How do you talk to parents about de-escalation?

When someone is de-escalated, the logic part of the brain is not functioning. There is no reasoning with someone at that state (think of a child throwing a tantrum). It is unlikely that there will be any coming to terms while in that space. Oftentimes, it is likely that continuing to engage will lead to a reaction that only further escalates the situation. When someone is de-escalated, it is important to avoid a power struggle. Disengaging and removing oneself can prove very useful until the other party is ready to address the issue.

One thing I found helpful is to use a low arousal tone. When I speak with clients about a difficult subject I try and keep my tone very neutral, yet emphatic. I have found that many of my clients, albeit they might be very emotional, will model this tone and then the conversation seems to be calmer and we can find more solution-based strategies and compromise within their situation.

It's helpful to remember that the same skills parents are taught to use with their children are the ones to use with the parents. Acknowledging, validating, gently asking for clarity (Please tell me more, OR, What do you want me to know about this?)

Talking to parents about de-escalation can be an important and sensitive conversation, especially if you're discussing strategies for managing difficult behaviors or conflicts with their children. Here are some steps to aid this approach: Choose the Right Time and Place Be Prepared Show Empathy and Understanding Use "I" Statements Share Information Encourage Open Communication Offer Support Highlight Positive Outcomes Be Patient and Respectful Follow Up Every parent and family is unique, and what works for one may not work for another. The key is to approach the conversation with empathy, understanding, and a willingness to support them on their parenting journey.

Always remember that a parent's anger is usually about them and their child, and less about you. They are struggling with frustration, powerlessness, and potentially broken dreams about their child's future. As the parent of a child who struggled and made some dangerous choices, I now know that it was my own fear that caused me to feel frustrated with teachers and guidance. They were showing me things I didn't want to see. Always keep in mind that a parent can be suffering because there are things going on that are out of their control. Be kind as you talk about difficult issues.

Sometimes kids are not mature enough to to think and manage such situation. I am releasing a collection of short stories primarily based on “ child’s perspectives on Parenting and parental responses and handling” . It is also based on my own experiences and my observations. Book Delicate Darlings. Let me know if we can connect to further discuss if interested.

It is very easy to get caught in a power struggle while in a disagreement. Someone may say something so vulgar and/or insult us that we feel threatened. Engaging with a curious mind is important (but difficult). That means to not taking an interaction personal, but being attentive with a curious approach. In order to do this, one must be objective and non-judgmental. Pausing, and then asking oneself about what it is and why it is that this person is acting in this way. That allows the space to approach the situation empathically.