How can you help your clients transcend their limitations?

Yes, I agree. I would go one step back and help my client see that they are limited by their own doing. I feel many of us either don't recognise that we are held back by limitations and /or we blame everything/ everyone around us, right? Acknowledgement and acceptance is key. Once the old patterns are identified, I will assist in identifying a new path, a new plan of action and also facilitate the mindset change that needs to take place with such a change. Change is inevitable and helping clients embrace change, has show such amazing results! Lastly and most importantly...implementation! All of this means very little if you don't implement, review and adjust.

I encourage people to apply the worldview of DecodeYou?? as a potentially valuable approach to understanding and addressing limitations. The worldview of DecodeYou?? states; everything that is causing a limitation today, has been a way of survival for our ancestors. We know that the subconscious mind is a repository of survival programs created from the beginning of human existence on the planet. Some of those programs are outdated for modern humans. A simple way to identify these outdated programs is by asking yourself: How is this limitation protecting me from a survival point of view? This can be a very insightful framework for therapeutic work and self-improvement.

You could provide some examples of how to understand where a limitation comes from, such as using the 5 Whys technique, which involves asking "why" five times to get to the core of the problem, using the ABCDE model, which involves identifying the activating event, belief, consequence, disputation, and effect of the limitation, or using the GROW model, which involves setting a goal, assessing the reality, exploring the options, and committing to an action plan.

All of our limitations are locked up in our beliefs. At a certain point in our lives, we accept ideas about who we are, what we deserve, and are capable of. Those ideas then control our perceptions behavior, and results. Becoming aware of those beliefs is key, The simple way is, to look at the situation and how it is now and write it out as you see it. That is a written statement of your belief. It will show you what you really think and give you the starting point for creating change.

In my coaching practice I utilize nomadic performance rewiring: 1. I start from the point of view clients are coming from a narrow perspective. This includes limitations, which are created by blocks or being stuck and can be because of past influences , beliefs or situations. 2. I apply the quote from Mongolia -‘Think Vastly, Act Narrowly’. This means observing, identifying and listening to the expansive horizon like nature, ie sea, desert, top of a mountain. Look from here you see all possibilities, opportunities , potentials, risks, threats From a Distance. 3. This done thru partnering with the client in storytelling, imagery, questions, journey - what you want is to create movement!! This shifts the block or limitation. -

I ask my clients to take a step back and look at their beliefs through a wider lens - are they really based on cold hard facts? Or is there a chance these narratives took on a life of their own based more on assumptions and interpretations than reality? Looking at it from different angles - how would their best friend describe this limitation? What would they tell thir child if they came to them with the same situation? What evidence is there? Sometimes just introducing some healthy skepticism starts to unravel the illusion of limitations. I may have them score their limiting belief on a scale of 1-10 in terms of it reflecting absolute truth. Often it's less certainty than imagined.

A great tool to use in challenging limiting beliefs is to use The table leg method. Think of your belief as a table top and the evidence that supports your belief is the table legs. You look at the evidence and make an assumption - a belief about it. As with a table if you knock the legs out from under it the belief will collapse. You do this by establishing doubt about your "so called" evidence or looking at your limiting beliefs in a different way. Then after you breakdown the old unwanted belief , that is holding you back from your true potential, you can start to identify new beliefs that are more empowering to you.

One way to help clients shift their mindsets away from any unhealthy thinking traps and limitation is asking powerful pivoting questions: “How is your current mindset helping you in this situation?” “What evidence is telling you that you will remain stuck in this limitation?” Trust me, clients will ponder and make powerful shifts.

We form our version of "normal" during our childhoods. So much of what we perceive to be a limitation is actually just in need of a mindset change. Challenge your client's mindsets with gentleness and compassion.

The more we confirm that there is some sort of limitation, the more we solidify its existence in our experience as just that. The more we see ourselves as limited, the more convincing evidence we will manifest of limitation. Pay attention to the words we use and the feeling we carry behind it. Redefine the situation and it conforms to your new definition ??

It's difficult for many people, especially those with ADHD to visualise things clearly in their head. Creating a visualisation board is great for that. Once the client can clearly see what they are trying to achieve in the future, it gives them a compelling vision to which they can emotionally attach. Without emotional attachment, it is much harder to stick to any long-term plan or transformation.

In Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, there is a chart known as the "Cost-Benefit Analysis." This chart comprises four columns: the first column is labeled "Negative Thought," the second is titled "Detriments of Embracing this Thought," the third is designated as "Advantages of Embracing this Thought," and the fourth column is marked as "Probable Result of Embracing the Thought." This chart assists individuals in assessing whether it is rational to succumb to negativity and endure its consequences or to break free from it for a more favorable outcome, as depicted by the chart they create themselves. This tool actually allows the clients to explore the benefits of transcending the limitation.

I have found that a gentle inquiry into the nature (and origin) of a limiting belief is helpful and necessary. Giving a client the opportunity to look at the result of continuing a negative thought pattern, and supporting them in crafting more beneficial and positive thoughts and beliefs. In my counseling work I use a combination of cognitive-behavioral therapy, self-compassion principles and mindfulness practices. Reframing takes time and patience. It's important to celebrate small wins along the way.

I like to get people to look past the how and focus on the goal, what about it feels good and the why behind it. By letting go of the "how", it allows them to dream more freely and really discover what they REALLY want in life.

If clients are able to overcome their limitations, their lives can be dramatically transformed. They will experience newfound freedom and independence, as they will no longer be held back by their constraints. They will be able to pursue their passions and goals without hindrance, leading to greater fulfillment and satisfaction. Overcoming limitations can also boost their confidence and self-esteem, as they prove to themselves and others that they can overcome obstacles. With this newfound empowerment, clients will be able to reach their full potential and live a more meaningful and fulfilling life.

