What do you do if your boss is resistant to building a positive relationship?

If my boss is resistant to building a positive relationship, I would first try to understand the reasons behind their reluctance. Using motivational interviewing techniques, I would engage in open-ended conversations to explore their concerns and perspectives. I would actively listen to their feedback and seek to empathize with their viewpoint. Additionally, I would focus on demonstrating professionalism, reliability, and a commitment to achieving shared goals. By consistently delivering high-quality work and maintaining open communication, I would strive to gradually build trust and rapport with my boss over time. If necessary, I would also seek feedback from colleagues or mentors on how to navigate the relationship effectively.

If your boss is resistant to building a positive relationship, try to understand their perspective and concerns. Be proactive in showing your dedication and willingness to collaborate. Seek opportunities to communicate openly and respectfully about your goals and ideas. Offer support and assistance where you can, demonstrating your value to the team. If necessary, consider seeking guidance from a mentor or HR to navigate the situation constructively.

To navigate this challenge, one can focus on personal growth and alignment with professional values. Reflect on goals independently, considering how they contribute to the company's vision. Seek feedback from peers or mentors for perspective and develop a proactive approach to communication and collaboration. Consistent professionalism and dedication can gradually influence a positive shift in the boss-employee dynamic.

I always leave nothing to the imagination. If I were in their shoes, I ask myself WHY they feel the way they do? WHY are they hesitant? What has happened in the past. I think it’s important to let people see your sincerity because people like me can see straight through non sense. I think letting them know that you are creating a safe space but it is up to them if they want to use and I will respect their decision. Occasionally, people are weary of those that have strong personalities or of people that have a higher drive than most, for some reason it’s intimidating to some. It’s very important for me to create a safe space for not just my superiors, but any coworker. I am a nurturer/leader by nature so trust is a top priority.

This is huge. Empathy = finding a way to relate and make them understand that you TRULY understand or are compassionate about someone’s feelings or what they are going through. Understanding and acceptance is what builds a solid foundation to any work relationship along with trust and it’s crucial that both parties work on this but someone always has to be the first to make the leap.