How do you identify your weak interpersonal skills?

Identifying your weak interpersonal skills involves self-awareness, reflection, feedback from others, and a willingness to improve. Here's a step-by-step approach to understand your weaker interpersonal skills: Self-Reflection: Take time to think about your interactions with others and your communication style. Feedback from Others: Reach out to people you trust and ask for honest feedback about your interpersonal skills. Observe Reactions: Pay attention to how people react to your communication and interactions. Take Online Assessments: There are several online assessments and quizzes designed to evaluate interpersonal skills. Everyone has areas they can improve upon, and recognizing your weaknesses is the first step towards growth.

Pay attention to how you interact with others in different social settings or at work. Enjoy the conversations but make sure you take note how you felt during the duration of those interactions. If at any point you felt uncomfortable or had a hard time connecting with people. Then you have work to do, because these instances are areas that you need to improve.

This is not an easy exercise. Admitting to yourself that you're not a rock star with every interpersonal skill is difficult. One idea to make this a little easier is to start with a list. If you Google "interpersonal skills" you'll see tons of lists. Gather up the interpersonal skills that appear the most. Then go through the list and identify what skills need some work. No one else needs to see this. You get to be honest with yourself. Worry about what all of this says about you, or what it "means," or how you feel about it later. Just circle the "needs work" ones. This is where you start.

This is where vulnerabilities show up. However, learning from feedback on how you come across is so valuable. Truly this applies to parenting as well. Being present with how others perceive you may help you grow into a stronger leader.

One of the important things to consider when taking action on developing social skills is "Which action steps will lead me to develop not only skills, but confidence along with them?" One of the best ways to develop confidence is setting small goals and then following through on them. This shows us we can trust ourselves and that we're capable of attaining our goals, which is so important if interpersonal communication makes us anxious or nervous. Is taking a class going to boost your skills and confidence more? Or is setting up small interactions with others where we can face anxiety in a controlled environment a better way to approach building skills AND confidence? The answer is different for everyone!

Take some time to reflect on your interactions with others. Consider times when you felt challenged, misunderstood, or frustrated. What were the specific circumstances of these interactions? What behaviors or communication patterns did you struggle with?