Ongoing support can be great yet, to much reliance weakens the resolve as well. Being uncomfortable is the learning zone. What does it feel is another thing. All the processes you have suggested are great. May I suggest go into nature and allow nature to mentor you - open your senses - realize nature moves past limitations to grow and survive - nature does not have limitations it always finds a way to grow as that is their primary objective in life. Observing nature as your mirror brings calm, openess, clarity, kindness, and much more! Step into nature and do not limited by dirt, bugs, etc because that is what we have created inside of us metaphorically. Wh knows this best - nomads and indigenous people.

Our brains are programmed with a negativity bias, so support, perspective and celebration are essential elements of a great coaching relationship. Slowing things down and allowing the client to think, feel and discover new insights about themselves is so important. Most people are in a rush to "fix things" and move on, so as coaches we must encourage clients to embrace the growth journey and take things at a healthy pace.

Transcending a limitation is not a one-time event but a continuous process. It requires courage, commitment, and perseverance. You can support and encourage someone by acknowledging their efforts, validating their feelings, and celebrating their progress. You can also help them grow and improve by providing constructive feedback, coaching, or mentoring. Doing so can empower your clients to overcome their fears, embrace their challenges, and achieve their goals.

Often, all one needs is to have someone believe in them so they can be allowed to dream. Respect belief and encouragement through non-verbal cues, from facial expressions to the tone of our voice are powerful as the coachee picks up on these, sensing and feeling the honest pure belief coming from the coach. This is when they give themselves the permission to go beyond limitations.

It's of huge importance to support your clients as they break through their limitations. It can however, affect the self-esteem of individuals with ADHD when they feel like they've had too much help and not achieved things themselves. You have to strike the right balance with each person so they can experience their transformational journey without feeling as if they have been parented. Even if that means allowing them to make mistakes along the way. It's all part of the process.

A graph thoughtfully crafted to depict both their past and current states will undoubtedly bring them joy and infuse their celebration with genuine meaning. The coaches must exhibit creativity in presenting this information, as it will effectively convey their dedication to the clients and inspire the clients to take crucial steps for their own well-being.

Individuals with ADHD often face unique challenges and setbacks, and acknowledging their progress and growth can be incredibly motivating. In the realm of ADHD coaching, it's essential to recognise not just the tangible improvements but also the intangible ones – the boost in self-esteem, the improved executive functioning skills, and the overall increase in self-efficacy. These internal shifts are often the building blocks for lasting change. Additionally, maintaining a strong and supportive relationship with clients is crucial in helping them navigate the daily challenges associated with ADHD. Clients can thrive when we continue to provide guidance and encouragement to ensure they stay on the path of growth and development.

Celebrating every win and frequently looking back at progress is one of the most rewarding things about coaching. And it's so valuable to clients! There are wins all along the way to achieving a goal, yet we rarely take the time to celebrate each step. This is an empowering way to set clients up for sustained, lasting change and a more positive perspective.

Concrete actions lead to concrete results, which sometimes might mean little fails! The meaning of acting, however, says loads about who the person is and how much they are willing to explore new territory. I say we help them "give a promotion" to their vitories; what I'm saying is frame each victory as something bigger and more important.

As coaches, it is important to celebrate our clients' transformations in various ways. We can acknowledge and commend our clients' hard work and dedication towards their goals. Whether it's through a heartfelt conversation, a personalized note, or a public shoutout, we ensure our clients feel recognized and appreciated for their progress. Another step may be to organize special events or gatherings to commemorate our clients' achievements and provide an opportunity for them to reflect on their journey. These celebrations serve as a reminder of the positive impact coaching has had on our clients' lives.

Helping clients transcend their limitations is at the heart of our journey as coaches. It's a delicate dance of understanding their unique struggles and guiding them towards a more empowered path. I find that creating a safe, non-judgmental space for them to explore and challenge their beliefs is key. Many times, these beliefs have been developed at a very early age. It's important to first find out the limiting beliefs, understand where they are coming from, and in what good or bad manner they have contributed to the client's life. The process of releasing the limitations needs to be gentle. Nurturing self-compassion and celebrating small victories can be incredibly transformative.

In my coaching programs my intention is that a person just drops one limitation a day so in total 365 limitations in a year. This is the only thing that is the barrier to success. Coaching helps you to get a lot of clarity around clutter. I prefer silence and that is silencing of mind. It will work 70-80%. I was very captivated by a conference some years back when I heard my professor says they talk for 3 days non-stop. It was intriguing but what it does is you are vomiting out all thoughts by releasing them through talking. Once you are done talking you are empty and that is the silence that helps you raise the awareness. Once awareness is on then you are not too far away from spotting the limitations and knocking them down.

Definite Purpose. Intrinsic motivation and personal desire to achieve are often powered by a compelling reason ‘why.’ For example, why should I overcome, who am I now and who do I want to be.

In my experience, the biggest problem is not so much the limitation but being clear on what the client wants. A lot of time, clients are so busy getting things done and are so focused on how to serve others that they disconnect from their inner selves. In other words, the limitation is the lack of clarity on who they are and what they want. Once they realign on these, everything becomes a whole lot more doable.

Beliefs are not facts. They are the stories we tell ourselves, the narratives that shape our perceptions and actions. Some beliefs lift us higher, propelling us towards our goals, while others act as invisible chains, holding us back. These are what we call limiting beliefs. And the best way to address and challenge them holistically is start by being aware of them. There are so many layers involved and various exercises that clients can do: 1. Identifying the limiting beliefs 2. Challenging them 3 Reframing them But at the same time there is a lot of work goes hand in hand: - addressing self-talk and developing a positive mindset - stress management - emotional regulation - mindfulness, etc. It's never a one-size fits all approach.