How can you overcome work-related envy in your career?

Work-related envy can be the result of being hyperfocussed on how others are doing, making assumptions and stories about what this means for you, and undervaluing your own achievements and progress. Stay in your lane, keep deepening and broadening your knowledge, remind yourself of your learning goals, surround yourself with positive and uplifting influences, spend more time doing things you enjoy outside of work, nurture your relationships and your wellbeing, and remember: your value and worth as a human being do not depend on how well you perform in your career.

Desenvolva uma mentalidade de crescimento. Em vez de ver o sucesso dos outros como algo que o diminui, encare-o como uma fonte de inspira??o e aprendizado. Adote a mentalidade de que sempre é possível aprender e crescer, e que cada pessoa tem seu próprio ritmo de progresso. Busque oportunidades de desenvolvimento profissional, adquira novos conhecimentos e busque metas que estejam alinhadas aos seus próprios valores e interesses. Pratique a gratid?o pelo seu próprio progresso e conquistas. Em vez de comparar-se constantemente com os outros, concentre-se em reconhecer suas próprias realiza??es, por menores que sejam. A gratid?o nos ajuda a valorizar o que temos e a manter uma mentalidade positiva em rela??o ao trabalho.

Your inner critic is often the internalized voice of someone earlier in your childhood or youth-- a parent, teacher, coach, or authority figure who compared you to other people. Identify how much of this voice that causes you to envy other people actually represents you-- your values, priorities, and beliefs. What percentage of this envious feeling is actually yours versus coming from an inner critic voice that compares you to other people and makes you feel inadequate?

Learning is the key to success! Wherever you are, keep learning and polishing your skills, as at the end of the day, if you are a well-versed professional, no one can lash you out.

Work related envy could be the result of getting too emotionally attached to your job/boss/superiors, this could stem from previous trauma which has caused deep routed insecurity in you. When you feel yourself getting too emotionally attached/involved, it's important to take a step back and identify why you are feeling envy and what is making you feel this way. - do you feel under-appreciated? - do you feel threatened? - do you fear losing your job? Why do you feel this way and who is causing you to feel like this?

LOOKING OUTSIDE 1. You were hired for a reason. No HR office, or search committee wants to waste time, energy, or financial resources. They seek to offer the job to the best person, that candidate was you! 2. Your strengths are most likely different from your co-workers. A good supervisor, hires to fill gaps. You are that gap filler; be proud. LOOKING INSIDE 1. Envy comes from dissatisfaction. It may stem from conditions outside of the job. Reassess your overall health, home environment, finances, etc. Give these areas a grade. Any area not making your desired mark should be overhauled. 2. You've previously thrived under enacting specific patterns and tactics. Recall the rubric, and follow it again to achieve future success.

Fighting your inner critic is a very challenging but necessary part of positive growth and change to create "upward spirals" as opposed to the negative downward spirals of rumination of feelings of envy and resentment. Challenging negative self-defeating thoughts requires first separating from these negative thoughts, observing them without judgment, and then evaluating their validity based on objective facts.

Keep your stats and performance metrics updated. Be accountable to yourself on merit and challenge yourself to attain better results instead of focusing on what others are doing.

Write down a list of your skills, strengths and achievements and how these integrate into your current job. What do you bring to the table?

In my experience, only focusing on performance and updating your stats will make you stand out. So no matter how much opposition is out there and how toxic is the culture, your performance will void everything. If you have properly audited your stats and performance by yourself, then you can explain and express your feelings very confidently. Keep teaching others and try to mentor the team in motivational ways.

Don't internalize these feelings. If you haven't managed to work through them by making a list of your skills, strengths and achievements and how they contribute to your job then you might need to seek outside counsel on this. A neutral perspective can be very helpful in these situations.

I have absolutely fallen victim to envy in my career. It’s easy to look at others and say “I wish that were me” or even on the more toxic side “Why them and not me”. Taking a step back and reminding myself that every success journey is unique and I am not more or less deserving than others is key. In my current stage of my career journey, I choose to view others’ success as opportunity to learn and grow. If my colleague is having great success in a program similar to what I am working on, but I’m hitting roadblocks… I reach out and schedule a meeting to gain insight. I lean into their positive experience for insight rather than wallowing in the feeling of envy.

It's beneficial to have a 3 pronged philosophy to learning, or mentorship. 1. Be a mentor. 2. Be a mentee. 3. Have a peer mentor group. This approach can help foster selflessness and gratefulness. It's hard to be envious when those actions are at the forefront.

Be the leader who prefers to lead by doing and designating smartly not the manager who asks for results without directions. Try to pass on your hard experience as learning for other.

I too have experienced workplace envy in my career, I identified that it stemmed from insecurities which were not related to my job but rather to past trauma which was now manifesting itself in my current job. I seeked out mentors and asked for help to deal with these feelings. Observe your colleagues and notice what they do that causes your envy, is it valid? If yes, learn from them. If no, stop obsessing over it and focus on your job.

Communication is key and so is collaboration. Two is better than one. Acting on those feelings of envy can lead to isolation and loneliness within the workplace. Instead, reach out, build a relationship and form a collaboration with those colleagues.

Be a team player in order to groom yourself. Learning as a solo player can be unidirectional but teamwork can give a multi-directional perspective and better understanding. It can also help you to polish your leadership skills.

Focusing on ones own goal is a great way to achieve success, I have coached several leaders and managers and when it comes to them feeling envious or insecure, I often ask them to revisit where they were few years ago and what they had envisioned? Do they have next 5 year goal plan, if not, I get them to set it and work towards it.