How can you build resiliency for long-term success?

Based on a summary of what life has exposed me to, I will describe the word "resilience" in these few lines; Unpleasant occurrences are the ONLY igniting factors that add flesh to the word "RESILIENCE". So, "Resilience", being a success skill may NEVER be acquired without certain harsh experiences. Resilience like with infection, is the immunity a brave fellow acquires after a successful combat with certain debilitating issues. The resilience one acquires after a challenge, "MMM" becomes a reliable sponsor for the victory against recurring similar challenges; "M", "MMMM", "Mm", etc. My thoughts: 1. Be sensitive & keep track record of EVERYthing (tiny wins/failures) KNOW YOURSELF. 2. Keep modifying YOUrself, & strike better in 50yrs!

The first step in building resilience when it comes to long term success is to expect a bumpy ride, expect things not to be linear, don't expect perfection. Embracing a mindset of I will fail, learn from it and try again is what will ultimately get you there. When you identify what your strengths are, be mindful of not falling into trap of saying what you would like your strengths to be. External input would be really useful here to help you sense check what you have identified

The best way to identify your strengths is to take a notepad and a pen and go to a place that you find peaceful. This can be a beach, a cafe, a park etc. The main motive is to create an environment in which you can think without any distractions. Once you are there, think about the words people have used to describe you and start writing them down. Try to write at least 15-20 positive words about yourself. Kind, compassionate, teacher, mentor, educator, humble, honest etc. Use these words to create "I AM" statements and use these statements as your daily affirmations. These statements will help you define your self-worth and you won't be affected by what other people tell you.

The best way to identify your strengths is to do the following. 1. Ask yourself, what are my passions? 2. Ask 2 or 3 of your close friends individually about what they think are your strengths. 3. After that, do a self-assessment of the feedback you got. Once you're able to do the above you would be able to identify a couple of things you're naturally great at. As a young adult looking to find my way in life, I reached out to my mum and asked her what my strengths were and she informed me that as a child I was always looking to fix things that were broken or was always looking for solutions to problems. I later realized that I was a natural problem solver and having those conversations helped make the identification process seamless.

A growth mindset is one that says "I have the ability to learn" compared to a fixed mindset that believes we are born with certain skills and there's not much we can do about it. Often, we are stuck in a belief pattern that says "i'm not like this, i can't do that". When that happens, think of situations in which you have said the same, but ended up doing the opposite. If you think of the belief "i can't do that" as a table with 4 legs, every time you find an example in which that's not true, it's like knocking down a leg of that table. That creates the space to replace it with something else

No one learned to walk by never falling down. When little kids are learning to walk, they don't see falling down as a failure, or think that is shows something essentially wrong with them. They don't stop to reflect on having fallen. They simply get back up and try it again, confident that they'll eventually figure it out. Of course, they will fall. Of course they will! Falling down is not failing at walking. Falling down is just there, in the process of learning to walk. If you held yourself to standards of perfect handwriting when you started out, you wouldn't be able to write your name today. If you stopped trying after the first or 50th time you fell off a bike, you wouldn't be able to ride today. Fail bravely!

Adopting a growth mindset is something that everyone knows is important but not a priority in many people's lives. "Catching yourself in the moment" when you say negative statements about yourself is the best way to adopt a growth mindset. This process is tough and takes patience and continuous learning. Talking or associating with people who are in a position you want to be in the future is one of the best ways to develop a growth mindset. Reading books, listening to podcasts and attending personal growth conferences will also help you immensely.

Self-care is all about designing your life so that other people can't design it for you. Scheduling your time does not make you a robot but gives you more time to do the things that you like or love. Learn and start putting your daily or weekly tasks into your calendar. Create time slots for learning, exercising, meditating etc. Say NO to a lot of things and say YES to a few important things. Stop using the word "priorities" and start focusing on your priority, singular. Watch your life change direction once you design your own life.

We are constantly 'hypnotizing' ourselves: giving ourselves suggestions that we accept implicitly, about the world, our own capabilities, expectations, other people's reactions, and so on. Most of us set ourselves up for struggle, or worse. It may sound unbelievable to ourselves, but talk to yourself the way you would talk to your eight-year-old self. Tell them what you would tell an 8y.o. now, facing those same challenges then. Sit with them for a while if you need to. Then, when they're feeling better, empowered and confident, motivated for growth (not 'success' or 'victory' - but being able to face challenges and grow by them regardless of outcome)... THEN, ask them to tell YOU what you need to know/hear.

Think resilience is just about bouncing back? Think bigger. It's about seeing the whole game board, not just the immediate moves. To do so, you need to consider both external and internal challenges. → Externally, embrace optimism: In situations that you have no control over, you have to believe that your efforts will lead to your desired outcomes. → Internally, cultivate self-confidence: Trust in your ability to navigate challenges, whether it's a win or a loss. Tell yourself 'I will figure it out' and remember the times when you did. Remember, life is an infinite game and the goal is to keep playing. Don't dwell on momentary events; always focus on the long-term play. How are you strengthening your optimism and self-confidence?

I like to play the game of honeycomb to help change my perspective. Usually we see things just through one hole. If you move your head ever so slightly, you'll see something slightly different. Ask yourself, what else could this mean? What can this try to teach me? What can i learn from this experience? If i were not to feel x,y,z - how would i feel? What would i do different if i had the opportunity do to it again?

1?? View your life as an evolving unique story where challenges are crucial plot points that develop your character - It will help reframe setbacks as opportunities for growth . 2?? Develop emotional agility; the ability to fluidly shift between emotions rather than suppressing or fixating on them. Learn how to recognize and appropriately express these emotions, and consciously deciding how to respond to them. 3?? Get a diverse network of support system that includes people, hobbies, and personal practices. This diversification means you are not overly reliant on any single source of support, which strengthens your ability to bounce back from personal losses or changes. 4?? I am a believer in God, and it is my best coping mechanism.

Our mindsets and set of beliefs contribute to our level of resilience or mental agility. 3 mindsets to adopt to stay resilient: 1. Remember why you started, keep the vision/future in view. Be resolute about making the most of your existence! 2. Remember that you owe your success to people who believe in you! The people who have invested in you! 3. Remember that you are loved by God and he is watching over you. When it looks like you are falling(actually falling), his love gives you a reason to try again.

Professor Cary Cooper from Lancaster university suggests there are four components of resilience: Confidence, Purposefulness, Adaptability and Social Support. Working on each of these is therefore one means of increasing or maintaining resilience.