talk or presentation and review it later with your coach who knows you, who tracks your progress. Having a trusted coach who understands your communication style is key. Stepping into the spotlight in front of an audience is deeply personal; it's not just about adjusting your posture or eliminating filler words. It's about finding your authentic voice. I strongly advise against asking for feedback from just anyone. If you speak frequently, consider investing in a "personal trainer" for your journey. And remember, enjoy the process! YOU'VE GOT THIS!

Personally I hate this role play approach but it is a very good way of becoming more confident and allowing others to mention all those small things you dont even know that you do. Do this in front of a group and try to get into the mindset of exactly how you would do it if you were at an event. It is useful to set ground rules and they are that anything that is said is based on good intentions. Which means nothing that is said is personal in any way.

As a young actor, I've seen directors scold actors for asking other cast members for acting tips. Once, during "Little Shop of Horrors" rehearsal, our director stopped everything and said to the actor who was getting feedback from the other actor: "Ask me if you have questions. He does not know what I am looking for in you. Unless he is the director, you cannot ask your fellow cast for feedback. I am the one who is authorized to tell you what to do." He was right.. Being on stage requires a process. You can use friends to make you nervous so you practice controlling your nerves but remember, unless it's coming from YOUR director, other feedback might not help you shine on stages. And you deserve to step in your POWER!

All top speakers and paid speakers have been videoed and their performance honed to the person you see. Don't be afraid to watch yourself on screen and critique yourself. This can cost thousands in the corporate world but they will tell you little that you cant see for yourself or that will be mentioned by others.

Learning from other professional speakers is one of the best ways to grow. Observing their delivery and how they incorporate body language, movement, facial expressions, and visuals can offer new techniques. It can show you new ways to present when speaking.

Yes Yes Yes!! I couldn't stress this enough! If you find yourself giving numerous talks or passing up opportunities, consider investing in a "personal trainer/coach" to help you unlock your potential, magnify "CHARISMA,". This shift will take you from just surviving another nerve-wracking moment on stage to inspiring, impacting, and influencing crowds! But remember, this transformation requires time and a skilled "excavator" to discover the treasures within you. While great coaches may come with a price tag, consider what staying in your comfort zone is costing you in both your personal and professional life. Become the magnetic force you were meant to be on stage! Boring is taken....:-) YOU'VE GOT THIS!