How can you seek constructive feedback and overcome fear?

Constructive Feedback: 1. Opens up opportunities for learning. 2. It helps increase your self-awareness by giving you an external perspective on your actions and behavior. 3.By understanding what you are doing well and where you can improve, you can focus your efforts more effectively. And actively seeking constructive feedback signals to others that you are proactive about your development.

Feedback allows you to see things you may not have seen. Trusted colleagues will bring different perspectives and this may help you grow your skills and become better at what you do.

Constructive feedback is a type of feedback that helps us improve our performance, skills, and behaviour. It is not about finding faults or criticising, but about providing honest, specific, and actionable suggestions for improvement. By seeking constructive feedback, we can learn from our mistakes, identify our strengths, and achieve our goals. Constructive feedback also fosters a culture of continuous learning and growth, showing that we are open to feedback and willing to improve ourselves. Seeking constructive feedback is a sign of professionalism, self-awareness, and confidence. It is more forward-looking than judging and labelling what has happened in the past.

Le feedback peut se structurer à travers de outils (360°) ou des méthodes (rétrospective). On peut se former à la fois pour réaliser un feedback ou pour l'accueillir. Le risque c'est de confondre le commentaire constructif et la bienséance. Le commentaire constructif implique de la prise de recul émotionnelle.

We all see and experience the world from our own unique lens, and we may be unaware of certain things that we can improve. Seeking constructive feedback from a mentor or trusted colleague helps you increase your self-awareness.

When I first started my career, I was terrified of negative feedback. But then, a mentor suggested I take the initiative in asking for feedback. Not only did I learn and improve more quickly, but my colleagues appreciated my openness and eagerness to grow. It showed them I was committed to doing excellent work.

Seek out a mentor or a trusted colleague who you respect. Let them know that you're working on growing XYZ, and ask them what you could do to make that better. If XYZ is public speaking, then ask them after a presentation that you give what their feedback is about your speaking, and if there's small things that you can improve.

Not every piece of feedback we receive is constructive nor is it actionable, yet sometimes, we hold on to feedback for years, giving it more power than it deserves. Useful feedback comes from a place of wanting to help you improve, and it is actionable. This is the stuff we want to pay attention to. In my opinion the best way to seek constructive feedback is to be specific in your request. You can improve the quality of the feedback you receive by working on the quality of your request. Be specific about the focus of your feedback and ask for supporting observations. This gives you something you can work with and then you can focus on your progress.

Seeking feedback is a delicate dance—one that requires both courage and humility. Whether it's positive or constructive, feedback can be a powerful tool for growth and development. Some aspects that has helped me in the past: 1. Choose Your Feedback Partners Wisely: - Seek feedback from individuals whose intentions you trust and who have a relevant perspective. 2. Be Specific in Your Requests 3. Mindset Matters: - When receiving feedback, start with gratitude. - Refrain from defensiveness or immediately explaining yourself. Instead, listen actively and absorb the feedback. 4. Regular Cadence and Forward-Looking Approach 5. Remember: Feedback ≠ Identity: - Use it as a tool for growth, but don't let it shape your self-worth.

On obtient facilement des commentaires constructifs à chaque fin de sprint par des mini rétrospectives. l'idée c'est que chacun s'exprime sans attendre la fin du projet, cela fédère une dynamique d'amélioration continue

You can recognise a "threatening" situation where you are feeling an emotional surge - mind and body are sending danger or panic signals. It feels safer to lash out, retreat or step back, or no response is forthcoming. These are some signs to recognise that your fight, flight or freeze response is being activated in your body. The feedback is being perceived as dangerous or risky. It might be accompanied by a stream of thoughts comprising worst predictions or outcomes. Step 1: Calm the emotional upheaval. some ways that you can do that are breath focus, labelling your thoughts. Step 2: check if the emotional levels feel more manageable. Step 3: Make a note of thoughts that you are thinking and realistic levels of those thoughts.

We all have fears. The best way to overcome fear is to take little risks every day towards it. Start saying "yes" to things that scare you. You may not be perfect the first time around but you will have faced your fear!

When we experience fear we misinterpret the message. Fear does not mean stop, it means slow down, assess, decide if this is the right approach and then proceed. We think that fear will go away but it will be a constant companion as we grow. Fear dissolves when we take action! We can let it come along for the ride, but don't let it take the wheel and drive.

This thing that we are scared of, what is the absolute worst that can happen? How bad can it actually be ? Unless of course we consider the reverberating fear that happens between our ears… I work with people to strengthen their mental fitness practice. When it comes to bang for buck for time, effort and expense, the most powerful part of a practice to build resilience and toughen up for adversity, our immune system and our metabolism is have a cold shower. People get petrified. They literally refused to do it. But what is the worst thing that can happen? They get a little bit chilly. ““WE ARE MORE OFTEN FRIGHTENED THAN HURT; AND WE SUFFER MORE IN IMAGINATION THAN IN REALITY.” - Seneca

Constructive feedback from others is vital for growth. But for those who are externally validated, and who rely on others to feel good about themselves, it’s just as important (if not more so) to nurture your own constructive self-talk. So learn to give yourself constructive feedback too!

Cultivating a growth mindset and working towards your goal, even just a little bit, is a sure way to get you to where you want to go. When you seek feedback from trusted people, you can recognize your strengths and work on your weaknesses.

Here's the two-step for building confidence: 1.) Refine Your Skills: Embrace constructive feedback as a way to identify your strengths and weaknesses. Appreciating your achievements and efforts builds self-belief 2.) Conquering the Fear: Fear can be paralysing, but overcoming it allows you to take on new challenges. Emerging stronger from difficult situations builds confidence.

As someone who has struggled with anxiety and impostor syndrome at various points throughout my career, I've found that my imagination is far darker than reality. I would prefer to have constructive feedback and know exactly where I stand than to not have that information and wonder what my manager is thinking. The temporary discomfort that comes with having the conversation is far better than the ongoing discomfort that comes with not knowing. And, once you have the feedback, you can begin to develop an action plan to address it, which gives you a greater sense of control.

It's not a popular viewpoint, but we have become a bit soft. Yes I'm a martial artist but no, I am not military. I've been belted but not shot at! We've evolved from "keep calm and carry on....." (don't acknowledge your emotions) through to now we can cancel someone if their opinion differs from our own... Rather than step up to the plate, we send in a substitute; we complain rather than thinking about how we can fix a problem. The way to overcome fear? Keep introducing situations that scare you. The only way you can get good at that thing that you aren't good at? By practising in it or with it. Want the big job? Want the big bucks? Want to lead? Do the thing that would inspire you. Set the example that you would like to follow.

If you're aiming for growth, confronting your fears and seeking feedback is essential. It's an invaluable avenue for personal development and progress.

In my experience, we all lack confidence from time to time. Studies are showing that 70% of us experience imposter syndrome. When we understand that fear is normal and that we are not alone we can come to terms with it and even welcome fear as a sign that it's time for our next growth spurt.