How can you accurately express your emotions?

On the personal front - accurately expressing emotions often involves using descriptive language, tone, and context. Sharing personal experiences, using metaphors, and providing examples can help convey feelings more effectively. Consider the situation and your relationship with the listener to tailor your expression appropriately. On the professional front: In a professional setting, express emotions tactfully by choosing appropriate moments, using neutral language, offering context, and focusing on solutions. Maintain a composed demeanor and active listening while being empathetic to others' feelings.

Build your emotional vocabulary. It's difficult to name emotions because feelings are experienced in a different part of the brain to our logical and verbal reasoning - limbic system vs cortex. To help build your vocabulary and understand the nuances, Google a comprehensive list of emotions and start by verbalising the nuances, rather than looking at general categories. For example, if you're feeling happy because something great just happened to you, ask yourself what is the more accurate emotion - excited? elated? passionate? joyful? at peace? Building a rich emotional vocabulary helps you build emotional intelligence and stronger connections with others.

I always turn to my teacher, Calvin D. Banyan, a renowned author of "The Secret Language of Feelings," to gain deep insights into the intricacies of emotions. In his book, Cal meticulously defines the true essence of emotions such as "anger," "sadness," "guilt," and "fear." Understanding these definitions becomes crucial, especially when working with clients. Often, individuals may express anger, but in reality, they label it as "frustration", which has a different meaning. This is just one example that showcases the significance of having a comprehensive grasp of the intricate language of emotions.

Be aware of the signals in your body and use them as an input. Our bodies react faster than our thoughts and can give us information on what is going on. Freeze/fight/flight, breathing, puls, constriction in the chest, butterflies in the stomach and others are all symptoms of underlying emotions and they can help us to recognize and regulate our emotions.

This is something we could do as babies and toddler before we were conditioned out of in the school systems. Being on the schedule of others really gets in the way of our ability to use your emotions for what they are, information. We store and retrieve from our long term memory with emotion. So they are closely linked to our ability to recall information relevant to the situations you are in (PTSD is a relevant example). Emotions are your sensing information letting you know you have done something similar or if you are in a new situation good ole anxiety shows up to help you focus. We need to know ourselves well and get enough downtime to be able to process our sensing data to really use our emotions as nature intended.

Through expressing our emotions in various ways we can communicate more effectively to others in addition to tapping into areas of our brains that lie dormant from our day-to-day routines. Often writing, singing, and art are great ways to communicate and express emotions! On the flip side others will connect and enjoy your creative outlet as they identify themselves in your emotional expressions.

Journaling, painting and writing are all wonderful ways to authentically express yourself. Perhaps you’ll find that you may even enjoy channeling your thoughts through using a certain process. This will also help to become more aware of your feelings subconsciously while you go about your daily tasks and activities or work. All this will encourage enthusiasm, empathy and understanding, especially when communicating spontaneously.

Expressing ourselves, whether it be through words, actions, or creative outlets, is crucial for emotional release. Personally, I find solace in confiding in my coaches, who possess expertise in helping me process and navigate through challenging situations. Additionally, I was privileged to participate in Mr. Larry Gilman's "Mastery of Self-Expression" program. Through this experience, I acquired invaluable techniques to effectively unravel and overcome emotional obstacles.

I don't choose my mode, it chooses me. We are born creative. But society has such stringent rules around what is acceptable it strips us of our knowing of self and the expression that comes with it. Creating is something we naturally do as humans. We must get rid of the thinking and feeling as separate acts and learn to use them as one. When you must embrace your emotions as a part of your thinking. You find your genius. Creativity comes from those novel connections that occur in your Long Term Memory or subconscious. Creative expression has no bounds. You can be creative in anything. Don't choose it as a single mode, choose it as a lifestyle. It's the best kind of lifestyle.

When we feel angry or afraid often communicating in an honest and respectful manner can be challenging as our brains go into protective mode or "fight or flight". Combat this automatic response by taking deep breaths giving your brain time to process what you truly want to say in a thoughtful and intelligent way even if the other person is not behaving respectfully. This is a challenge to learn but it is possible! Myself, my family, and many of my audience attendees are living proof! Breathe, think, then respond.

"Being present," a valuable lesson passed on by Larry Gilman, holds tremendous power when it comes to cultivating authenticity. But what does it mean to be present? It's quite simple — dedicating your complete focus and undivided attention to the person you're engaging with. This serves as the vital first step before delving into the articulation of emotions through spoken words. Picture a scenario where both you and the other person are consumed by anger. Emotions run high, while rational thinking takes a backseat. By being present, both parties elevate their cognitive abilities, avoiding the unfortunate sight of two individuals engaging in an unintelligent exchange (pardon the straightforwardness, but it's the truth).

