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How do you break rapport with a mentor or mentee who is no longer helpful or supportive?

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Relationship building is a key skill for personal and professional growth, but sometimes you may find yourself in a situation where a mentor or mentee relationship is no longer serving you well. Maybe you have outgrown their guidance, or they have become too demanding, critical, or distant. How do you break rapport with a mentor or mentee who is no longer helpful or supportive, without burning bridges or hurting feelings? Here are some tips to help you navigate this delicate process.

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1 Acknowledge the change

The first step is to acknowledge that the relationship has changed and that you need to adjust your expectations and boundaries accordingly. You can do this by having a honest and respectful conversation with your mentor or mentee, where you express your gratitude for their past support, but also share your current goals, challenges, and needs. You can also explain how you feel the relationship is not meeting those needs anymore, and what you would like to change or end.

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Jeffrey J. Meyer

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It is important to realize there is a beginning and an ending to a successful mentoring relationship. To a mentee you are there to help them identify and overcome obstacles most often not seen by them. Through your knowledge and experience you see these patterns clearly. Successful mentors will not point these out right away but by listening help them to see this for themselves. This is the beginning of transformational change. If successful and they are willing it becomes a shared honest, non-judgemental experience. Once they begin to repeat that which you have taught back to you it is the beginning of unraveling another level of success personally and professionally. You will know along the way when your help is no longer needed.

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Kinga Vajda

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Here are some tips for a Mentee (wishing to end a relationship) with a Mentor: - Be genuine in your appreciation for what that mentor has given you. Even if the mentor wasn't a good fit, find the impact, value, or at minimum, time and energy they provided you. Assume they meant well and be grateful that they act as a champion for you. - If that person is not meeting your needs due to logistical concerns, you can highlight the progress tracking and how it's impeding your ability to move at the pace you need. They will adjust, or understand. - If that person is not meeting your needs due to a bad fit, they probably sense it too. Open the conversation by focusing on what you're trying to accomplish and what your needs are to get there.

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2 Negotiate a new agreement

The second step is to negotiate a new agreement with your mentor or mentee, based on what you both want and can offer. You may decide to reduce the frequency or duration of your interactions, to focus on specific topics or projects, or to end the relationship altogether. Whatever you choose, make sure you are clear and consistent about your expectations and commitments, and that you respect each other's time and energy. You can also agree on how to communicate and follow up with each other, and how to handle any potential conflicts or issues.

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Neil Tucker

Health Education Maverick, Key Note Speaker, Savvy Presenter, EMT, Contact Coach working in the Overdose Prevention and Recovery Wellness space, Qigong Practioner and body mind development champion.
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The time to clarify goals is in the beginning. Setting expectations and goals that are achievable, measurable and morally and ethically right. My best mentor/mentee have always recognized the mutual humanity and the potential for healthy disappointments. Life can happen and the parameters and scope can creep to distortion. However with a reasonable framing of vulnerability and human limitations the disappointment and changes in roles is easier to handle.

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3 Maintain a positive tone

The third step is to maintain a positive tone throughout the process of breaking rapport, and to avoid any negative or personal attacks. You can do this by using constructive feedback, expressing appreciation, and acknowledging achievements. You can also avoid blaming, criticizing, or judging your mentor or mentee, and instead focus on the facts and the outcomes. You can also use humor, empathy, and compliments to lighten the mood and show respect.

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Kinga Vajda

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Be compassionate, empathetic and authentically appreciative for someone's time. If we truly listen, we learn from every conversation. Even if you aren't getting exactly what you thought you were going to out of the relationship when you went into it... that doesn't mean you can't get something great out of it. There is no reason for you both not to walk away as friends and advocates for one another in the end. Keep that as your ultimate goal. Keeping that in mind will ease tension and remove some of the pressure.

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4 Seek other sources of support

The fourth step is to seek other sources of support for your personal and professional development, and to diversify your network. You can do this by reaching out to other mentors or mentees, joining communities or groups, taking courses or workshops, reading books or articles, or finding a coach or a counselor. You can also ask for referrals or recommendations from your current or former mentor or mentee, if appropriate. You can also keep in touch with them, if you wish, and update them on your progress and achievements.

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5 Learn from the experience

The fifth step is to learn from the experience of breaking rapport with a mentor or mentee, and to use it as an opportunity for growth. You can do this by reflecting on what worked and what didn't, what you gained and what you lost, what you liked and what you disliked, and what you would do differently next time. You can also identify your strengths and weaknesses, your values and preferences, and your goals and aspirations. You can also celebrate your successes and acknowledge your challenges, and appreciate the role that your mentor or mentee played in your journey.

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6 Move on with confidence

The final step is to move on with confidence, and to embrace the new possibilities and opportunities that await you. You can do this by applying what you learned, pursuing your passions, and challenging yourself. You can also be open to new relationships, and to giving and receiving support from others. You can also be proud of yourself for handling the situation with grace and professionalism, and for taking charge of your own development.

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7 Here’s what else to consider

This is a space to share examples, stories, or insights that don’t fit into any of the previous sections. What else would you like to add?

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