There is no definitive way to measure relationships, but there are some popular methods and tools you can use. Surveys and questionnaires are standardized instruments that ask you to rate or answer various aspects of your relationships, such as satisfaction, trust, intimacy, communication, conflict, etc. Interviews and conversations are more qualitative and personal ways to measure your relationships. Observations and behaviors are more objective and observable ways to measure your relationships, where you look at the actions and reactions of yourself and your partner. Examples of these methods include the Relationship Assessment Scale, the Trust Scale, the Intimacy Scale, the Communication Patterns Questionnaire, the Gottman Love Map, the Five Love Languages, the Life Story Interview, the Appreciative Inquiry, the Facial Action Coding System, the Nonverbal Immediacy Scale, the Interaction Process Analysis, and the Behavioral Exchange Analysis.