The biggest oppressor of our emotions is our hierarchy. If we want to bring back creativity we need to stop allowing only those with power to be the ones who can express their emotions. Emotions provide context and understanding so you know how to navigate new situations. I am authentic. It is a part of intelligence and I didn't the a choice to be any other way. People don't know what to do with this. We are taught to fit in and do what others do to be acceptable. Being different is shamed. But this prevents you from finding your gifted space, the space that contains your true calling. Shoot for authentic. The rest will follow.

Try to place yourself in the other person's position. From that analysis you will know how to be best bring your concerns and perspective across without offending. Then ask them if there is anything that is unclear to them, always remain calm and avoid nit-picking unnecessarily. Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman is a good read.

Effective emotional expression is crucial in any interaction. Here are some key takeaways: ? Honesty is key: Be authentic and true to yourself when expressing emotions. ? Respect is vital: Consider the other person's feelings and show empathy. ? Use "I" statements: Express emotions from your perspective without blame. ? Active listening matters: Show you care by nodding, paraphrasing, and asking questions. By practicing honest and respectful emotional expression, you create a safe and empathetic space for effective communication and relationship-building. ????? #EffectiveCommunication #EmotionalIntelligence

It is also important to know your triggers and be aware when you are being triggered so that you can pause and take a breath before responding rather than a knee-jerk reaction which could be damaging to the relationship.

Put yourself in the other person's shoes and see how you would feel about your language intensity and word choices. Are your words and actions controlled and clear? Would you feel threatened or heightened in anger or fear listening to your own words? Sometimes it difficult to see things from someone else's perspective, but you will understand how important it is to think before you speak or act when you're viewing situations from someone else's shoes.

One thing I often do to myself and my students when they are trained on stage is to "breathe" and "blow." That is the most powerful thing we can do to manage our intensity when expressing emotions.

This question is biased against anyone who is highly sensitive and/or highly intelligent. This question represents our societal instilled oppression of its deepest thinkers. Our intensity of emotions is the indicator of how much our emotions are trying to tell us. My emotional intensity drive me from rooms because I need to stop the inputs I am taking in and process them. It gives me deep insight and novel connections. If we want to find our genius then you must go into our intensity and learn to use the information those strong emotions bring up. Trauma increases intensity. We are looking at a future with increasing trauma for everyone. We must learn use and manage that intensity not suppress it.

To help along with your words and tone, remember body language - it also gives away whether you are being dishonest or anxious or avoidant, etc. Use the 4-7-8 breathing technique if you feel like you are overwhelmed or becoming overwhelmed. Another good read is Joe Navarro's: "The Dictionary of Body Language".

This is simply mirroring. If you are a minority of any kind you are going to be damaged by mirroring from the majority that does not understand all the perspectives you have that they don't. We oppress those who are different with this thinking. Relationships are 50/50 not 10/90 with the 90 falling on the person in the lesser position. I think if it's your job to cultivate someone you should be doing the work to understand their perspective. Then they will seek feedback. I seek feedback all the time and I am disappointed at the lack of depth and understanding the other person gives me. They expect me to be like them. I am an outlier and I understand them. I work to understand them. They expect me to do that and do not return the courtesy.

In my experience it’s helpful to get feedback on how you’ve come across while speaking and expressing yourself and/or concerns. Just like body language can contribute; words and phrases chosen and the tone and speed can change the nature of how your message is received. Calm, slow down and speak clearly and choose whether you need firm words or soft spoken sentences; or else you may risk coming across as being arrogant, anxious or blindly disrespectful. Reflect on word choice as much as you do speed and tone and soon enough you’ll feel confident enough to spread awareness without spreading alarm or fear.

Improving our emotional intelligence means creating new neural pathways in our brains or "rewiring" our brains. Creating new habits take time so do not get discouraged when you experience setbacks in your emotional intelligence journey. I'm speaking from personal experience. Your first step is to acknowledge the need for improvement. The second step is to take time when you feel emotional, inventory the situation, and breathe before responding. Keep practicing, keep taking 5 to focus, and before you know it your high level emotional intelligence will be your default response!

Practicing expressing your emotions regularly can be a challenge, but it is worth it and will pay off long term. The benefits of expressing your emotions authentically in a healthy way can improve your mental health, emotional health, your relationships, and your overall quality of life.

In some instances, appropriately expressing one’s emotions can be intense if this is a new concept for someone. I would also add providing yourself “grace” to grow in this area which in hope minimizes some of the self-imposed pressure and allows you to first be vulnerable with yourself. Thus, providing the opportunity to learn and open up more.

On thing I have found helpful is being able to maintain flexibility in your day. Being able to take a moment is crucial for recognizing your emotions. Second to that having the social support in a safe environment to help gain perspective!

Both IQ and EQ are important for success in life. However, emotional intelligence is becoming increasingly recognised in the workplace. People with high EQ are better able to understand and manage their emotions, which can lead to improved communication, teamwork, and leadership skills. By developing your emotional intelligence, you can improve your overall quality of life.