What do you do if you receive feedback that contradicts your own beliefs?

To receive this kind of feed-back doesn’t mean you’re mean or acting really bad. It’s a special occasion to improve your skills throught personal growth. Remain still and just try to control your emotions.

Having an established grounding and centering practice can be a big asset when facing confusing or challenging feedback. These practices not only help stabilize your nervous system-- preventing stress or trauma responses like fight, flight or freeze--but also enable you to consciously choose calm and constructive actions. This mental steadiness can transform feedback into a stepping stone for personal growth rather than a potentially unsettling situation.

With feedback you always have a couple of choices. First is to listen to it or not - Do you respect and value the opinion of the person giving feedback? The second is to act on it or not. Beliefs are what you hold to be true at any one point in time. So they can be changed. In fact it’s really good to challenge your own beliefs occasionally - sometimes we don’t know why we hold them. A default because your parents did perhaps!

Being able to know your emotional state, i.e. which state you go to when you get triggered, will help you to change this state and stay calm. Before responding, try to calm your breathing and stay grounded, in order to create the space to process the feedback. This takes practice!

I believe in receiving feedback, even if it goes against my beliefs. When faced with conflicting perspectives, I listen actively, reflect, and look for clarity. It's a chance to learn and grow, evaluating feedback while staying true to my values. I appreciate the opportunity to grow and improve, ultimately moving forward with a better understanding :)

The second step is to deeply think about it. What can I do to follow up feed-backs I receive ? That's the main frame and no shame, You just need to identify what sound deeply true. Most of the time, people develop a vision toward you that can be completely different of your proper picture of yourself. You need to consider that all the same. The relationship are not on a "one way" type. That's the main truth you need to consider to expand you mind and progress as a complete human being

Even if you may disagree with the feedback, try to take some time to reflect on it, alone or with others. Where does this other person come from, what is their feedback based on and what can you learn from this? Trying to come from a place of empathy can help you increase your self-awareness.

Clarity is the key. That's go by taking some time for yourself and experiencing the lonelyness. Adress your proper self to ask him deep questions and you'll clearly see where the truth about all that is. That's the hack most of highly successfully persons use : The power of silence. I discovered it toward my readings. Reading is my favourite passtime. Reading is good for you. Expand your mind toward it and you won't worry about anything but improving yourself constently. That's mainly and definitely the growth mindset. Activate it

Sometimes it takes some time to process feedback. That's OK - if you need clarification, you can ask for it and engage in a dialogue. Try to understand the other person's perspective while sharing yours (ideally with I-statements). Clarification can help to see if you really understood the feedback, or if you started to imply things.

Evaluate the feedback and also step back and examine your beliefs from the other point of view. Now if the feedback contradicts your VALUES, that's another thing, but be open to feedback and look at it as an opportunity to learn from another angle. Perhaps the feedback ultimately aligns with your overall goal. Regardless, don't negate feedback immediately because it initially contradicts your beliefs. Be open and willing to understand and learn. That's how you grow.

If the feedback truly contradicts your values, try to analyse if it makes sense staying in the situation and objective evaluate why it contradicts your values. Again, asking some trusted people around you to analyse the feedback with you can be a helpful starting point.

I find it helpful to see feedback as a ‘piece of evidence’ and remember that it is always coming through the lens of that person. There is no inherent ‘truth’ only each persons interpretation through their own lens (with their own bias). Once you’ve looked at the feedback through this curious lens I like to ask myself is there anything I can learn from this for the future? Once I have this answer I make a point of letting the rest go

At last, you just have to consider that : -The way you see the world can possibly be incorrect -The best way to learn is to try and fail sometimes -Feed-backs are really important because they help you to consider different perspectives. That’s the best way to be open-minded.

Al enfrentarse a un feedback que choca con nuestras creencias, es fundamental abrirse a la posibilidad de crecimiento personal. Considerar tal feedback como una oportunidad para comprender diferentes perspectivas puede enriquecer nuestro propio marco de pensamiento y potencialmente revelar sesgos o áreas de ignorancia. Mantener una actitud de aprendizaje continuo y curiosidad puede ser más valioso a largo plazo que defender ciegamente nuestras creencias actuales. Un coach o un mentor pueden ser útiles en estos casos para facilitar la introspección y ayudar a integrar los comentarios de una manera que fomente el desarrollo personal y profesional así como exponer nuestras creencias limitantes.